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Archive for August 12th, 2013

THOUGHTS 5111 TO 5115

MY THOUGHTS 5111
SUGGESTION: BEFORE YOU START A NEW RELATIONSHIP, PLAY THE ROLE OF A REPORTER AND INTERVIEW ALL THE MEMBERS OF YOUR FAMILY WHO HAVE OR HAVE HAD RELATIONSHIPS. ASKED THEM THE SIMPLE REPORTER’S QUESTIONS OF WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, HOW, AND WHY ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS. IF YOU HAVE A POTENTIAL PARTNER, ASK THAT PERSON TO DO THE SAME WITH HIS/HER FAMILY. THEN COMPARE AND DISCUSS THE BASIC VALUES IN EACH OTHER’S FAMILY CONCERNING RELATIONSHIPS. AFTERWARDS, THE BOTH OF YOU CAN DECIDE WHICH VALUES OF BOTH FAMILIES YOU WISH TO KEEP FOR YOUR OWN FAMILY, AND WHICH VALUES YOU DO NOT WISH TO KEEP FROM BOTH FAMILIES. THUS, THE BOTH OF YOU CAN CREATE YOUR OWN FAMILY VALUES. HOWEVER, YOUR AGREED TO FAMILY VALUES SHOULD BE REVIEWED BY BOTH OF YOU ANNUALLY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5112
RELATIONSHIPS: WHEN YOU START A NEW RELATIONSHIP IT’S NOT JUST A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN TWO INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER. IT IS ALSO THE BLENDING OF THE VALUES BETWEEN THE TWO FAMILY SYSTEMS. EVEN WITHIN THE SAME CULTURE, SAME ETHNICITY, AND SAME FAITH THERE ARE DIFFERENCES IN HOW PEOPLE CELEBRATE THEIR HOLIDAYS AND RELATE TO EACH OTHER. THIS BLENDING OF THE VALUES OF THE TWO-FAMILY SYSTEMS IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR THE YOUNG COUPLE TO CREATE A BLENDED AND HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP. IF THEY DO NOT DO THIS IT MAY LEAD TO DISASTROUS SITUATIONS AND CONFLICTS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP BASED UPON THE DIFFERENCES IN EACH OTHER’S FAMILIES VALUES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5113
RELATIONSHIPS: YOU CANNOT LET YOUR PHYSICAL ATTRACTION FOR EACH OTHER BLIND YOU INTO NOT SEEING THE BASIC DIFFERENCE IN THE VALUES OF EACH INDIVIDUAL. YOU SHOULD HAVE SERIOUS DISCUSSIONS ABOUT THE DIFFERENCES IN YOUR VALUES AND CREATE A RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOUR VALUES ARE MUTUALLY COMPROMISING, AND WHERE THE DIFFERENCES IN YOUR VALUES ARE MUTUALLY RESPECTED. IF YOU CANNOT RESPECT EACH OTHER’S DIFFERENCES, THEN YOU ARE IN LUST, NOT IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER. IF THIS IS CLEARLY UNDERSTOOD, YOU HAVE THE CHOICE OF CONTINUING THE RELATIONSHIP OR ENDING THE RELATIONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5114
RELATIONSHIPS: THERE ARE VERY SIMPLE QUESTIONS, WHICH IF NOT DEALT WITH AT THE BEGINNING OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CAN EVENTUALLY DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP WHEN DIFFICULTIES ARISE. 1) HOW DO EACH OF YOU RELATE TO HEAT AND COLD? 2) DO YOU PREFER THE WINDOWS OPENED OR DO PREFER THE WINDOW CLOSED? 3) WHAT TIME DO YOU EAT YOUR FAMILY MEALS? 4) WHAT ARE YOUR PRECEPTS FOR RAISING CHILDREN? 5) HOW DO YOU CELEBRATE MUTUAL HOLIDAYS? 6) HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PETS, ESPECIALLY DOGS AND CATS? THESE QUESTIONS AND OTHER SIMILAR BASIC QUESTIONS MAY SEEM MINOR WHEN YOUR LOVE IS BLOOMING. HOWEVER, WHEN CONFLICTS BEGIN TO ARISE IN THE RELATIONSHIP THESE QUESTIONS CAN BE DISASTROUS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5115
RELATIONSHIPS: IF YOUR PARTNER IS STARTING TO OR HAS BEEN TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO INITIATE CHANGES IN HIS OR HER BEHAVIOR. IT MAY TAKE SOME TIME AND PATIENCE, BUT IT WOULD BE WORTH YOUR EFFORT IF SUCCESSFUL. IF NOT, SINCE YOU HAVE MADE THE EFFORT, IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON. EmilKoval©2013

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