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Archive for August 18th, 2013

THOUGHTS 5141 TO 5145

MY THOUGHTS 5141
PARENTING: WOE TO THE OVERPROTECTIVE PARENT WHOSE SUPEREGO OR WHOSE LOW SELF-ESTEEM WILL MAKE THEIR CHILDREN TOTALLY DEPENDENT UPON HER/HIM FOR DECISION-MAKING AND SURVIVAL. WOE TO THE OVERPROTECTED CHILDREN WHO HAVE BECOME TOTALLY DEPENDENT ON HIS/HER PARENT/PARENTS FOR THEIR SURVIVAL AND FOR THEIR DECISION-MAKING. OVERPROTECTIVE PARENTS WILL ASSURE A DIFFICULT LIFE FOR THEIR CHILDREN WHEN THOSE OVERPROTECTIVE PARENTS ARE NO LONGER HERE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5142
RELATIONSHIPS: PARENTS SHOULD MAINTAIN THE LOVE AND THE WARMTH IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND SPIRITUALLY. ESPECIALLY, IN THE PRESENCE OF THEIR CHILDREN, REMEMBER THAT PARENTS ARE THE ROLE MODELS OF HOW RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE WORKING.EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5143
RELATIONSHIPS: THE NORMAL PROCESS IS FOR TWO PEOPLE WHO FALL IN LOVE TO EVENTUALLY CREATE A FAMILY. EVENTUALLY, THOSE CHILDREN CAN PUT A STRAIN ON THE LOVE BETWEEN THE TWO PARTNERS. THE ROMANCE FROM THE RELATIONSHIP BEGINS TO DRAIN DUE TO CONFLICTS OVER FINANCES AND METHODS OF RAISING CHILDREN. THIS IS NOT THE FAULT OF THE CHILDREN. IT IS THE FAULT OF THE PARENTS. PARENTS SHOULD HAVE A PLAN BEFORE THEY HAVE CHILDREN. PART OF THAT PLAN SHOULD BE TO PROTECT THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE PARENTS. CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE A DRAIN ON THE RELATIONSHIP; CHILDREN SHOULD ENHANCE THE RELATIONSHIP. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5144
RELATIONSHIPS: IT IS IMPORTANT FOR PARENTS TO MAINTAIN THEIR INTIMACY THROUGH ALL THE TRIALS AND CONFLICTS THAT COME WITH HAVING CHILDREN. THOSE TRIALS AND CONFLICTS SHOULD STRENGTHEN THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND INCREASE THEIR SPIRITUAL GROWTH. THOSE TRIALS AND CONFLICTS SHOULD NOT WEAKEN ANY LOVING RELATIONSHIP. THE CONTROL OF THEIR INTIMACY IS ENTIRELY IN THE HANDS OF THE PARENTS. PARENTS SHOULD KNOW THEIR LIMITS AND THE LIMITS THAT THEIR CHILDREN HAVE. THEY SHOULD GIVE WHAT THEY CAN WHEN THEY CAN. WHEN THEY CANNOT, THEY SHOULD NOT SACRIFICE THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR PARTNER IN ORDER TO PLEASE THEIR CHILDREN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5145
SUGGESTION: AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH GIVE YOURSELF A VACATION FROM YOUR CHILDREN. IF YOU HAVE AN EXTENDED FAMILY, LET THEM STAY WITH THEM FOR THE WEEKEND. MEANWHILE, YOU AND YOUR PARTNER SHOULD ENJOY YOUR TOGETHERNESS AND REBUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY REPAIRING WHATEVER STRAINS IN THE RELATIONSHIP THAT WERE CAUSED BY CHILD-REARING. THIS SHOULD REFRESH YOUR RELATIONSHIP, REPAIR ANY DAMAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIP, AND GIVE YOUR CHILDREN A CHANCE TO APPRECIATE YOUR PRESENCE BY YOUR ABSENCE. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT ESCAPING FROM YOUR CHILDREN. WHEN YOU TAKE THIS ‘RE-GENERATIVE TIME’, YOU MAY BE ESCAPING FROM THEM. HOWEVER, THEY WILL ALSO BE ESCAPING FROM YOU. THIS ‘ESCAPING’ WILL ALLOW YOU AND YOUR PARTNER TO APPRECIATE EACH OTHER BETTER, AND IT WILL GIVE YOU AN OPPORTUNITY TO APPRECIATE YOUR CHILDREN MORE. EmilKoval©2013

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