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Archive for August 19th, 2013

THOUGHTS 5146 TO 5150

MY THOUGHTS 5146
PARABLES: MILAN WAS WATCHING ONE OF HIS FAVORITE SHOWS ONE NIGHT WHEN HIS TEENAGE SON CAME HOME UPSET. MILAN PUT THE SHOW ON RECORD, TURN OFF THE TELEVISION, AND TURNED TO LISTEN TO HIS SON’S CONCERNS. HIS SON TALK FOR AN HOUR, AND MILAN SAID ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. HE RESISTED THE IMPULSE TO INTERRUPT WITH SOLUTIONS AND FOCUSED ON JUST LISTENING. MILAN NOT ONLY LISTENED TO HIS SON’S PROBLEM; HE ALSO LISTENED TO THE VALUES THAT HIS SON WAS EXPRESSING. WHEN HIS SON WAS FINISHED, MILAN THANKED HIS SON FOR CONFIDING IN HIM AND TOLD HIM THAT HE WAS SO PROUD OF THE VALUES THAT HE HAD EXPRESSED. TOO MANY PARENTS TODAY TRY TO SOLVE THEIR CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS BEFORE FULLY LISTENING TO AND FULLY UNDERSTANDING THEIR CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5147
LESSONS: YOUR CHILDREN ARE YOUR GREATEST TEACHERS. OBSERVE THEM AND BE AWARE OF HOW THEY REACT TO YOU TO YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR ACTIONS. YOU WILL NOT ONLY LEARN MUCH ABOUT THEM, BUT YOU’LL ALSO LEARN MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5148
LISTENING: LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS MINDFULLY UNTIL THEY EXPLAINED THEM COMPLETELY. DO NOT TRY TO SOLVE THEM FOR THEM RIGHT AWAY. WHEN YOUR CHILDREN EXPLAIN THEIR PROBLEMS TO YOU WITHOUT YOUR INTERRUPTIONS, THEY MAY HAVE ALREADY FOUND THE SOLUTION TO THEIR OWN PROBLEMS WHILE EXPLAINING THEM TO YOU. YOU MAY HAVE TO DO NOTHING ELSE, BUT JUST LISTEN. THIS ALSO APPLIES TO YOUR SPOUSE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5149
PARENTING: WHEN YOUR CHILDREN LEAVE THE NEST, IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO REDISCOVER YOUR PARTNER SO THAT YOU CAN CONTINUE ON YOUR SPIRITUAL JOURNEY TOGETHER. THAT IS, IF YOU HAVE LOST CONTACT DUE TO RAISING CHILDREN. AS MINDFUL PARENTS, YOU WOULD HAVE MINDFULLY KEPT YOUR SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL CONNECTIONS WITH EACH OTHER WHILE RAISING YOUR CHILDREN. THUS, PRESENTING A GREAT ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR CHILDREN TO FOLLOW. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5150
SUGGESTIONS: HOW YOU INTRODUCE YOUR PARTNER TO SOMEONE SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. WHEN YOU SAY “THIS IS MY SPOUSE, _________!”, IT IS VERY DIFFERENT THAN SAYING “THIS IS _________, MY SPOUSE!” THE LATTER INDICATES THAT THE INDIVIDUAL IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE POSITION. IN THE FORMER THE POSITION IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE INDIVIDUAL. YES, IT IS A SUBTLE DIFFERENCE, BUT IT IS AN IMPORTANT PSYCHOLOGICAL DIFFERENCE. EmilKoval©2013

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