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MY THOUGHT 14361
QUESTION 5518: DO YOU CRITICIZE THE BAD BEHAVIOR OF SOMEONE, OR DO YOU CRITICIZE THAT SOMEONE FOR THEIR BAD BEHAVIOR? DO YOU UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE? EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 14362
QUESTION 5519: WHICH DO YOU THINK IS BETTER TO DO: CRITICIZE THE BAD BEHAVIOR OF SOMEONE, OR CRITICIZE THAT SOMEONE FOR THEIR BAD BEHAVIOR? EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 14363
QUESTION 5520: DO YOU CRITICIZE SOMEONE’S NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR TO HELP THEM LEARN AND GROW, OF DO YOU CRITICIZE THAT SOMEONE TO VENT YOUR ANGER OR FRUSTRATION? EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 14364
CRITICISM: WHEN YOU CRITICIZE THE WHOLE PERSON FOR A BAD BEHAVIOR YOU NEGLECT ALL THE POSITIVES OF THAT PERSON. IT IS IMPORTANT TO ADDRESS THE NEGATIVE OF THAT PERSON AND EMPHASIZE THE POSITIVE SIDES. WHEN YOU CRITICIZE THE WHOLE PERSON THERE IS NO SALVATION BECAUSE THAT PERSON WILL GO INTO DEFENSIVE MODE BLOCKING THE POSITIVE ASPECTS OF THAT PERSON. WHEN YOU POINT OUT THE NEGATIVES OF A PERSON YOU ALSO POINT OUT HER/HIS POSITIVE SIDES. BY DOING THIS YOU GIVE THEM THE CHOICE OF EMPHASIZING THEIR NEGATIVE SO THEY ARE POSITIVES. WHEN YOU CONDEMN THE WHOLE PERSON FOR A NEGATIVE, THE ONLY CHOICE HE/SHE HAS IS TO DEFEND HERSELF/HIMSELF FROM YOUR ATTACK ON HIS/HER WHOLE BEING. EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 14365
CRITICISM: WHEN YOU FEEL THE NEED TO CRITICIZE SOMEONE FOR A NEGATIVE ACTION, BE SURE TO CRITICIZE THE ACTION NOT THE PERSON IN GENERAL. EMPHASIZE ALSO THE POSITIVE ASPECTS OF THAT PURSE SO THAT THEY HAVE A CHOICE OF EMPHASIZING TO A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE SIDES. WHEN YOU CRITICIZE THE WHOLE PERSON FOR A NEGATIVE ACTION YOU ACTUALLY LIMIT YOUR CHOICES OF RESPONSE. EmilKoval©2018

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