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MY THOUGHT 24406

QUESTION 11441: Are you aware that life and time are your best teachers? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11442: Are you aware that ‘Life’ teaches us the use of time and ‘Time’ teaches us the value of Life? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11443: Are you aware that you do not have to respect everyone’s beliefs; however, you should acknowledge everyone’s beliefs? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11444: Are you aware that falling down should not be an option in your book of life? Do you realize that when you rise, you will fall and rise again? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11445: Do you understand that the best part about getting back on your feet is knowing who not to walk with again? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 18, 2024

Universal Truth 2896: “The limit isn’t the sky. The limit is your mind.” — WIM HOF

Universal Truth 2897: A mother is a shooting star who passes through your life only once. Love her because when her light goes out you will never see her again. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2898: Five things to quit

1. Trying to please everyone. 2. Fearing change.

3. Living in the past. 4. Putting yourself down.

5. Overthinking.

Universal Truth 2899: “Children will have strong medicine when the gift of love is given to them by their mother.” — Lakota

Universal Truth 2900: The Lakota believe that they do not die but rather “walk-on” to the spirit world, which is free of pain and suffering.

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 310:

In the course of my lifetime, I have lived in two distinct cultures. I was born into a culture that lived in communal houses. My grandfather’s house was eighty feet long. It was called a smoke house, and it stood down by the beach along the inlet. All my grandfather’s sons and their families lived in this dwelling. Their sleeping apartments were separated by blankets made of bull rush weeds, but one open fire in the middle served the cooking needs of all. In houses like these, throughout the tribe, people learned to live with one another; learned to respect the rights of one another. And children shared the thoughts of the adult world and found themselves surrounded by aunts and uncles and cousins who loved them and did not threaten them. My father was born in such a house and learned from infancy how to love people and be at home with them.

And beyond this acceptance of one another there was a deep respect for everything in nature that surrounded them. My father loved the earth and all its creatures. The earth was his second mother. The earth and everything it contained was a gift from See-see-am…and the way to thank this great spirit was to use his gifts with respect.

I remember, as a little boy, fishing with him up Indian River and I can still see him as the sun rose above the mountain top in the early morning…I can see him standing by the water’s edge with his arms raised above his head while he softly moaned…”Thank you, thank you.” It left a deep impression on my young mind.

And I shall never forget his disappointment when once he caught me gaffing for fish “just for the fun of it.” “My son” he said, “The Great Spirit gave you those fish to be your brothers, to feed you when you are hungry. You must respect them. You must not kill them just for the fun of it.”

This then was the culture I was born into and for some years the only one I really knew or tasted. This is why I find it hard to accept many of the things I see around me.

I see people living in smoke houses hundreds of times bigger than the one I knew. But the people in one apartment do not even know the people in the next and care less about them.

It is also difficult for me to understand the deep hate that exists among people. It is hard to understand a culture that justifies the killing of millions in past wars, and it at this very moment preparing bombs to kill even greater numbers. It is hard for me to understand a culture that spends more on wars and weapons to kill, than it does on education and welfare to help and develop.

It is hard for me to understand a culture that not only hates and fights his brothers but even attacks nature and abuses her.

I see my white brothers going about blotting out nature from his cities. I see him strip the hills bare, leaving ugly wounds on the face of mountains. I see him tearing things from the bosom of mother earth as though she were a monster, who refused to share her treasures with him. I see him throw poison in the waters, indifferent to the life he kills there; and he chokes the air with deadly fumes.

My white brother does many things well for he is more clever than my people but I wonder if he has ever really learned to love at all. Perhaps he only loves the things that are outside and beyond him. And this is, of course, not love at all, for man must love all creation or he will love none of it. Man must love fully or he will become the lowest of the animals. It is the power to love that makes him the greatest of them all…for he alone of all animals is capable of love.

Love is something you and I must have. We must have it because our spirit feeds upon it. We must have it because without it we become weak and faint. Without love our self-esteem weakens. Without it our courage fails. Without love we can no longer look out confidently at the world. Instead, we turn inwardly and begin to feed upon our own personalities and little by little we destroy ourselves.

You and I need the strength and joy that comes from knowing that we are loved. With it we are creative. With it we march tirelessly. With it, and with it alone, we are able to sacrifice for others.

There have been times when we all wanted so desperately to feel a reassuring hand upon us…there have been lonely times when we so wanted a strong arm around us…I cannot tell you how deeply I miss my wife’s presence when I return from a trip. Her love was my greatest joy, my strength, my greatest blessing.

I am afraid my culture has little to offer yours. But my culture did prize friendship and companionship. It did not look on privacy as a thing to be clung to, for privacy builds walls and walls promote distrust. My culture lived in a big family community, and from infancy people learned to live with others.

My culture did not prize the hoarding of private possessions, in fact, to hoard was a shameful thing to do among my people. The Indian looked on all things in nature as belonging to him and he expected to share them with others and to take only what he needed.

Everyone likes to give as well as receive. No one wishes only to receive all the time. We have taken something from your culture…I wish you had taken something from our culture…for there were some beautiful and good things in it.

Soon it will be too late to know my culture, for integration is upon us and soon we will have no values but yours. Already many of our young people have forgotten the old ways. And many have been shamed of their Indian ways by scorn and ridicule. My culture is like a wounded deer that has crawled away into the forest to bleed and die alone.

The only thing that can truly help us is genuine love. You must truly love, be patient with us and share with us. And we must love you—with a genuine love that forgives and forgets…a love that gives the terrible sufferings your culture brought ours when it swept over us like a wave crashing along a beach…with a love that forgets and lifts up its head and sees in your eyes an answering love of trust and acceptance. This is brotherhood. Anything less is not worthy of the name. I have spoken.𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐃𝐚𝐧 𝐆𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1212 MAY 18, 2024

Blue Skies Filled With Puff Of Soft White Clouds

Very Late Afternoon Stroll Through Tesoro

Friendly Dog Walkers And Curious Pooches

Still Falling Leaves Becoming Browner In Color

Yellow Lilies Opened Wide Sharing Fragrances

New Growth Appearing Everywhere In Tesoro

Mother Nature’s Reminders Of Life’s Rebirth

OMMMMMMZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…… . . . . . Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24401

QUESTION 11436: If you want to choose happiness, are you ready to teach your heart how to let go disappointments? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11437: Are you ready to radiate the energy you want to be around? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11438: Are you prepared to deal with the energy that you will attract because of the energy you project? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11439: Are you aware that spirituality has been linked to lower rates of depression, addiction, and suicide?

EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11440: Are you aware that when you go for long drives on you own that you are at your own pace, listen to your own music, have your own thoughts, and your opportunity to chill out? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 17, 2024

Universal Truth 2891: Avoid posting your personal problems on social media. Your personal problems require personal solutions, not social attention. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2892: One of the biggest mistakes in life is to allow yourself to be recruited by someone to hate another human being who has never wronged you. Only fools inherit other people’s enemies as some weird sign of loyalty. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2893: The worst feeling in the world is knowing you’ve been used and lied to. — Tady Bondessar.

Universal Truth 2894: Letting go is a decision followed by a process, and the process is continuous… — G.K.Quotes

Universal Truth 2895: “What are the things that you can’t see that are important? I would say justice, truth, humility, service, compassion, love. You can’t see any of those, but they’re the guiding lights of a life.” — President Jimmy Carter

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 309:

A young woman was about to finish her first year of college. Like so many others her age, she considered herself to be very liberal, and among other liberal ideals, was very much in favor of higher taxes to support more government programs, in other words redistribution of wealth.

She was deeply ashamed that her father was a rather staunch conservative, a feeling she openly expressed. Based on the lectures that she had participated in, and the occasional chat with a professor, she felt that her father had for years harbored an evil, selfish desire to keep what he thought should be his.

One day she was challenging her father on his oppositionto higher taxes on the rich and the need for more government programs. The self-professed objectivity proclaimed by her professors had to be the truth and she indicated so to her father. He responded by asking how she was doing in school.

Taken aback, she answered rather haughtily that she had a 4.0 GPA and let him know that it was tough to maintain, insisting that she was taking a very difficult course load and was constantly studying, which left her no time to go out and party like other people she knew. She didn’t even have time for a boyfriend and didn’t really have many college friends because she spent all her time studying.

Her father listened and then asked, “How is your friend Audrey doing?” She replied, “Audrey is barely getting by. All she takes are easy classes, she never studies, and she barely has a 2.0 GPA. She is so popular on campus; college for her is a blast. She’s always invited to all the parties and lots of times she doesn’t even show up for classes because she’s too hung over.”

Her father asked his daughter, “Why don’t you go to the Dean’s office and ask him to deduct 1.0 off your GPA and give it to your friend who only has a 2.0. That way you will both have a 3.0 GPA and certainly that would be a fair and equal distribution of GPA.”

The daughter, visibly shocked by her father’s suggestion, angrily fired back, “That’s a crazy idea, how would that be fair! I’ve worked really hard for my grades! I’ve invested a lot of time, and a lot of hard work! Audrey has done next to nothing toward her degree. She played while I worked my tail off!”

The father slowly smiled, winked and said gently, “Welcome to the conservative side of the fence.”

If you ever wondered what side of the fence you sit on, this is a great test!

If a conservative doesn’t like guns, he doesn’t buy one.

If a liberal doesn’t like guns, he wants all guns outlawed.

If a conservative is a vegetarian, he doesn’t eat meat.

If a liberal is a vegetarian, he wants all meat products banned for everyone.

If a conservative is down-and-out, he thinks about how to better his situation. A liberal wonders who is going to take care of him..

If a conservative doesn’t like a talk show host, he switches channels. Liberals demand that those they don’t like be shut down.

If a conservative is a non-believer, he doesn’t go to church. A liberal non-believer wants any mention of God and Jesus silenced.

If a conservative decides he needs health care, he goes about shopping for it, or may choose a job that provides it.. A liberal demands that the rest of us pay for his.

If a conservative reads this, he’ll post it. A liberal will delete it because he’s “offended.” Mark Barcus

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1211 MAY 17, 2024

Hazy Overcast Skies With Patches Of Blue

Morning Stroll In Light Breezy 75 Degrees

Newly Fallen Leaves Still Lining My Path

The Yellow Lilies Opened With The Light

Distant Hills Cloaked In Mid-Morning Haze

Some Flora Radiantly Survived The Massacres

Mother Nature Will Be Triumphant Again

Ommmmmmmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . .

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QUESTION 11431: Do you let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11432: Are you looking back filled with regret, or are you looking forward with hope? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11433: Do you realize that if you cannot change your mind, then you are not using it? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11434: Do you realize that waking up each day is the first thing that you should be grateful for? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11435: Do you realize that there are saints everywhere, and that they are people who are behaving decently in an indecent society? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 16, 2024

Universal Truth 2886: “Talent might make you good, but it’s your attitude and work-ethic that will make you great. ” — Allistair McCain

Universal Truth 2887: A strong person is not the one who does not cry. A strong person is the one who cries & sheds tears for a moment, then gets up and fights again. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2888: How to frighten the new generation. put them in a room with a rotary phone, an analog watch, and a TV with no remote. Then leave directions on how to use them in cursive. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2889: If you are unsure who to trust in these confusing times: Trust the courageous ones. Truth requires courage. Courage requires fortitude. Truth requires integrity. Cowards tell lies. Cowards support liars. Telling a lie is easy. Believing a lie is easy. Being compliant is easy. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2890: Staying silent is easy. Trusting without thinking is easy. Thinking for yourself is hard. Standing up for what is right is hard. Being real & authentic is hard. In times like these it takes all the courage in the world to question the status quo & to speak up & tell the Truth. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 307:

FOLLOW YOUR BLISS:

“I have a firm belief in this now, not only in terms of my own experience, but in knowing the experiences of other people. When you follow your bliss, and by bliss I mean the deep sense of being in it, and doing what the push is out of your own existence—it may not be fun, but it’s your bliss and there’s bliss behind pain too…

You follow that and doors will open where there were no doors before, where you would not have thought there’d be doors, and where there wouldn’t be a door for anybody else.

… And so I think the best thing I can say is to follow your bliss. If your bliss is just your fun and your excitement, you’re on the wrong track. I mean, you need instruction. Know where your bliss is. And that involves coming down to a deep place in yourself.” — Joseph Campbell

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 308:

A rabbi was asked by one of his students “Why did God create atheists?”After a long pause, the rabbi finally responded with a soft but sincere voice. “God created atheists” he said, “to teach us the most important lesson of them all – the lesson of true compassion. You see, when an atheist performs an act of charity, visits someone who is sick, helps someone in need, and cares for the world, he is not doing so because of some religious teaching. He does not believe that God commanded him to perform this act. In fact, he does not believe in God at all, so his actions are based on his sense of morality. Look at the kindness he bestows on others simply because he feels it to be right. When someone reaches out to you for help. You should never say ‘I’ll pray that God will help you.’ Instead, for that moment, you should become an atheist – imagine there is no God who could help and say ‘I will help you’.” — Martin Buber

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1210 MAY 16, 2024

Another Hazy Chem-Trail Filled Sky Day

Reversing My Morning Stroll Path Today

Interesting People Being Met On The Way

Revisiting Gardeners’ Massacred Areas

Some Flora Did Survive The Devastation

In My Garden Area Squirrels Confused

Rabbit, Bees, And Lizards Disappeared

My Grounding Spot Totally Destroyed

Wishing For Mother Nature’s Swift Return

Ommmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . . . . .

Emilkoval©2024

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QUESTION 11426: Do you realize that helping someone is doing something for someone that he/she is not capable of doing him/herself? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11427: Do you realize that enabling someone is doing for someone things that she/he could and should be doing her/himself? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11428: Do you realize that sometimes, the scars on the inside take longer to heal than the ones on the outside? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11429: Do you realize that the only thing you can do about awful people is not be one of them? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11430: Are you aware that you should never disrespect that person who made sure you were okay when nobody else did? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 15, 2024

Universal Truth 2881: The reason why some people are so kind is because the world has been so unkind to them that they don’t want other people to feel the way they did. — Vex King

Universal Truth 2882: Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve. But don’t do it again. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2883: “If you knew how quickly people forget the dead, you would stop living to impresspeople.” — Christopher Walken

Universal Truth 2884: Remember, when you forgive, youheal. And when you let go, you grow. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2885: My spirit has been telling me to lay low and be patient. Observe and take nothing personal but take everything for what it is. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 308:

The Ant and the Contact Lens

Brenda was a young woman who was invited to go rock climbing. Although she was scared to death, she went with her group to a tremendous granite cliff.

In spite of her fear, she put on the gear, took a hold on the rope, and started up the face of that rock.

Well, she got to a ledge where she could take a breather. As she was hanging on there, the safety rope snapped against Brenda’s eye and knocked out her contact lens. Well, here she is on a rock ledge, with hundreds of feet below her and hundreds of feet above her. Of course, she looked and looked and looked, hoping it had landed on the ledge, but it just wasn’t there. Here she was, far from home, her sight now blurry. She was desperate and began to get upset, so she prayed to the Lord to help her to find it.

When she got to the top, a friend examined her eye and her clothing for the lens, but there was no contact lens to be found. She sat down, despondent, with the rest of the party, waiting for the rest of them to make it up the face of the cliff. She looked out across range after range of mountains, thinking of that Bible verse that says, “The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth.” She thought, “Lord, You can see all these mountains. You know every stone and leaf, and You know exactly where my contact lens is. Please help me.”

Finally, they walked down the trail to the bottom. At the bottom there was a new party of climbers just starting up the face of the cliff.

One of them shouted out, “Hey, you guys! Anybody lose a contact lens?”

Well, that would be startling enough, but you know why the climber saw it? An ant was moving slowly across the face of the rock, carrying it.

Brenda told me that her father is a cartoonist. When she told him the incredible story of the ant, the prayer, and the contact lens, he drew a picture of an ant lugging that contact lens with the words, “Lord, I don’t know why You want me to carry this thing. I can’t eat it, and it’s awfully heavy. But if this is what You want me to do, I’ll carry it for You.”

I think it would probably do some of us good to occasionally say, “God, I don’t know why you want me to carry this load. I can see no good in it and it’s awfully heavy. But, if you want me to carry it, I will.”

God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.

by Josh and Karen Zarandona

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1209 MAY 15, 2024

Cancelled My Porter Ranch Morning Stroll Again

The Garden Terrorist Attacking My Refuge

Still Exhausted From My Return Road Trip

Benicia Is Wonderful, Porter Ranch Is Better

A Thousand Pictures Taken This Long Trip

Maybe Tomorrow My Energy Will Return

Ommmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . . . . .

Emilkoval©2024

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QUESTION 11421: Do you realize that a goal without a plan is just a wish? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11422: Do you realize that grief is just love with no place to go? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11423: Do you realize that even though we appear as many, we are actually one? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11424: Do you realize that time won’t make you forget; however, it will make you grow and understand things? EmilKoval©2024

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QUESTION 11425: Do you realize that most people never heal, because they stay in their heads, replaying corrupted scenarios? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 14, 2024

Universal Truth 2876: Rules to Live By: Don’t tell your problems to people: Eighty percent don’t care, and the other twenty percent are glad you have them. — Lou Holtz Football Coach

Universal Truth 2877: No response is a response. And it’s a powerful one. Remember that. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2878: An apology without changed behavior is just manipulation. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2879: It’s okay if you fall down and lose your spark. Just make sure that when you get back up, you rise as the whole damn fire. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2880: A time will come in your life when some people will regret why they treated you wrong. It will definitely come. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 307:

History of Mother’s Day

It started in Rome and became a United States national holiday less than 100 years ago.

You may think it was all started by Hallmark in an effort to sell cards, but that’s not the case at all. Mother’s Day dates back to the ancient Romans and made its way to the United States in the early 1900’s and finally became a national holiday in 1914.

The earliest tributes to Mother’s Day date back to the annual spring festival the Greeks dedicated to Rhea, the mother of many deities, and to the offerings ancient Romans made to their Great Mother of Gods, Cybele. Christians celebrated a Mother’s Day of sorts during a festival on the fourth Sunday in Lent in honor of Mary, mother of Christ. In England the holiday was expanded to include all mothers. It was then called Mothering Sunday.

In the United States it started with one woman named Anna Jarvis. Jarvis was an Appalachian homemaker and she organized a day to raise awareness of poor health conditions of her community. She thought the day would be best advocated by mothers and called the day “Mother’s Work Day”.

When Anna Jarvis died in 1905 her daughter, also named Anna, began a campaign to memorialize the life work of her mother. Anna remembered that her mother said there were many days dedicated to men but not for mothers. Anna then began to lobby the politicians of the time to support a day dedicated to mothers. Anna Jarvis talked to many politicians including Presidents Taft and Roosevelt hoping they would support her campaign.

Jarvis organized a church service to celebrate her mother in 1908 and Anna handed out white carnations to those in attendance because the white carnation was her mother’s favorite flower. Anna Jarvis’ hard work began to pay off five years after that service in 1913. The House of Representatives adopted a resolution calling for officials of the federal government to wear white carnations on the day many began calling Mother’s Day, the second Sunday in May.

Finally on May 8, 1914, President Woodrow Wilson signed a Joint Resolution designating the second Sunday in May as Mother’s Day.

“Now, Therefore, I, Woodrow Wilson, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the said Joint Resolution, do hereby direct the government officials to display the United States flag on all government buildings and do invite the people of the United States to display the flag at their homes or other suitable places on the second Sunday in May as a public expression of our love and reverence for the mothers of our country.”

That was the first official Mother’s Day and the tradition carries on to this day. In fact, Mother’s Day has flourished in the United States. The second Sunday in May has become the most popular day of the year to dine out, and telephone lines record their highest traffic, as sons and daughters everywhere take advantage of this day to honor and to express appreciation of their mothers.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1206 MAY 14, 2024

Today I Chose To Forego My Morning Stroll

A Hazy Chem-Trail Sky Over Porter Ranch

Exhausted By A 365 Mile Car Road Trip

Visited My Daughter In Benicia, California

A Wonderful Trip To Visit Yurika’s Family

My Last Visit Was In 2017 After My First Sroke

This Visit Is After My Second Stroke Last Year

Everyone Was Fantastic And In Good Health

My Grandson, Dante, Is Now 6’5.5” Tall

Met Mochi, A Dog Who Loves String Beans

Some Liz’s Roses Are As Big As A Baby’s Head

Ommmmmmmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . .

Emilkoval©2024

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Mother’s Day 2024 31: QUESTION 11416: Have you showed your empathy, love, compassion, and understanding to those ‘Gold Star Mothers’ on Mother’s Day? EmilKoval©2024

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Mother’s Day 2024 32: QUESTION 11416: Do you tell your mother frequently that you have gratitude for and respect for what she has taught you, and that you will always cherish her love? EmilKoval©2024

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Mother’s Day 2024 33: QUESTION 11418: Are you aware that Mother’s Day is a day to honor all those who have taken on the role of mothering which can be a birthmother, a stepmother, a foster-mother, a grandmother, an aunt, and even a father who has to play the double role of mother/father? EmilKoval©2024

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Mother’s Day 2024 34: QUESTION 11419: Do you realize that a visit, a hug, or a phone call is more precious to your mother and/or grandmother than any material gift that give to her/them? EmilKoval©2024

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Mother’s Day 2024 34: QUESTION 11420: Did you take the time to show the mothers of our military who gave their all or have returned with serious injuries? Did you also show your respect for the wives and mothers of our first responders who never returned from the domestic battlefields? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 13, 2024

Universal Truth 2871: As adult children, are you willing to allow your mother to express her complaints about life without your personal criticisms? Are you willing to be the ear that she needs to talk to you to express her concerns about life? Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2872: To adoptees and foster children, remember that your adopted-mother or stepmother ‘chose to nurture you as her own child’. your birthmother did have that choice; however, she chose not to for whatever reason. To abandon a nurturing mother for a birthmother who gave you up many years, is not a proper Kharmic choice. It is okay to re-connect with a birthmother; It is not a good choice to abandon those who chose to nurture you as her own child for someone who walked away from nurturing you. Emilkoval©2019

Universal Truth 2873: Unless your senior mother has a serious or debilitating illness, can you allow her to live her life as she wishes to live it? Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2874: Are you aware that your true mother is the mother who nurtured you throughout your life? Are you aware that your true mother may not necessarily be you birthmother? Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2875: Having biological parents does not necessarily make a true family. Having nurturing parents will make a true family. Emilkoval©2024

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 306:

Mother’s Day

On the second Sunday in May, many countries around the world celebrate Mother’s Day. It is a time when children honor their mothers with cards, gifts, and flowers. It is a day when families spend time together, and mothers can have a day of rest, whilst being looked after by their husbands and children.

A form of Mother’s Day was celebrated in ancient Greece, honoring Rhea, the mother of the gods. In England, the annual celebration is known as Mothering Sunday. This first originated from the 1600s when many people worked away from home, living with their employers. They were encouraged to go home and visit their mothers on the fourth Sunday of Lent. On the way home, they would pick flowers to give to their mothers, or offer them a cake.

Towards the end of the 1800s in the USA, Julia Ward Howe, who wrote the ‘Battle Hymn of the Republic’, was horrified by the devastation caused by the American Civil War. She introduced the idea of a ‘Mother’s Day for Peace’ to be celebrated on the 2nd June. Enthusiasm for this soon faded when Howe was no longer paying for the celebrations, and she turned her attention to other efforts.

In the late 19th century / early 20th century, a woman called Anna Jarvis was trying to raise awareness of the poor health conditions in her community. She realized the day would be best supported by mothers, so she named the day ‘Mothers Work Day’. Anna Jarvis died in 1905 and her daughter, also called Anna, began a campaign in memory of the life and work of her mother. She wrote letters to politicians and businessmen asking them to support a day dedicated to mothers (the day would be held on the anniversary of her mother’s death). Eventually, in 1914, President Woodrow announced that the second Sunday in May would be dedicated to the “mothers of our country”. Towards the end of Anna Jarvis’ life, Mother’s Day was celebrated in over 40 countries.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1207 MAY 13, 2024

Some Mothers Are Wonderful,

Some Mothers Are Not So Ideal.

Mothers Are Still Your First Teachers.

Mothers Have Lessons For You To Learn.

Teaching You How To Be A Good Parent

Teaching You How Not To Be A Parent.

Always Be Grateful For These Lessons.

Lesson #1: How To Mother And Not To Mother.

Lesson #2: Multi-Tasking Responsibilities.

Lesson #3: Individuality Vs Social Needs. Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24171

QUESTION 11405: Mother’s Day 2024 21: Food for Thought: The biological mother who abandon you as a child is only a biological parent. The one who ‘chose to raise you’ is your real mother. The only thing you need from your biological mother is her medical history. Reconnecting with her can be very destructive to her personal life. You may cause reversible damage to that person‘s relationship with her present family. You have been separated perhaps for 20, 30, 40 years. Remember that her history is very different from yours. However, if you seek that biological bond you have to be very careful because you may cause great karmic damage to yourself and to that person. She must be approached very carefully. For example, if you go to a high school reunion 50 years after you graduated, you will meet some people that at one time made you feel so wonderful. They shared past memories you had will bring you great joy at that moment. However, remember that if you try to make a long-term relationship with that person that you have live different lives for 50 years or so and you may run into conflicts about a lot of things. Fond memories should be just fond memories. You cannot go back and re-create what you had 20, 30, 40 years ago. How and what you are doing at 40 is very different from what you did way back when.EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24172: Mother’s Day 2024 22:

QUESTION 11406: Mothers, do you understand that your senior years are to demonstrate how one can lead an independent and self-sufficient life? EmilKoval©2023

MY THOUGHT 24173: Mother’s Day 2024 23:

QUESTION 11407: Children, having done ‘your duty’ for your mother on Mother’s Day, have you relegated “your mother” to the back of your mind until the next Mother’s Day? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24174

Mother’s Day 2024 24: QUESTION 11408: Children, do you realize that every mother that has come into this life has come to teach, mentor, protect, and provide opportunities for her children to grow personally and spiritually beyond who they are at that moment; sometimes lovingly and painfully. Those loving and painful experiences are lessons on how to be and not to be. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24175

Mother’s Day 2024 25: QUESTION 11409: Children, do you realize that every mother that has come into this life has come to teach, mentor, protect, and provide opportunities for her children to grow personally and spiritually beyond who they are at that moment; sometimes lovingly and painfully. Those loving and painful experiences are lessons on how to be and not to be. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24175

Mother’s Day 2024 26: QUESTION 11410: Children, Do you realize that if you have had a negative relationship with your mother, stepmother, or foster-mother, you can shift your negative thoughts to positive ones? You must not hate the life-giver or life-provider Do you understand that that mother has provided you with ‘special lessons’4

MY THOUGHT 24176

Mother’s Day 2024 27: QUESTION 11411: Children, do you understand that your mother has her own karmic and dharmic path to walk, which you are only a part of ‘temporarily’? Do you comprehend that you have your own karmic and dharmic path to walk, which your mother is ‘temporarily’ a part of? Are you willing to understand that commonality and are you ready to appreciate your uniqueness and your mother’s uniqueness in this present life cycle? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24177

Mother’s Day 2024 28: QUESTION 11412: Children, are you willing to respect all mothers; great-grandmothers, grand-mothers, mothers, mothers-to-be, single-parent mothers and fathers, and female caregivers? Are you willing to display your deepest respect and love, while helping them to keep their mothering-light burning brightly always? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24178

Mother’s Day 2024 29: QUESTION 11413: Children and Fathers, are you aware that the greatest gift that to give your mother and the mother of your children, besides your love and respect, would be to let her live her life as she wishes and help her redeveloped the talents that she had to suppress while raising you children and catering to their father? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24179

Mother’s Day 2024 30: QUESTION 11414: Mothers, are aware that Your children are always watching you? You are their mentor! Are you aware that as a Mother, your first obligation is to be a happy mother and a content wife to your children? Are you aware that the moment of the truth of your mentoring is when you ask your children two questions: “When are you going to get married?” and “How many children will you have?” If the answer is “never” or “none”, you have failed as a mentor. When you ask “why?” Do not be surprised by the answer. “I do not want to be like you, Mom! As a mother and a wife you are always sad and frustrated. I do not want that kind of life.” EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24180

Mother’s Day 2024 31: QUESTION 10715: Mothers, if you are having a problem with their father, do you spill out your toxic anger to your children for their support? Do you willingly poison your children’s minds towards their father? No matter how justified your anger is, the damage to your children will be greater? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 12, 2024

Universal Truth 2866: Woman means.

W- Wonderful mother.

O- Outstanding friend.

M- Marvelous daughter.

A- Adorable sister.

N- Nicest gift to men from GOD. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2867: A Mother will only ever be in 1 of 3 places: In front of you to cheer you on, behind you to have your back, or next to you so you aren’t walking alone. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2868: My mom was far from perfect. She didn’t go to the best schools, dress in fine clothes or have a lot of money. But when I look back, she had riches that money can’t buy… a big heart that knew only one thing: the love for her children. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2869: A mother’s prayer is that her children will love each other long after she is gone. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2870: As soon as you become a mom, you develop an instinctive ability to multitask. Yes, even if you couldn’t before! This allows you to do two things at once and allows you to be the ultimate boss. It seems as though Kate is no different, as she often showcases her ability to multitask when her kids are involved. — Unknown

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 12, 2024

Universal Truth 2866: Woman means.

W- Wonderful mother.

O- Outstanding friend.

M- Marvelous daughter.

A- Adorable sister.

N- Nicest gift to men from GOD. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2867: A Mother will only ever be in 1 of 3 places: In front of you to cheer you on, behind you to have your back, or next to you so you aren’t walking alone. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2868: My mom was far from perfect. She didn’t go to the best schools, dress in fine clothes or have a lot of money. But when I look back, she had riches that money can’t buy… a big heart that knew only one thing: the love for her children. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2869: A mother’s prayer is that her children will love each other long after she is gone. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2870: As soon as you become a mom, you develop an instinctive ability to multitask. Yes, even if you couldn’t before! This allows you to do two things at once and allows you to be the ultimate boss. It seems as though Kate is no different, as she often showcases her ability to multitask when her kids are involved. — Unknown

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1206 MAY 12, 2024

Your Real Mother Is The One Who Raised You.

Not Necessarily The One Who Gave Birth To You.

Giving Birth Is Not Only A Biological Process.

It Is Also A Mother and Child Bonding Process.

Adoptive Mothers Accept That Bonding Process.

Some Biological Mothers Have Rejected That Bonding.

Motherhood Responsibilities Overwhelm The Unprepared.

Foster & Adoptive Mothers Readily Accept Those Challenges.

Motherhood Is A Nurturing Process; Not A Birthing Process.

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24161

MOTHER’S DAY 2024 11: A mother’s sacrifices for her children are not a debt her children must pay back. It is ‘her’ karmic lessons on ‘her’ dharmic path. Her children’s obligations are to respect and honor her life’s experiences; not to re-live ‘her’ life experiences. Are you aware that your seeking retributions for the sacrifices that ‘you have chosen to make’ for your children is a bad karmic choice? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24162

MOTHER’S DAY 2024 12: Mothers, all of your children and their friends are watching silently to see how you, as a mother and how you as an mentor, react to situations; therefore, when you have moments of negativity, they may actually be lesson to be learned by your children and their friends. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24163

MOTHERS DAY 2024 13: If you have taught your children to be self-sufficient, it is best for older mothers to step back enough to let their children grow on their own; however, be close enough to be of assistance when asked. This may be tougher for many mothers than for fathers. However, it is essential for the personal and spiritual growth of your children, their friends, and you. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24164

MOTHER’S DAY 2024 14: Mothers, permitting your children to experiment and fail is the best gift that you can give them. Not permitting your children to experiment and fail is to condemn them to a life of dependency on others. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24165

Mother’s Day 2024 15: Let us not forget the single mothers who have to play both roles as mothers and fathers. Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24166

Mother’s Day 2024 16: If you were raised by a mother, biological or adoptive parent, do you realize what a blessing that is? Do you realize that some children have never known a mother’s love? Emilkoval©2034

MY THOUGHT 24167

Mother’s Day 2024 17: Do you understand that having a mother who is both nurturing and critical is a blessing? Do you realize that they are teaching you how to be or not to be a mother or father? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24168

Mother’s Day 2024 18: Do you understand that having a mother who is both nurturing and critical is a blessing? Do you realize that they are teaching you how to be or not to be a mother or father? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24169

Mother’s Day 2024 19: What lessons did your mother teach you about life and about raising children? Did she teach you how to be a mother and how not to be a mother? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24170

Mother’s Day 2024 20: Personal note: I was born in 1941. In 1943, my father was drafted into the army and was assigned to General Patton’s Third Army. When my father left for his service duty, my mother put me in an orphanage and disappeared to live her own life. In 1970, she called me to ask if she was a good mother or not. I told her calmly that I have not had that experience. I felt compassionate toward this person who abandoned her children for a carnival life. I quietly and patiently listen to this woman lamenting her decisions in 1943. She called me every month for six months until I left to study, with my family, at Waseda University, Japan. Two years later she drowned herself an alcohol and fell down the stairs and died. I was your informed two months after the fact. To me, my real nurturing mother was Mrs. Jikihara, who survived the atomic bomb. She and her husband declared me to be the son that they could not have. They are the parents that I have loved so dearly since I was 19. EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 1, 2024

Universal Truth 2856:

At 6 yrs “Mommy, I love you.”

At 10 yrs “Mom, whatever.”

At 16 yrs “My Mom is so annoying.”

At 18 yrs “I wanna leave this house.”

At 25 yrs “Mom, you were right.”

At 30 yrs “I wanna go to Mommy’s house.”

At 50 yrs “I don’t wanna lose my Mommy

At 70 yrs “I would give up EVERYTHING

for my Mom to be here with me.”

You have only one Mom. Appreciate & love your Mom whether she is here or not. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2857: Your Mother is always with you. She’s the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street. She’s the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick, the fragrance of life itself. She’s the cool hand on your brow when you’re not feeling well. She’s your breath in the air on a cold winter’s day. She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a rainbow; she is Christmas morning. Your mother lives inside your laughter. She’s the place you came from, your first home, and she’s the map you follow with every step you take. She’s your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you not time, not space… not even death.” — Unknown

Universal Truth 2858: Special Mother’s Day Note:

Mothers, may the cosmic light radiate its love through your spiritual and physical presence while opening the doors of love, compassion, and understanding to all who are touched by your presence. Release your children to follow their karmic paths, while you become a role model on how to live one’s life in one’s later years. You can be an inspiration to your children when they may be abandoned by some their children and friends, while giving hope to many orphaned seniors. Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2859: Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers whether they are birthmothers, stepmothers, foster mothers, grandmothers. Happy Mother’s Day to all those who have nurtured others through trying times. May all of you ‘Nurturing Mothers’ be filled with the blessings of cosmic love. I dedicate all my thoughts concerning mothers to you. I must also include those single fathers who have play the role of mother and father. Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2860: Although ‘most mothers’ never forget their children, some children tend to forget their mothers. It seems that birthdays and Mother’s Day have become days of just a free meal for some mothers and the presence of their children and grandchildren for two or three hours. The children start out with the traditional ‘Happy Birthday’ or ‘Happy Mother’s Day’ which Is followed by ‘How are you doing?’. Then those children focus on each other and talk about themselves to each other as those mothers quietly munch on their ‘free meal’. Nobody seems to be interested in what those mothers are feeling, how those mothers are feeling, and why those mothers are feeling the way they do. So, in the future, those neglected mothers should cancel all birthdays and Mother’s Days concerning her. It is interesting that when those mothers try to explain their situations, their children want to avoid their mother’s heart felt feelings. After a two-hour lunch or a three-hour dinner, some children always seem to have someplace else to go. Adult children have to take responsibility for their own lives and their own decisions. There comes a time when mothers, and fathers, have to live their own lives and be far enough away to let their children live their own lives; at the same time, those mothers, and fathers, should be close enough to be of help if those parents ‘wisdom thoughts’ are needed. Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2861: Children, your mother has her own karmic and dharmic path to walk, which you are temporarily a part of. You have your own karmic and dharmic path to walk, which your mother is a part of. Your task is to understand that commonality and to appreciate your uniqueness and your mother’s uniqueness in this time cycle. Emilkoval©2024

Universal Truth 2862: A mother is a shooting star who passes through your life only once. Love her because when her light goes out you will never see her again.

Universal Truth 2863: Being a mother is not easy. You still have to be a mother when you are stressed, depressed, burnt out, crying, and struggling. Mothers are superheroes.

Universal Truth 2864: As a mother, I’m not perfect. I make mistakes. I forget t8hings. I lose my cool. And some days I go a little crazy. But, it’s okay because in the end, no one could ever love my children the way I do.

Universal Truth 2865: Strong women never give up. They might need a coffee or a good cry, or even a day in bed, but they always come back stronger.

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 305:

Breakfast at McDonalds

I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.

The last class I had to take was Sociology. The teacher was absolutely inspiring with the qualities that I wish every human being had been graced with. Her last project of the term was called “Smile.” The class was asked to go out and smile at three people and document their reactions. I am a very friendly person and always smile at everyone and say hello anyway, so, I thought this would be a piece of cake, literally.

Soon after we were assigned the project, my husband, youngest son, and I went out to McDonald’s one crisp March morning. It was just our way of sharing special play time with our son. We were standing in line, waiting to be served, when all of a sudden everyone around us began to back away, and then even my husband did. I did not move an inch … an overwhelming feeling of panic welled up inside of me as I turned to see why they had moved.

As I turned around, I smelled a horrible “dirty body” smell, and there standing behind me were two poor homeless men. As I looked down at the short gentleman, close to me, he was “smiling”. His beautiful sky-blue eyes were full of God’s Light as he searched for acceptance. He said, “Good day” as he counted the few coins he had been clutching.

The second man fumbled with his hands as he stood behind his friend. I realized the second man was mentally challenged and the blue-eyed gentleman was his salvation.

I held my tears as I stood there with them. The young lady at the counter asked him what they wanted. He said, “Coffee is all, Miss” because that was all they could afford. (If they wanted to sit in the restaurant and warm up, they had to buy something. He just wanted to be warm).

Then I really felt it – the compulsion was so great I almost reached out and embraced the little man with the blue eyes. That is when I noticed all eyes in the restaurant were set on me, judging my every action. I smiled and asked the young lady behind the counter to give me two more breakfast meals on a separate tray. I then walked around the corner to the table that the men had chosen as a resting spot. I put the tray on the table and laid my hand on the blue-eyed gentleman’s cold hand. He looked up at me, with tears in his eyes, and said, “Thank you.”

I leaned over, began to pat his hand and said, “I did not do this for you. God is here working through me to give you hope.”

I started to cry as I walked away to join my husband and son. When I sat down my husband smiled at me and said, “That is why God gave you to me, Honey. To give me hope.” We held hands for a moment and at that time we knew that only because of the Grace that we had been given were we able to give. We are not church goers, but we are believers.

That day showed me the pure Light of God’s sweet love. I returned to college, on the last evening of class, with this story in hand. I turned in “my project” and the instructor read it. Then she looked up at me and said, “Can I share this?” I slowly nodded as she got the attention of the class. She began to read and that is when I knew that we as human beings and being part of God, share this need to heal people and to be healed.

In my own way I had touched the people at McDonald’s, my husband, son, instructor, and every soul that shared the classroom on the last night I spent as a college student. I graduated with one of the biggest lessons I would ever learn: UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE.n Author Unknown

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1205 MAY 11, 2024

Blessed Are Those Who Have A Loving And Critical Mother,.

Blessed Are Those Having A Foster Or Adoptive Mother,

Your Birth Mother May Not Have Had A Choice To Raise You.

Your Foster Or Adoptive Mother Made A Conscious Choice

Respect The Mother Who Nurtured You Through Your Life.

Forgive The Mother Who Abandon You Or Gave You Up.

Do Not Let Resentments Poison Your Mind, Body, & Soul.

Fill Your Essence With The Loving Light Of Forgiveness

Be Fully Grateful For The Lessons You Had To Learn.

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24351

MOTHERS DAY 2024 01: QUESTION 11397: If you were raised by a mother, biological or adoptive parent, do you realize what a blessing that is? Do you realize that some children have never known a mother’s love? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24352

MOTHERS DAY 2024 02: QUESTION 11398: Do you understand that having a mother who is both nurturing and critical is a blessing? Do you realize that they are teaching you how to be or not to be a mother or father? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24353

MOTHERS DAY 2024 03: QUESTION 11399:What lessons did your mother teach you about life and about raising children? Did she teach you how to be a mother and how not to be a mother? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24354

MOTHERS DAY 2024 04: Personal note: I was born in 1941. In 1943, my father was drafted into the army and was assigned to General Patton’s Third Army. When my father left for his service duty, my mother put me in an orphanage and disappeared to live her own life. In 1970, she called me to ask if she was a good mother or not. I told her calmly that I have not had that experience. I felt compassionate toward this person who abandoned her children for a carnival life. I quietly and patiently listen to this woman lamenting her decisions in 1943. She called me every month for six months until I left to study, with my family, at Waseda University, Japan. Two years later she drowned herself an alcohol and fell down the stairs and died. I was your informed two months after the fact. To me, my real nurturing mother was Mrs. Jikihara, who survived the atomic bomb. She and her husband declared me to be the son that they could not have. They are the parents that I have loved so dearly since I was 19. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24355

MOTHERS DAY 2024 05: Food for Thought: The biological mother who abandon you as a child is only a biological parent. The one who ‘chose to raise you’ is your real mother. The only thing you need from your biological mother is her medical history. Reconnecting with her can be very destructive to her personal life. You may cause reversible damage to that person‘s relationship with her present family. You have been separated perhaps for 20, 30, 40 years. Remember that her history is very different from yours. However, if you seek that biological bond you have to be very careful because you may cause great karmic damage to yourself and to that person. She must be approached very carefully. For example, if you go to a high school reunion 50 years after you graduated, you will meet some people that at one time made you feel so wonderful. They shared memories you had will bring you great joy at that moment. However, remember that if you try to make a long-term relationship with that person that you have live different lives for 50 years or so and you may run into conflicts about a lot of things. Fond memories should be just fond memories. You cannot go back and re-create what you had 20, 30, 40 years ago. How and what you are doing at 40 is very different from what you did way back when. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24356

MOTHERS DAY 2024 06: QUESTION 11400: Mothers, when your children mature, are you willing to let each child walk his or her own dharmic path and make her or his own karmic choices? EmilKoval©2024

MOTHERS DAY 2024 07: MY THOUGHT 24357

QUESTION 11401: Mothers, when your children mature, are you willing to take on the role of a role-model, a mentor, and being ready to help when your children are requesting your help? EmilKoval©2024

MOTHERS DAY 2024 08: MY THOUGHT 23358

QUESTION 11402: Mothers, in your senior years are to demonstrating how one can lead an independent and self-sufficient life? EmilKoval©2024

MOTHERS DAY 2024 09: MY THOUGHT 24359

QUESTION 11403: As a mother, are you still dominating your adult children’s lives, or are you living your own life while taking the position as a consultant to and a rescuer of your children in their times of need? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24360

MOTHERS DAY 2024 10: QUESTION 11404: Mothers, when your children have created their own families, are you willing to let them experience their personal crucifixions and resurrections while being ready to be their family counsellor and spiritual advisor when they seek your guidance? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 10, 2024

Universal Truth 2576: Mothers, you will come to a point where you will have to let each child walk his or her own dharmic path and make her or his own karmic choices. Mothers should take on the role of a role-model and a mentor. Mothers should always be ready to help when it is truly necessary, or when her loved ones are requesting help. A mother’s senior years are to demonstrate how one can lead an independent life in one’s senior years. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2577: As a mother, one should not dominate your adult children’s lives. You should resume your own life while taking the position as a consultant to and a rescuer in their times of need. You are also to be a role model as to how to live one’s life as a senior, whether loved or abandoned. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2578: Mothers, when your children have created their own families and you have been relegated to be their family counsellor and spiritual advisor, you have the opportunity to be the embodiment of your spiritual radiance which you can share with them. Emilkoval©2020

Universal Truth 2579: A mother’s sacrifices for her children are not a debt her children must pay back. It is ‘her’ karmic lessons on ‘her’ dharmic path. Her children’s obligations are to respect and honor her life’s experiences; not to re-live ‘her’ life experiences. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2580: Mothers, all of your children and their friends are watching silently to see how you, as a mother and how you as an mentor, react to situations; therefore, when you have moments of negativity, it may actually be a lesson to learn for your children and their friends, as well as for you, as a mother. It is best for older mothers to detach themselves enough to let their children grow on their own and be close enough to be of assistance when asked. This may be tougher for many mothers more than for fathers. However, it is essential for the spiritual growth of your children, their friends, and you. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2581: Mothers, permitting your children to experiment and fail is the best gift you can give them. Not permitting your children to experiment and fail is to condemn them to a life of dependency. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2582: Let us not forget the single mothers who have to play both roles as mothers and fathers. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2583: Having done your duty for Mother’s Day, have you relegated “your mother” to the back of your mind until the next Mother’s Day. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2584: Every mother that has come into your life has come to teach you, mentor you, and to provide opportunities for you to grow beyond who you are at that moment; loving or hurtful. They are usually lessons on how to be and not to be. Emilkoval©2022

Universal Truth 2585: If you have had a negative relationship with your mother, stepmother, or foster-mother, shift your negative thoughts to positive ones. You must not hate the life-giver or life-provider who has provided ‘special lessons’ to be learned no matter how painful they were. Emilkoval©2022

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 304:

MOTHERS DAY 2024:

This Mothers Day I would like to honor a truly nurturing fostermother. My birth mother, after the birth of my sister and my father being drafted in World War II to join Patton’s Third Army, she decided that she wanted a different life. She abandoned us for a new life. After the war, my grandmother and later my aunt acted as caretakers. However, they would always remind me that maybe my father was not my real father. In the late sixties my mother’s sisters confirmed that he was my real father, but I still had some doubts. Later, when my son was born and had reached the teenage years, I could see the exact likeness of my father’s father‘s face which exactly matched my son‘s face. When I went to Hiroshima in 1960, I met a family who had survived the atomic bomb. The Jikiharas were curious to meet this tooth-picked shaped American who came to spend time in their city. We had many conversations and became quite close. Mrs. Jikihara had survived the atomic bomb over Hiroshima. Her husband was a sergeant in the army in Korea. He was the only Japanese, at that time; who truly loved the Korean people. We became very close friends while discussing history and world events over some beer and sake with English, Chinese, and Japanese dictionaries. We disagreed on a lot of things; however, we never argued. They said that they wished they could have had a son like me. Mrs. Jikihara became the nurturing caring mother that I had needed for the first 18 years of my life. We became a true family. Although they have passed away, they are very close in my heart at all times. Another thing that Mrs. Jikihara did for me was to help me get rid of a chronic carbuncle condition that I had that the Navy could not cure. In 1965, when I went back to visit them, she insisted on taking me to the Atomic Bomb Casualty Commission Hospital where she usually goes for treatment. The doctor said they could not help me. I told the doctor to convince them. There were 20 of his patients, all survivors of the atomic bombs to support me, Soon I was taken to a back room and given two shots of a special medication in my neck and a lot of different pills to take when I left. Two months later, I was totally cured of my chronic carbuncle problem. All the credit goes to Mr. and Mrs. Jikihara for treating me like a true son.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1204 MAY 10, 2024

He Was A Happy Boy Until The Age Of Three

His Father Was Taken Away As A War Draftee.

His Mother Found Her Opportunity To Flee.

Father Was Sent To A Blood & Guts General.

‘Mother’ Dumped The Boy In An Orphanage,

Escaping Motherhood To Join A Carnival Life.

Four Lives dramatically Altered By Acts Of War

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24346

QUESTION 11392: Are you thankful for today? Do you realize that you will only see it once? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24347

QUESTION 11393: Are you drawn to luxury and material things? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24348

QUESTION 11394: Do you like simple things, like looking out my window and seeing chickens on a fence post, wildflowers, and sunrises? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24349

QUESTION 11395: Do you hear Mother Nature calling you to come out and absorb the natural beauty around you?

EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24350

QUESTION 11396: Are you learning to walk away from things that are not meant for you, and are you walking bravely towards the things that are meant for you? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 09, 2024

Universal Truth 2571: I hate when people ask me “Why are you so quiet?” Because I am. That’s how I function. I don’t ask others “Why are you so noisy? Why do you talk so much?” It’s rude. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2572: Without rain nothing grows, learn to embrace the storms of your life. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2573: I forgive people. It does not mean that I accept their behavior nor trust them again. It means I forgive them for me, so I can let go and move on with my life. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2574: Truth is like a surgery. It hurts, but it heals. A Lie is like a painkiller. It gives instant relief but has side effects forever. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2575: Sometimes you have to do things alone. No family. No friends. No partner. Just you and your Faith Deity. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 302:

Thank You

Thank you for all the moments we’ve shared,

moments filled with shared dreams and wishes,

secrets, laughter, and tears, and above all, friendship.

Each precious second will be treasured in my heart forever.

Thank you for taking time, time to stop and take

an interest in me; time to listen to my problems

and help me find the solutions, and most of all,

time to smile at me and show you care..

Thank you for being you, you’re a wonderful person.

You were there when I needed you to confide

in and to ask advice from.

Through you, I began to understand and then like myself..

How can I ever tell you how much I care for you??

Thank you, my friend… — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 303:

If

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk to wise;

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master;

If you can think–and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with triumph and disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,

And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch;

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run–

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And–which is more–you’ll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1203 MAY 09, 2024

A Beautiful Hazy Blue Sky This Morning

A Warm Soothing Stroll Through Tesoro

Fallen Larger Leaves Beginning To Line My Path

Views Across The Valley Are Spectacular

First Group Of Flora Of Pink, Red, And White

Second Group Massacred By Gardener Terrorists

Third Group Intact Filled With Bees And Beatles

Next My Grounding Area To Connect With Nature

Gardener Terrorist Chopping Away Presently

Rabbit, Squirrels, & Bees Disappear From Area

A Hopeful Sign Was Appearance Of A Lady Bug.

Ommmmmmmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . .

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24341

QUESTION 11387: Do you realize how happy you can be if you stop expecting from others? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24342

QUESTION 11388: Do you realize that worrying is a total waste of your time? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24343

QUESTION 11389: Do you realize that worrying does not change anything? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24344

QUESTION 11390: Do you realized that worrying only steals your joy and keep you from being productive?

EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24345

QUESTION 11391: Do you realized that winners are not people who never fail but people who never quit? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 08, 2024

Universal Truth 2566:

SIGNS OF A HIGH VIBRATION PERSON

1. Animals feel safe in your presence.

2. People stare at you in public.

3. Random strangers love to come to you and talk and tell you their life stories.

4. You can feel the energy of a room shift when you walk in.

5. You irritate toxic people just by being your true and authentic self. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2567: Either I grow with you, or I outgrow you. I’m not standing still for anyone. — Roshanda

Universal Truth 2568: You only need one thing from fake people, “Distance!” — Unknown

Universal Truth 2569: Some people only come into your life only to teach you how to live alone. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2570: People will start hating you when they cannot control you. Remember that. — Denzel Washington

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 301:

The Passenger

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he’d told her was empty. Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg.

It had been a year since Susan, thirty-four, became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis, she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration, and self-pity. Once a fiercely independent woman, Susan now felt condemned by this terrible twist of fate to become a powerless, helpless burden on everyone around her. “How could this have happened to me?” she would plead, her heart knotted with anger. But no matter how much she cried or ranted or prayed, she knew the painful truth-her sight was never going to return. A cloud of depression hung over Susan’s once optimistic spirit. Just getting through each day was an exercise in frustration and exhaustion. And all she had to cling to was her husband Mark.

Mark was an Air Force officer, and he loved Susan with all of his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again. Mark’s military background had trained him well to deal with sensitive situations, and yet he knew this was the most difficult battle he would ever face.

Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city. At first, this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark’s need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized that this arrangement wasn’t working – it was hectic, and costly. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But just the thought of mentioning it to her made him cringe. She was still so fragile, so angry. How would she react?

Just as Mark predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. “I’m blind!” she responded bitterly. “How am I supposed to know where I’m going? I feel like you’re abandoning me.” Mark’s heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it. And that is exactly what happened.

For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her and save her a seat. He made her laugh, even on those not-so-good days when she would trip exiting the bus or drop her briefcase. Each morning, they made the journey together, and Mark would take a cab back to his office. Although this routine was even more costly and exhausting than the previous one, Mark knew it was only a matter of time before Susan would be able to ride the bus on her own. He believed in her, in the Susan he used to know before she’d lost her sight, who wasn’t afraid of any challenge and who would never, ever quit. Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday … Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself!

On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, “Boy, I sure envy you.” Susan wasn’t sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked the driver, “Why do you say that you envy me?” The driver responded, “It must feel so good to be taken care of and protected like you are.” Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and asked again, “What do you mean?” The driver answered, “You know, every morning for the past week, a fine-looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely, and he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady.”

Tears of happiness poured down Susan’s cheeks. For although she couldn’t physically see him, she had always felt Mark’s presence. She was blessed, so blessed, for he had given her a gift more powerful than sight, a gift she didn’t need to see to believe – the gift of love that can bring light where there had been darkness.

God watches over us in just the same way. We may not know He is present. We may not be able to see His face, but He is there nonetheless!

My Wish For You Today is to be blessed in this thought:

“God Loves You – even when you are not looking.”

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1202 MAY 08, 2024

Another Beautiful Clear Blue-Sky Morning

Waiting For My Access Ride To Trader Joe’s

Access Service In Lancaster Was Excellent

Access Service Lacking In San Fernando

Trader Joe’s Employees Very Helpful

Offering A Chair To Rest In The Shade

While Access Fails My Return Trip

Access Return Is Scheduled For 12:11.

Next Ride Available At 2:30 In Hot Sun

Fortunately, A Son Was Available

Before My Frozen Food Would Defrost

Such Terrible Access Service Here.

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24336

QUESTION 11382: Do you understand that not knowing the truth does not make you ignorant? Do you understand that not wanting to know the truth is what makes you ignorant? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24337

QUESTION 11383: Do you understand that being positive does not mean you do not ever have negative thoughts? Do you understand that it just means you do not let those thoughts control your life? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24338

QUESTION 11384: Do you understand that when you depend on someone to make you happy, you give them the same power to make you miserable? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24339

QUESTION 11385: Are you that person who roots for others, who tells a stranger they look amazing, and encourages others to believe in themselves and their dreams? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24340

QUESTION 11386: Do you deserve someone who is going to treat you like you matter every day and not just when it is convenient for that someone? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 07,2024

Universal Truth 2561: I’m at a place in my life where I promise you I will not deal with anything I do not have to. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2562: You deserve a slow love. Uncomplicated. No rush. Sure. Stable. Consistent. You deserve that love. You deserve someone that is sure of you, that you are sure of. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2563: For your peace of mind, do not try to understand everything. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2564: Be a soul who finds beauty in everything! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2565: Be strong, you never know who you are inspiring. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 300:

The Master’s Hand

T’was battered and scarred, and the old auctioneer

Thought it scarcely worth his while

to waste much time on the old violin,

But held it up with a smile:

“What am I bidden, good folks,” he cried,

“Who’ll start the bidding for me?”

“A dollar, a dollar”; then, “Two!”

“Only two? Two dollars, and who’ll make it three?

Three dollars, once; three dollars, twice; going for three …”

but no.

From the room far back, a gray-haired man

Came forward and picked up the bow;

Then, wiping the dust from the old violin,

And tightening the loose strings,

He played a melody pure and sweet

As a caroling angel sings.

The music ceased, and the auctioneer,

With a voice that was quiet and low,

Said; “What am I bidden for the old violin?”

And he held it up with the bow.

“A thousand! And who’ll make it two?

Two thousand! And who’ll make it three?

Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice,

And going, and gone,” said he.

The people cheered, but some of them cried,

“We do not quite understand

What changed it’s worth.”

Swift came the reply:

“The touch of the master’s hand.”

And many a man with life out of tune,

And battered and scarred with sun,

Is auctioned cheep to the thoughtless crowd,

Much like this old violin.

A “mess of pottage,” a glass of wine;

A game; and he travels on.

He is “going” once, “going” twice,

He’s “going” and almost “gone.”

But the Master comes, and the foolish crowd

Never can quite understand

The worth of a soul and the change that’s wrought

By the touch of the Master’s hand.

Each of us is priceless in the eyes of God,

Tell your friends how much they are loved.

Unknown

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1201 MAY 07, 2024

Strolling Through Tesoro With Clear Blue Skies

All Flora Welcoming The Sun And The Bees

Dazzling My Eyes With Their Warm Colors

My Nasal Senses With Their Fragrances

My Touch Senses With Their Soft Textures

A Wonderful Journey With Mother Nature

As I Pause To Ground Myself With Gaia

Bees, Lizards, And Rabbit Come To Greet Me

As A Doze Off In The Shade Of A Momiji Tree

Ommmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . . . . .

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24331

QUESTION 11377: Do you understand that ‘forgiveness’ does not mean I forgot what happened; it means I chose not to be a prisoner to it!? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24332

QUESTION 11378: Do you realize that it is never too late to be what you might have been? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24333

QUESTION 11379: Are you being kind to past versions of yourself that did not know the things that you know now?

EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24334

QUESTION 11380: Do you realize that overthinking will not only kill your mind but also your heart, your soul, your mood, your magic, and love? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24335

QUESTION 11381: Are you aware that switching your mindset from “I hope I can do this” to “I’m going to make this happen” is a game changer? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 06,2024

Universal Truth 2556: It takes a real man to realize that one woman is enough. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2557: We must continually outgrow who we have been, in order to continually develop into who we were created to become. Be proud of how you chose not to repeat that cycle again. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2558: When you really pay attention, everything is your teacher. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2559: It is not about who you impress. It is about who you impact. — @mulberrymagick.com

Universal Truth 2560: One day I will be just a Memory. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 299:

Does God Dance on Your Potato Chips?

This is an inspiring little story that is sure to change the outlook of your day….

Not too long ago I had “one of those days”. I was feeling pressure from a writing deadline. I had company arriving in a couple days and the toilet was clogged. I went to the bank, and the trainee teller processing my deposit had to start over three times. I swung by the supermarket to pick up a few things and the lines were serpentine. By the time I got home, I was frazzled and sweaty and in a hurry to get something on the table for dinner.

Deciding on Campbell’s Cream of Mushroom Soup, I grabbed a can opener, cranked open the can, then remembered I had forgotten to buy milk at the store. Nix the soup idea. Setting the can aside, I went to plan B, which was leftover baked beans. I grabbed a Tupperware from the fridge, popped the seal, took a look and groaned.

My husband isn’t a picky eater, but even HE won’t eat baked beans that look like caterpillars. Really frustrated, now, I decided on a menu that promised to be as foolproof as it is nutrition-free: hot dogs and potato chips. Retrieving a brand-new bag of chips from the cupboard, I grabbed the cellophane and gave a hearty pull. The bag didn’t open. I tried again.

Nothing happened. I took a breath, doubled my muscle, and gave the bag a hearty wrestle. With a loud pop, the cellophane suddenly gave way, ripping wide from top to bottom. Chips flew sky high. I was left holding the bag, and it was empty.

It was the final straw. I let out a blood curdling scream. “I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!”

My husband heard my unorthodox cry for help. Within minutes he was standing at the doorway to the kitchen, where he surveyed the damage:

An opened can of soup, melting groceries, moldy baked beans, and one quivering wife standing ankle deep in potato chips. My husband did the most helpful thing he could think of at the moment. He took a flying leap, landing flat-footed in the pile of chips. And then he began to stomp and dance and twirl, grinding those chips into my linoleum in the process! I stared. I fumed. Pretty soon I was working to stifle a smile.

Eventually I had to laugh. And finally, I decided to join him. I, too, took a leap onto the chips. And then I danced.

Now I’ll be the first to admit that my husband’s response wasn’t the one I was looking for. But the truth is, it was exactly what I needed. I didn’t need a cleanup crew as much as I needed an attitude adjustment, and the laughter from that rather funky moment provided just that.

So now I have a question for you, and it’s simply this: Has God ever stomped on your chips? I know that, in my life, there have been plenty of times when I’ve gotten myself into frustrating situations and I’ve cried out for help, all the while hoping God would show up with a celestial broom and clean up the mess I’ve made of things.

What often happens instead is that God dances on my chips, answering my prayer in a completely different manner than I had expected, but in the manner that is best for me after all. Sometimes I can see right away that God’s response was the best one after all. Sometimes I have to wait weeks or months before I begin to understand how and why God answered a particular prayer the way he did. There are even some situations that, years later, I’m still trying to understand. I figure God will fill me in sooner or later, either this side of Heaven or beyond.

Do I trust Him? Even when He’s answering my prayers in a way that is completely different from my expectations. Even when He’s dancing and stomping instead of sweeping and mopping? Can I embrace what He’s offering? Can I let His joy adjust my attitude? Am I going to stand on the sidelines and sulk, or am I willing to learn the steps of the dance He’s dancing with my needs in mind?

I’ll be honest with you: Sometimes I sulk. Sometimes I dance. I’m working on doing more of the latter than the former. I guess the older I get the more I realize that He really does know what He’s doing. He loves me and I can trust Him. Even when the chips are down. — Author Unknown

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1200 MAY 06, 2024

This Mornings Stroll With Blue Skies

Puffy White Clouds Every Where

Morning Flowers Open To The Sun

Yellow Lilies Posing For My Camera

More Fallen Leaves Lining My Path

Camera Recording Their Final Glory

Walking Through The New Rose Garden

Rainbow Of Colors Dazzling My Eyes

Beetles Feasting On Flower Cores

Mother Nature’s Gifts Are Wondrous

Now To My Healing Grounding Area

As I Meditate With My Wisdom Tomes

Ommmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . . . . . Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24326

QUESTION 11372: Do you realize that the more you value things, the less you value yourself? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24327

QUESTION 11373: Are you aware that you become what you give your attention to? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24328

QUESTION 11374: Are you aware that just because you have a piece of paper that says you graduated from university, does not mean that you are not an idiot? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24329

QUESTION 11375: Is your life with more days of “I can’t believe I did this!” or more days of “I wish I had done that”? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24330

QUESTION 11376: Do you realize that manipulation is when they blame you for your reaction to their disrespect?EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 05,2024

Universal Truth 2551: Even if you go for it and it does not work out, you still win. You had the guts to head straight into something that scared you. That type of bravery will take you places. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2552:

Advice from a tree

• Stand tall and proud

• Go out on a limb

• Remember your roots

• Drink plenty of water

• Be content with your natural beauty

• Enjoy the view. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2553: People who have a high spiritual intelligence don’t just read words. They read moods, they read energy, they read vibes, body language… Their senses are supreme. They might not say much, but they notice everything. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2554: Welcome to California. Winter is at 6am. Spring starts at 10am. Summer is at 2pm and Fall is around 4:30ish. Dress accordingly. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2555: There is no greater wealth in this world than Peace of Mind. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 298:

A Change of Heart by Bob Perks © 2001

It’s the world we live in that made me feel that way. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have thought for a moment about sitting next to that beautiful young girl.

My recent trip to Kentucky ran smoothly except for a near two-hour delay in Pittsburgh. I must admit I have never had a major problem while flying across this great country. In fact, I believe this was the first time I have ever experienced a delay that long.

But I always tell my travel agent that if ever I need to be delayed let it be in Pittsburgh. They have the greatest shops and restaurants to keep me busy for hours.

They finally announced boarding. Now I don’t believe for a moment that I’m the only person who goes through this. From the moment I enter the plane I start scanning ahead to see my seat. “Who’s sitting next to me on this flight?” I wonder. “Is there anyone in my seat already?” That’s happened a few times. “Are there any screaming babies nearby?”

Flight time is precious time for me. I sleep, write, or read. So screaming babies and frequent bathroom people become a problem.

Today I get to sit next to a beautiful young girl who appears to be about 12 years old. As I approach my seat she seems nervous, perhaps a little apprehensive and I must say very disappointed. You see walking in front of me was this handsome young male teenager. I could see that sparkle in her eye dim as he walked by and I sat down. I’ll admit I was nervous and concerned. She was traveling alone and I was one of those strangers her parents told her not to talk to.

“Hi! My name is Bob,” I said.

“Hello!” she replied without giving her name.

Then we spent the next one hour and fifteen minutes not saying a word.

She was a typical kid. She never sat still for longer than five minutes. Often times, she reached into her carry on and pulled out what appeared to be six brushes, four packs of gum and all the empty wrappers, a bag filled with jaw breakers, a tube of rainbow-colored sugar crystals and three-foot-long licorice. Oh, yes, she also ate two bags of airplane peanuts. I gave her mine.

It wasn’t until the last 15 minutes of the flight that I heard it. That sweet sounding Voice that said “Give her one of your books!”

“She’s only 12,” I argued. “She won’t find my book interesting. Do they even know how to read at 12?” I thought sarcastically.

But again and again, I heard it repeat, “Give her one of your books!” And so I opened one up, signed it and said, “I am a professional speaker and author. I’d like to give you one of my books if you would permit me.”

She giggled a bit and said yes followed by “Oh, thanks!”

I then began to explain the story.

“It’s a fictional story based on actual events. I changed the names but basically much of this is true. My oldest son, Keith had cancer and that’s part of this book.”

“Oh, I’m sorry”, she said. “No need to be. He’s doing just fine, thank you. Where are you from?” I asked.

Then for the next ten minutes this young lady never stopped talking. In fact, as we were leaving the plane she talked and walked backwards down the aisle.

Much of what she said was all a blur for me after she said these words: “Wow, I just saw the Hershey Medical Center mentioned in there. Is that where your son went for his cancer treatments?” she asked.

I nodded “Yes.”

“That’s where I had my heart transplant,” she said with a big smile.

Heart transplant. This child had a heart transplant. Then I took notice. Right at the top of her pink t-shirt, just below her collar bone, the beginnings of a scar peeked over her collar. This vibrant young, beautiful girl had the heart of a donor. Obviously, a young donor who lived in a family who cared enough to save another child’s life.

She continued to share the details of her stay at Hershey. I continued to listen in amazement. For the story she told was a familiar one. She was the girl down the hall we all prayed for. I never knew how things turned out for her until today.

They say some lives cross because they were meant to. This was more than a chance meeting. I discovered that this child leaving Pittsburgh to go home to Kentucky was a patient in the same hospital, on the same miraculous floor, at the same time my son was there. That little Voice inside of me kept telling me to give her a copy of my book. I argued. The Voice won…as always.

The last words she said to me was…”My Mom always told me that God was going to call me home but then He had a “Change of Heart!” Do you get it?” Then she giggled and laughed as she walked through the last door into the arms of her loving family.

I got it. I heard the Voice say, “Now you know why!” “I believe in you!”

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1199 MAY 05, 2024

Overcast Water Laden Dark Clouds

Chilly Stroll This Saturday Morning

Some Flora Closed Up Real Tight

Lilies Are Fully Open To The Limited Light

Visited A New Area With A Floral Garden

Birds, Lizards, And Insects Everywhere

Friendly People Walking Friendly Dogs

Started Relaxing At My Grounding Spot

Time For A Meditative Nap Near Boulder

An In The Shade Of Red Momoji Trees

Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24321

QUESTION 11367: Are you aware that a knife or a gun never kills anybody; they are tools in the killer’s hand?

EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24322

QUESTION 11368: Can you love yourself well enough to make up for anyone who does not? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24323

QUESTION 11369: Don’t you love it when a happy memory sneaks up and makes you smile? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24324

QUESTION 11370: Do you want material things, or do you want peace, happy times, and people that love you? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24325

QUESTION 11371: Are you aware that you are free to make your own choices; however, you are not free from the consequences of your choices? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 04,2024

Universal Truth 2546: You asked to be on Earth during these events. You are not here by accident. You signed up for these experiences before you came here. Enjoy the ride. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2547: “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while me live.”

—Unknown

Universal Truth 2548: I am currently in a season where I crave nature, solitude, & self-exploration more than anything else! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2549: If someone seriously wants to be a part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2550: Every time you get upset at something, ask yourself if you were to die tomorrow, was it worth wasting your time being angry. — Robert Tew

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 296:

Friendship’s Road

I’ve a warm and friendly feeling

As I think of you today,

And I wish that we could visit,

But you’re many miles away.

Separated by such distance,

Yet your letters bring you near,

Through the miles we share a friendship

That’s become to me most dear.

Friends through correspondence only,

Still your face I need not see,

For your soul shines through the pages

Every time you write to me!

Your special way of writing,

Warming as the sunshine rays,

Brings joy and inspiration,

And brightens up my days.

You’ve enriched my life, my dear friend,

And I hope God wills we meet,

Friendship’s Road is so much nicer

Traveling with one so sweet!

n Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 297:

Jesus At The Door

I hurried through my daily chores

And didn’t stop to pray,

But a knocking sounded in my head

Did you make time for Me today?

I had so much that I must do

I pushed the thought away,

And hurried on to get things done

I’ve no time to pray today.

When at last my work was finished

Happy … I should have been,

But within me I felt empty

There’s that knocking in my head again.

Down on my knees I dropped

With Jesus I would soar,

To answer that sweet knocking

It’s Jesus at the door.

~ by Charlotte Anselmo ~

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1198 MAY 04, 2024

A Very Hazy Cloudy Blue Warm Sky

Beautiful Array Of Flowers In Bloom

Met Kind Residents On My Morning Stroll

A Lady Opened To Informal Conversation

Missed My Grounding Waiting For Costco

Rabbit Munching In My Grounding Spot

Three Full Red Japanese Mulberry Trees

Mother Nature Has Blessed Me Again

Ommmmmmmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . .

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24316

QUESTION 11362: Do you listen to gossip? If so, why?

EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24317

QUESTION 11363: Are you ready to ignore what people say about you? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24318

QUESTION 11364: Are you ready to design your own life and let the past go? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24319

QUESTION 11365: Are you looking for the positive in every situation? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24320

QUESTION 11366: Are you willing to laugh more and foster an attitude of gratitude? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 03,2024

Universal Truth 2541: It’s not the needy who are a problem in this world, it’s the greedy. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2542: I think a hero is any person really intent on making this a better place for ALL people. — Maya Angelou

Universal Truth 2543: ”Men speak opinions, not facts. Our eyes see perspective, not truth.” — Marcus Aurelius

Universal Truth 2544: ”We are slowed down sound and light waves, a walking bundle of frequencies tuned into the music of the cosmos, we are souls dressed up in sacred biochemical garments, and our bodies are the instruments through which our souls play their music” — Albert Einstein

Universal Truth 2545: Hating your Country is like hating your parents and still living in their home. Move out and be happy somewhere else. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 295:

Recipe for a Miracle

Here is a secret recipe, filled with love to you from me.

Keep it close to your heart for the days of gloom and ill start.

This recipe will help you many a day to keep the negativity away…

Ingredients:

1 cup Tension

2 cups Stress

1 1/2 teaspoons of Guilt

2 heaping cups of Limited Time

3/4 tablespoon of Urgency

A dash of “No Other Choice”

3 heaping cups of Faith

Directions:

Fold ingredients gently into a bowl. Mix vigorously and add a few tears. You’ll sweat a little as you knead the dough. Pack it firmly between your hopes and dreams and form into a perfect little ball. Sprinkle it with a little faith, rolling the ball in the flour until fully covered.

Place it under a veil of belief and allow it to rise.

Put it in an oven that has been pre-set at the perfect temperature for the heat of trials and tribulations.

Allow it to brown under the warmth of God’s love. Remove after due season and allow to cool in the confidence of His promise.

Garnish with your praises. Arrange neatly on a platter of thankfulness and serve to friends, families and, oh yes, strangers . . . invite them too!

Pass on the recipe to all and let them know that with this recipe, they have the makings of a miracle!

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1197 MAY 03, 2024

A Very Hazy Cloudless Blue Warm Sky

The Plant Terrorist Gardeners Are Gone

Bldg ‘A’ Has Beautiful Array Of Flowers In Bloom

Met Another Veteran Who Just Moved In

Army And Navy Veterans In Mutual Experiences

Another Lady Opened To Informal Conversation

Next To My Grounding Spot To Connect To Gaia

In The Shade Of The Japanese Mulberry Tree

Mother Nature And I In Sybiotic Embrace

Ommmmmmmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . . Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24311

QUESTION 11357: Are you waiting until you are rich to be happy? Do you know that happiness is free? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24312

QUESTION 11258: Do you know that the power to create a new life is within you? Do you understand that the past or the people in it do not define you? Are you willing to move forward and create a beautiful future? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24313

QUESTION 11359: If you were to die tomorrow, was it worth wasting your time and health on being angry every time you get upset about something? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24314

QUESTION 11360: Are you aware that change can be hard at first, messy in the middle, and beautiful in the end?

EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24315

QUESTION 11361: Are you aware that if you are strong enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with another hello? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 02,2024

Universal Truth 2536: Never expect loyalty from a person that cannot even give you honesty. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2537: You can’t change how people feel about you, so do not try. Just live your life and be happy. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2538: When being there for each other through thick and thin is not just a promise but a practice, that is when you know it is real. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2539: The more you feed your mind with positive thoughts, the more you attract great things into your life. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2540: I am getting too old to be around people who do not understand the concept of loyalty and honesty. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 294:

The Secret

One day, one friend asked another, “How is it that you are always so happy? You have so much energy, and you never seem to get down.”

With her eyes smiling, she said, “I know the Secret!” “What secret is that?” To which she replied, “I’ll tell you all about it, but you have to promise to share the Secret with others.”

“The Secret is this: I have learned there is little I can do in my life that will make me truly happy. I must depend on God to make me happy and to meet my needs. When a need arises in my life, I have to trust God to supply according to HIS riches. I have learned most of the time I don’t need half of what I think I do. He has never let me down. Since I learned that ‘Secret’, I am happy.”

The questioner’s first thought was, “That’s too simple!” But upon reflecting over her own life she recalled how she thought a bigger house would make her happy, but it didn’t! She thought a better paying job would make her happy, but it hadn’t. When did she realize her greatest happiness? Sitting on the floor with her grandchildren, playing games, eating pizza or reading a story, a simple gift from God.

Now you know it too! We can’t depend on people to make us happy. Only GOD in His infinite wisdom can do that. Trust HIM! And now I pass the Secret on to you! So once you get it, what will you do?

YOU have to tell someone the Secret, too! That GOD in His wisdom will take care of YOU! — Author Unknown

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1196 MAY 02, 2024

Another Clear Cloudless Hazy Blue Sky

Hot Sun Burning Down On My Neck

Beautiful Flowers In Bloom Everywhere

Terrorists Gardeners Cutting Down Flora

Denying Bees Their Nectar Pollen Sharing

Seniors Denied Visual Beauty & Fragrances

While Grounding Bees And Join My Leisure

Mother Nature’s Loving Soothing Presence

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24306

QUESTION 11352: Are you so busy making a living that you are forgetting to make a life? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24307

QUESTION 11353: Are you aware that as long as you carry a book with you, you will always have company and a weapon? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24308

QUESTION 11354: Do you have to hurt other people in order to feel powerful? Are you aware that that makes you an extremely weak individual? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24309

QUESTION 11355: Do you believe that women and girls deserve to be champions in their own sports? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24310

QUESTION 11356: Can you forgive some people without welcoming them back into your life? Can you say that their

apology is accepted, but their access is denied? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: MAY 01,2024

Universal Truth 2531: When I say I am blessed I do not mean money or material things. I mean situations that were sent to destroy me or make me lose my mind but did not even touch my soul. — Keanu Reeves

Universal Truth 2532: No matter how good you are you will always be bad in someone’s story. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2533: Peace is not when everyone agrees. It is when we can respect our disagreements and still play in the sandbox together. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2534: A person settles where one finds peace. Not money, not beauty, not status, but peace. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2535: Study nature, love nature, stay close to nature. It will never fail you. — Frank Lloyd Wright

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 293:

A Great Life

I’ve heard the saying, “The best gift parents can ever give to their children is to love each other.”

I’ve had the pleasure of witnessing the truth of this statement for over 40 years. From as far back as I can remember my Mom and Dad were a team. A great partnership. They were more than just a partnership. It was as if they were one person.

Sure, they argued, but there was never any doubt in our minds that any disagreements would be worked through and resolved. Mom and Dad began their married life poor, but they worked hard and, over the years, built a very successful business. They each had their strengths and weaknesses, but the way they worked together, you never saw the weaknesses, just the strengths.

Dad was the outgoing, more public person with whom people met and fell in love with right away. Everyone knew Dad! Then, when they got to meet Mom, they felt the exact same way about her as well. Mom, although not at all shy, was more comfortable being the person behind the scenes. More detail oriented, she ran the books and, according to Dad, was the one who really made the business work.

The biggest lesson about love and marriage that my mom and dad taught us kids was how to talk “about” your spouse. Have you ever heard husbands and wives, when speaking to others, make unkind remarks about their spouses? It’s one of those things people just seem to do. Sure, they’re “only kidding,” or maybe they are not. But words matter. And words teach, whether positively or negatively.

You would never hear such a thing from my mom and dad. Dad always speaks of Mom in the most complimentary, glowing terms. As does she of him.

This lesson made such an impression on me. I still remember when I was age 12 and we were getting carpet installed in our home. The crew boss was one of those stereotypical beer guzzling, hard-living guys, who would have probably belonged to Ralph Kramden’s Raccoon Lodge from the old Honeymooner’s TV show. For lunch, my folks bought pizza for the crew. Dad went to talk with the boss about the job. I was around the corner listening. The boss said, “This is an expensive job. Women will really spend your money, won’t they?” Dad responded, “Well, I’ll tell you, when they were right there with you before you had any money, it’s a pleasure to do anything for them you possibly can.”

This wasn’t the answer the carpet installer expected to hear. He was looking for negative banter about wives which, to him, was natural. He tried again: “But, gee, they’ll really play off that and spend all they can, won’t they?” Dad replied, as I knew he would, “Hey, when they’re the reason you’re successful, you want them to do the things they enjoy. There’s no greater pleasure.” Strike two.

The crew boss tried one more time, “And they’ll take that as far as they can, huh?” Dad responded, “She’s the best thing that ever happened to me. I’d do anything to make her happy.” I was trying not to laugh. I knew he wanted Dad to give in just a little bit and say, “Yeah, I guess that’s true.” But it wouldn’t happen… not in a million years!

Finally, the installer gave up and went back to work, probably shaking his head in bewilderment. Witnessing my dad in that moment taught me more about loving and respecting your wife than anything he could ever have told me about the subject.

Mom and Dad are now retired and enjoying their life together, just hanging out, reading, and visiting their children and grandchildren. They recently celebrated their 43rd wedding anniversary.

They still hold hands, and they are more in love than ever. Throughout the years, whenever Mom would remind me that I should be looking to get married, I’d say, “Ma, I have plenty of time.” She’d jokingly reply that I don’t have “that” much time. My Dad would then look at me in that wisdom-filled, city streets bred way of his and say, “Hey, you take all the time you need. If you marry someone just half the woman your mother is, you’ll have a great life.”

I should only be so lucky. — Author Unknown

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1195 MAY 01, 2024

Late Tuesday Morning Stroll Through Nature

Clear Blue Skies And A Very Warm Sun

New Fallen Leaves With Amazing Colors

Continue To Line Walk Through Tesoro

Bird Shadows Zoom By To Feed The Young

The Trees Full Of Hungry Chirping Sounds

Flowers Welcoming The Hot Sun And Bees

As I Settle In My Usual Grounding Spot

A Few Bees Visiting The Flora At My Feet

A Japanese Momiji Tree Shades My Being

As I Fade Off Into A Meditative Slumber

Mother Nature And I In Full Symbiosis

Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24301

QUESTION 11348: Do you realize that you are the best judge of your own happiness? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24302

QUESTION 11349: Do you realize that your words mean nothing when your actions are the complete opposite? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24303

QUESTION 11350: Do you really trust someone who is friends with your enemy? If so, why? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24304

QUESTION 11351: Can you comprehend that ambitious women only have two options: A supportive partner or no partner at all? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24305

NOTE: No matter how badly someone treats you, never drop down to their level. Remain calm, stay strong, and walk away. EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: APR 30,2024

Universal Truth 2526: Without your suffering, you would not be half the person you are today! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2527: “We should never forget the Constitution wasn’t written to restrain citizen’s behavior it was written to restrain the government’s behavior.” — Rand Paul

Universal Truth 2528: ”All I’m saying is that the difference between humans and animals is that animals would never allow the dumbest of the herd to lead them.”— Unknown

Universal Truth 2529: True love requires faith, trust and loyalty. Not chocolate, flowers, and expensive gifts. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2530: When you change, do not announce it. Just bloom. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 292:

If I Had My Life To Live Over by Erma Bombeck, who later died of cancer.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.”

There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute, look at it and really see it , live it and never give it back.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1194 APR 30, 2024

Late Morning Stroll Through Mature

Clear Blue Skies with One Small Cloud

More Fallen Leaves With Amazing Colors

Avians Casting Shadows As They Fly By

Spied One Beautiful Raven Swooping By

Flowers Blooming Greeting The Hot Sun

As I Settle In My Usual Grounding Spot

A Few Bees Visiting The Flora At My Feet

In The Shade Of A Japanese Momiji Tree

I Fade Off Into A Meditative Slumber

Ommmmmmmzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……. . . . . Emilkoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24296

QUESTION 11343: Using one word what is your state of mind right now? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24297

QUESTION 11344: Do you realize that you are the best judge of your own happiness? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24298

QUESTION 11345: Do you realize that time is free and priceless? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24299

QUESTION 11346: Do you realize that once you have lost time, you can never get it back?EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24300

QUESTION 11347: Are you aware that kindness does not cost a thing, yet it is the richest gift you can give? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: APR 29,2024

Universal Truth 2521: Home is not a place you go to. Home is the heart that welcomes you in. — Onur Tagkiran Poetry®

Universal Truth 2522: Home is being wrapped tightly in someone else’s soul. — Onur Taskewar Farmer’s Soul

Universal Truth 2523: Imagine meeting someone who wanted to learn your past not to punish you, but to understand how you needed to be loved. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2524: “The Clán Mothers ran everything and had the last word. I think that’s the answer.” ~ Floyd Red Crow Westerman

Universal Truth 2525: Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you are not alone.” — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTE 291:

My Miraculous Family

I never considered myself unique, but people are constantly telling me, “I am a miracle.” To me, I was just an ordinary “guy” with realistic goals and big dreams. I was a 19-year-old student at the University of Texas and well on my way toward fulfilling my “big dream” of one day becoming an orthopedic surgeon.

On the night of February 17, 1981, I was studying for an Organic Chemistry test at the library with Sharon, my girlfriend of three years. Sharon had asked me to drive her back to her dormitory as it was getting quite late. We got into my car, not realizing that just getting into a car would never quite be the same for me again. I quickly noticed that my gas gauge was registered on empty, so I pulled into a nearby convenience store to buy $2.00 worth of gas. “I’ll be back in two minutes,” I yelled at Sharon as I closed the door. But instead, those two minutes changed my life forever.

Entering the convenience store was like entering the twilight zone. On the outside I was a healthy, athletic, pre-med student, but on the inside, I was just another statistic of a violent crime. I thought I was entering an empty store, but suddenly I realized it was not empty at all.

Three robbers were in the process of committing a robbery and my entrance into the store caught them by surprise. One of the criminals immediately shoved a .38 caliber handgun to my head, ordered me to the cooler, pushed me down on the floor, and pumped a bullet into the back of my head – execution style. He obviously thought I was dead because he did not shoot me again. The trio of thieves finished robbing the store and left calmly.

Meanwhile, Sharon wondered why I had not returned. After seeing the three men leave the store she really began to worry as I was the last person she saw entering the store. She quickly went inside to look for me but saw no one — only an almost empty cash register containing one check and several pennies. Quickly she ran down each aisle shouting, “Mike, Mike!”

Just then the attendant appeared from the back of the store shouting, “Lady, get down on the floor. I’ve just been robbed and shot at!”

Sharon quickly dropped to the floor screaming, “Have you seen my boyfriend … auburn hair?” The man did not reply but went back to the cooler where he found me choking on my vomit. The attendant quickly cleaned my mouth and then called for the police and an ambulance.

Sharon was in shock. She was beginning to understand that I was hurt, but she could not begin to comprehend or imagine the severity of my injury.

When the police arrived, they immediately called the homicide division as they did not think I would survive, and the paramedic reported that she had never seen a person so severely wounded survive. At 1:30 a.m. my parents who lived in Houston, were awakened by a telephone call from Brackenridge Hospital advising them to come to Austin as soon as possible for they feared I would not make it through the night.

But I did make it through the night and early in the morning the neurosurgeon decided to operate. However, he quickly informed my family and Sharon that my chances of surviving the surgery were only 40/60. If this were not bad enough, the neurosurgeon further shocked my family by telling them what life would be like for me if I beat the odds and survived. He said I probably would never walk, talk, or be able to understand even simple commands.

My family was hoping and praying to hear even the

slightest bit of encouragement from that doctor. Instead, his pessimistic words gave my family no reason to believe that I would ever again be a productive member of society. But once again I beat the odds and survived the three and a half hours of surgery.

Even though my family breathed a huge sigh of relief that I was still alive the doctor cautioned that it would still be several days before I would be out of danger. However, with each passing day I became stronger and stronger and two weeks later I was well enough to be moved from the ICU to a private room.

Granted, I still could not talk, my entire right side was paralyzed, and many people thought I could not understand, but at least I was stable. After one week in a private room the doctors felt I had improved enough to be transferred by jet ambulance to Del Oro Rehabilitation Hospital in Houston.

My hallucinations, coupled with my physical problems, made my prognosis still very bleak. However, as time passed my mind began to clear and approximately six weeks later my right leg began to move ever so slightly. Within seven weeks my right arm slowly began to move and at eight weeks I uttered my first few words.

My speech was extremely difficult and slow in the beginning, but at least it was a beginning. I was starting to look forward to each new day to see how far I would progress. But just as I thought my life was finally looking brighter, I was tested by the hospital neuropsychologist. She explained to me that judging from my test results she believed that I should not focus on returning to college but that it would be better to set more “realistic goals.”

Upon hearing her evaluation, I became furious for I thought, “Who is she to tell me what I can or cannot do. She does not even know me. I am a very determined and stubborn person!” I believe it was at that very moment that I decided I would somehow, someday return to college.

It took me a long time and a lot of hard work but I finally returned to the University of Texas in the fall of 1983 – a year and a half after almost dying. The next few years in Austin were very difficult for me, but I truly believe that in order to see beauty in life you have to experience some unpleasantness. Maybe I have experienced too much unpleasantness, but I believe in living each day to the fullest, and doing the very best I can.

And each new day was very busy and very full, for besides attending classes at the University I underwent therapy three to five days each week at Brackenridge Hospital. If this were not enough I flew to Houston every other weekend to work with Tom Williams, a trainer and executive who had worked for many colleges and professional teams and also had helped many injured athletes, such as Earl Campbell and Eric Dickerson.

Through Tom I learned: “Nothing is impossible and never, never give up or quit.”

He echoed the same words and sentiments of a prominent neurosurgeon from Houston, Dr. Alexander Gol, who was a close personal friend of my parents and who drove to Austin with my family in the middle of the night that traumatic February morning. Over the many months I received many opinions from different therapists and doctors, but it was Dr. Gol who told my family to take one day at a time, for no matter how bad the situation looked, no one knew for certain what the brain could do.

Early, during my therapy, my father kept repeating to me one of his favorite sayings. It could have been written by both Tom and Dr. Gol and I have repeated it almost every day since being hurt:

“Mile by mile it’s a trial; yard by yard it’s hard; but inch by inch it’s a cinch.”

I thought of those words, and I thought of Dr. Gol, Tom, my family, and Sharon who believed so strongly in me as I climbed the steps to receive my diploma from the Dean of Liberal Arts at the University of Texas on that bright sunny afternoon in June of 1986. Excitement and pride filled my heart as I heard the dean announce that I had graduated with “highest honors” (grade point average of 3.885), been elected to Phi Beta Kappa, and been chosen as one of 12 Dean’s Distinguished Graduates out of 1600 in the College of Liberal Arts.

The overwhelming emotions and feelings that I experienced at that very moment, when most of the audience gave me a standing ovation, I felt would never again be matched in my life — not even when I graduated with a Master’s Degree in Social Work, and not even when I became employed full time at the Texas Pain and Stress Center. But I was wrong!

On May 24, 1987, I realized that nothing could ever match the joy I felt as Sharon and I were married. Sharon, my high school sweetheart of nine years, had always stood by me, through good and bad times. To me, Sharon is my miracle, my diamond in a world filled with problems, hurt, and pain. It was Sharon who dropped out of school when I was hurt so that she could constantly be at my side. She never wavered or gave up on me.

It was her faith and love that pulled me through so many dark days. While other nineteen-year-old girls were going to parties and enjoying life, Sharon devoted her life to my recovery. That, to me, is the true definition of love.

After our beautiful wedding I continued working part time at the Pain Center and completed my work for a Master’s Degree while Sharon worked as a speech pathologist at a local hospital. We were extremely happy, but even happier when we learned Sharon was pregnant.

On July 11, 1990, at 12:15 a.m. Sharon woke me with the news: “We need to go to the hospital …. my water just broke.” I couldn’t help but think how ironic it was that my life almost ended in a convenience store and now on the date “7-11” we were about to bring a new life into this world. This time it was my turn to help Sharon as she had helped me over those past years. Sharon was having contractions about every two minutes, and each time she needed to have her lower back massaged.

Since she was in labor for 15 hours that meant 450 massages!! It was well worth every bit of pain in my fingers because at 3:10 PM Sharon and I experienced the birth of our beautiful daughter, Shawn Elyse Segal!

Tears of joy and happiness came to my eyes as our healthy, alert, wonderful daughter entered this world. We anxiously counted her 10 fingers and her 10 toes and watched her wide eyes take in the world about her. It was truly a beautiful picture that was etched in my mind forever as she lie in her mother’s waiting arms, just minutes after her birth. At that moment I thanked God for blessing us with the greatest miracle of all — Shawn Elyse Segal.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1193 APR 29, 2024

This Sunday Late Morning Stroll

Clear Blues And Cloudless Skies

Avians Beginning Their Return

Flora Welcoming The Sun & Bees

New Fallen Leaves Lining My Path

With Amazing Colors And Textures

Ready For My Grounding With Gaia

Micro Flora And Daisies At My Feet

Bees Seeking Nectar As Rabbit Appears

Munching On Grass Twenty Feet Away

Mother Nature’s Peaceful Symbiosis

Blessings Of The Sun, Earth, & Nature

Total Peace As I Ground With The Earth

Emilkoval©2024