THOUGHTS 5206 TO 5210

MY THOUGHTS 5206
LOVE: A MARRIAGE OF LOVE DOES NOT EXIST ON THE LEGAL DOCUMENT. IT EXISTS ONLY IN CONFINES OF MUTUALLY COOPERATIVE, LOVING, AND UNDERSTANDING HEARTS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5207
QUESTION 645: WHY DOES SOMEONE HAVE TO LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU LOVE THEM? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5208
LOVE: WHEN YOU TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU LOVE THEM THERE ARE THREE POSSIBLE RESPONSES: 1) ACCEPTANCE, 2) INDIFFERENCE, OR 3) REJECTION. IF THE FIRST RESPONSE IS GIVEN, YOU WILL HAVE GREAT JOY IN YOUR HEART. IF THE LATTER TWO RESPONSES ARE GIVEN, THEN YOU SHOULD ACCEPT THE NEGATIVE RESPONSES AND MOVE ON. IF YOU TRY TO CONVINCE SOMEBODY TO LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM, THE PROBLEM LIES WITH YOU, NOT WITH HIM/HER. JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE SOMEBODY DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY HAVE TO LOVE YOU BACK. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5209
LOVE: IF YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE SOMEBODY TO LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM/HER, YOU ARE TAKING THE WRONG PATH. YOU MAY, LIKE A SALES PERSON WITH A GREAT SALES PITCH, CONVINCE HER/HIM TO ACCEPT YOUR LOVE FOR NOW. HOWEVER, IN THE LONG RUN, IT WILL LEAD TO A TOTAL DISASTER BECAUSE IT REALLY WASN’T HIS/HER FREE WILL CHOICE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5210
RELATIONSHIPS: IF YOU INSISTS ON STARTING A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE MINDSET THAT ‘ALL MEN ARE …’ OR ‘ALL WOMEN ARE…’, THEN YOU SHOULD NOT TRY TO HAVE A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE OF THAT SEX. IF YOU TRULY BELIEVE THAT ‘ALL (MEN/WOMEN) ARE….’ WHEN BEGINNING A RELATIONSHIP, THEN YOU ARE BEGINNING THAT RELATIONSHIP ON A NEGATIVE NOTE AND WILL PUT YOUR POTENTIAL ‘LOVING’ PARTNER IN A DEFENSIVE STANCE IMMEDIATELY. THAT DEFENSIVE STANCE WILL NOT LEAD TO A HARMONIOUS UNION; IT WILL, EVENTUALLY, LEAD TO A RELATIONSHIP FILLED WITH CONFLICT AND DISUNION. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5201 TO 5205

MY THOUGHTS 5201
OPPORTUNITIES: DO NOT TURN AWAY FROM YOUR OPPORTUNITIES OR CHALLENGES, FOR THEY ARE YOUR GIFTS FROM THE COSMOS TO HELP YOU GROW BEYOND WHERE YOU ARE AT THE PRESENT TIME. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5202
OPPORTUNITIES: ALWAYS FACE THE OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES THAT YOU ARE FACING ‘WITH A YOU’ THAT IS BALANCED SPIRITUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND INTELLECTUALLY. WHY, BECAUSE SOME OF THOSE OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES MAY HAVE A HIDDEN NEGATIVE WITHIN THEM. ALWAYS BE READY TO FACE THOSE NEGATIVES AND TO TURN THEM INTO POSITIVE TOOLS ON YOUR PATH. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5203
ACHIEVEMENT: THE TRULY GREATEST CONQUEST IN YOUR LIFE IS THE CONQUEST OF WHO, HOW, WHY, AND WHAT YOU ARE IN ESSENCE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5204
GROWTH: IF YOU HAVE LIVED AN EGO CENTRIC LIFE AND HAVE ATTAINED YOUR MATERIAL AND SOCIAL GOALS AND STILL FEEL EMPTY INSIDE, THEN, IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO FOCUS ON SHARING WITH OTHERS BY FOCUSING ON THOSE AROUND YOU WHO NEED YOUR HELP IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5205
QUESTION 644: IS YOUR FAITH THE BONDING WITH PHYSICAL AND MATERIAL THINGS, OR IS YOUR FAITH A BONDING WITH THE SPIRITUAL? DOES YOUR FAITH CREATE SPIRITUAL BONDING, OR DOES YOUR FAITH CREATE PHYSICAL AND MATERIAL BONDING? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5196 TO 5200

MY THOUGHTS 5196
ACCEPTANCE: WHEN YOU TOLERATE SOMETHING, IT IS A TEMPORARY NEGATIVE ACCEPTANCE OF THAT SOMETHING THAT YOU DO NOT TOTALLY COMPREHEND. WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCES, IT MEANS THAT YOU HAVE ACCEPTED THOSE DIFFERENCES AS A POSITIVE TO HELP EACH OTHER GROW. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5197
QUESTION 641: DO YOU KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TOLERATING YOUR DIFFERENCES WITH OTHERS AND UNDERSTANDING YOUR DIFFERENCES WITH OTHER? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5198
QUESTION 642: CAN YOU GIVE WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS? CAN YOU GIVE WITHOUT PREFERENCES? CAN YOU GIVE JUST TO BE GIVING? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5199
QUESTION 643: IS YOUR SUCCESS BASED ON NEGATIVE ACTIONS TOWARDS OTHERS? IS YOUR SUCCESS BASED ON POSITIVE INTENTIONS TOWARD OTHERS? DOES YOUR SUCCESS HAVE BOTH ASPECTS, AND IF SO, WHY AND HOW? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5200
GIVING: TRUE GIVING DOESN’T REQUIRE FINANCIAL ABILITIES. TRUE GIVING JUST REQUIRES A HEART THAT IS FILLED WITH LOVE, COMPASSION, AND UNDERSTANDING. THE GIFT OF GIVING CAN BE AS SIMPLE AS GIVING A SMILE, TRULY LISTENING, HOLDING SOMEONE’S HAND, ACKNOWLEDGING SOMEONE’S DIFFICULTIES, AND VOLUNTEERING. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5191 TO 5195

MY THOUGHTS 5191
LISTENING: TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO LISTEN. YOU CAN DO THIS BY MAKING A LIST OF YOUR NEGATIVES, FOR EXAMPLE. LOOK AT YOUR LIST AND SEE IF EACH ITEM IS A TRUE OR PERCEIVED NEGATIVE OF YOU. LISTEN TO YOUR INTERNAL VOICES AND MINDFULLY LISTEN TO THOSE AROUND YOU WHO EXPRESS OPINIONS ABOUT YOU. IF THEY ARE PERCEIVED NEGATIVES, THEN CHANGE YOURS AND THEIR PERCEPTIONS. IF THOSE NEGATIVES ARE TRUE NEGATIVES, THEN YOU SHOULD START THE PROCESS OF CHANGING THEM INTO POSITIVE TOOL IN YOUR LIFE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5192
CHALLENGES: DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR DREAMS ARE AND WHAT THE PROBLEMS ARE THAT YOU HAVE ATTAINING THEM? WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THOSE PROBLEMS, TURN YOU CAN THEM INTO POSITIVE TOOLS TO HELP YOU ATTAIN YOUR DREAMS SO THAT THEY WILL NO LONGER INTERFERE IN YOUR DREAMS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5193
FOCUS: ALWAYS BE RELAXED AND AWARE IN YOUR PRESENT MOMENT. WHEN MOMENTS OF FEAR AND CRISIS INTERRUPT YOUR PEACE OF MIND, CALM DOWN BY BEING IN THE PRESENT AND MINDFULLY DEAL WITH THOSE FEARS AND CRISES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5194
QUESTION 640: ARE YOU AWARE OF WHY YOU DO THE NEGATIVE THINGS THAT YOU DO TO YOU? ARE YOU WILLING TO ADDRESS THOSE NEGATIVE THINGS THAT YOU DO THINGS TO YOU? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5195
ANGER: ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND THAT LOGIC IS THE FIRST CASUALTY OF ANGER. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5186 TO 5190

MY THOUGHTS 5186
PARABLES: MILAN RAN INTO AN OLD FRIEND ONE DAY WHO WAS BROADLY SMILING. MILAN ASKED HIM WHY WAS HE SO CONTENT. HE SAID THAT MANY SENIORS AT HIS LOCAL CENTER HAD ASKED HIM TO PICK UP CERTAIN ITEMS FROM DISTANT STORE FOR THEM, WHICH HE DID AND RECEIVED HIS PAYMENT. HOWEVER, ONE ELDERLY KIND LADY SAID THAT SHE HAD TO WAIT TILL SHE HAD RECEIVED HER SOCIAL SECURITY CHECK IN THREE WEEKS. FINALLY, SHE SAID SHE WAS READY TO PAY FOR THE ITEM. HE GAVE THE ITEM TO HER AND RECEIVED THE PAYMENT OF $20. HE LOOKED INTO HER EYES AND PUT THE PAYMENT BACK INTO HER HAND. HE TOLD HER THAT SHE SHOULD TAKE THAT MONEY AND EMPHASIZED THAT SHE SHOULD BUY SOMETHING SPECIAL JUST FOR HERSELF. SHE WAS SO SURPRISED, AS THE TEARS WELLED IN YOUR EYES, BECAUSE SOMEONE HAD THOUGHT ABOUT HER HAPPINESS FIRST. HE MET AGAIN THE NEXT DAY. SHE HAD DONE WHAT HE HAD SUGGESTED. HER FACE WAS RADIANT WITH JOY, WHICH BROUGHT JOY TO MILAN S FRIEND S HEART. THE LADY HAD FULFILLED HER OBLIGATION BY MAKING THE PAYMENT, AND THE GENTLEMAN HAD FULFILL HIS OBLIGATION OF GENEROSITY BY RETURNING THAT PAYMENT AND REQUIRING HER TO BUY SOMETHING ONLY FOR HERSELF. IS IT POSSIBLE FOR YOU TO DO THE SAME? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5187
GROWTH: TO BEGIN TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE, YOU MUST MINDFULLY THINK BEFORE YOU ACT OR SPEAK. DO NOT REACT; ACT OR RESPOND MINDFULLY. YOU MUST UNDERSTAND WHO YOU ARE IN THE NOW. WHO YOU ARE NOW IS NOT CAST IN STONE. YOU CAN MOLD YOURSELF INTO TO ANY FORM YOU WISH TO TAKE; HOWEVER, DO IT MINDFULLY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5188
APOLOGIES: APOLOGIES FOR NEGLECT OR FOR INATTENTION ARE NOT VALID UNLESS THEY ARE FOLLOWED BY ACTIONS OF NON-NEGLECT AND ATTENTION. WORDS ARE EASY TO SAY: HOWEVER, ACTIONS REQUIRE TRUE INTENTIONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5189
QUESTION 368: HAS YOUR RELATIONSHIP BECOME ONE OF BOTH BONDING AND BONDAGE IN DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF THAT RELATIONSHIP? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5190
QUESTION 369: WHAT IS YOUR PERCEPTION OF LIVING A RICH LIFE? WHAT IS YOUR PERCEPTION OF LIVING A REWARDED LIFE? WHAT IS YOUR PERCEPTION OF LIVING A SPIRITUAL LIFE? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5181 TO 5185

MY THOUGHTS 5181
QUESTION 636: IS YOUR PERSONAL IDENTITY BUILT AROUND YOUR SPIRITUALITY, OR YOUR INTELLIGENCE, OR YOUR MATERIAL WEALTH? IS YOUR PERSONAL IDENTITY BASED ON THE COMBINATION OF ALL THREE? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5182
SKEPTICS: BE GRATEFUL TO SKEPTICS BECAUSE THEY GIVE YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO STRENGTHEN YOUR BELIEFS OR TO RE-EVALUATE YOUR BELIEFS. DO NOT ARGUE WITH THE SKEPTICS, JUST THANK THEM FOR THE OPPORTUNITY TO RE-EVALUATE AND STRENGTHENING YOUR BELIEFS. THIS GIVES YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE READY FOR THE NEXT TIME YOU ENCOUNTER SKEPTICS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5183
ENERGY VAMPIRES: YOU WILL ENCOUNTER MANY TYPES OF PEOPLE ON YOUR DHARMIC PATH. IT IS IMPORTANT TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN THOSE WHO BRING YOU ENERGY AND THOSE WHO ARE ENERGY VAMPIRES. THOSE WHO ARE ENERGY VAMPIRES WILL BASICALLY DRAIN YOU OF YOUR ENERGY. WHEN YOU FEEL TOTALLY DRAINED OF ENERGY WHEN TALKING WITH SOMEONE, YOU HAVE ENCOUNTERED AN ENERGY VAMPIRE. YOU MUST LEARN TO WALK AWAY FROM THOSE KIND OF PEOPLE. IF YOU DO NOT, THEY WILL LEAVE YOU DRAINED OF YOU ENERGY WITH EVERY ENCOUNTER. JUST THANK THEM FOR THEIR INPUT AND MOVE ON. IF SOMETHING REALLY BOTHERS YOU ABOUT WHAT THEY HAD SAID, RE-EVALUATE WHAT YOU BELIEVE AND WHAT THEY HAD SAID THAT DISTURBS YOU. IF YOU GET INTO ARGUMENTS WITH ENERGY VAMPIRES, THEY WILL ONLY DEPLETE YOUR ENERGY. REMEMBER THAT THEY ARE SPECIAL KARMIC TESTS FOR YOU ON YOUR DHARMIC PATH. LEARN FROM THEM AND THEN MOVE ON. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5184
CHOICES: ONE MUST KEEP IN MIND THAT KARMA IS NOT A PUNISHMENT. KARMIC CHOICES ARE OPPORTUNITIES GIVEN TO YOU BY THE COSMOS TO HELP YOU TO KEEP YOUR LIFE IN BALANCE. THE CHOICES YOU MAKE ARE IMPORTANT. SO MINDFULLY CONTEMPLATE YOUR KARMIC CHOICES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5185
QUESTIONS: DO YOU LOOK AT THE OPPORTUNITIES THAT COME YOUR WAY AS OPPORTUNITIES PRESENTED TO YOU SO THAT YOU CAN GROW SPIRITUALLY, INTELLECTUALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY, OR DO YOU LOOK FOR WHATEVER PERSONAL GAINS, BOTH SOCIALLY AND OR ECONOMICALLY, THAT YOU CAN ACHIEVE REGARDLESS OF CONSEQUENCES TO OTHERS? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5176 TO 5180

MY THOUGHTS 5176
SUGGESTION: INSTEAD OF FOCUSING ON AND DEBATING ABOUT OUR DIFFERENCES, WE SHOULD BE FOCUSING ON OUR SIMILARITIES AND BE DISCUSSING THE WHY AND HOW OF ARE DIFFERENCES. THIS IS THE PATH TO INNER PEACE AND TRUE EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE, COMPASSION, AND UNDERSTANDING. WE SHOULD RESPECT AND LEARN FROM OUR DIFFERENCES, AND WE SHOULD CELEBRATE OUR COMMONALITIES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5177
TEACHING: WHEN WE FOCUS ON TEACHING ABOUT WARS AND CONQUESTS IN OUR SCHOOLS, WE ARE AVOIDING TEACHING ABOUT OUR SPIRITUAL ESSENCE. IF WE WOULD FOCUS ON TEACHING ABOUT THE PROGRESSION OF THOUGHTS, PHILOSOPHIES, AND IDEAS, THERE WOULD BE MORE HARMONY AND LESS CONFLICT IN THIS WORLD. TEACHERS SHOULD BE TEACHING THE PROGRESSION OF THOUGHTS AND LOGIC THAT OCCURRED BETWEEN WARS AND HOW THEY HAVE LEAD TO THOSE WARS. MANY TEACHERS, TODAY, ARE USING THEIR CAPTIVE STUDENTS TO PROSELYTIZE THEIR POLITICAL BELIEFS. INSTEAD OF TEACHING THE PROGRESSION OF THE THOUGHTS AND THE IDEAS THAT HAVE CREATED THE WORLD WE ARE PRESENTLY LIVING IN. INSTEAD OF CREATING STUDENTS WHO CAN THINK FOR THEMSELVES, THE ARE CREATING POLITICAL AUTOMATONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5178
TEACHING: TEACHERS SHOULD BE TEACHING THEIR STUDENTS HOW TO EVALUATE THE DIFFERENCES AND THE COMMONALITIES OF ALL PEOPLES AND ALL CULTURES THROUGH VARIOUS SCHOOL SUBJECTS. THE SCIENCES SHOULD BE TAUGHT IN WAY THAT STRESSES THE UNIVERSALITY OF MATHEMATICAL, PHYSICAL, AND BIOLOGICAL TRUTHS. THIS ALSO APPLIES TO MUSIC APPRECIATION BY DEMONSTRATING THE UNIVERSAL AFFECT OF MUSIC AND HOW DIFFERENT CULTURAL INTERPRETATIONS OF RHYTHMS CREATE WONDROUS VARIETIES THAT EVERYONE CAN ENJOY. THE SOCIAL SCIENCES SHOULD BE TAUGHT TO HELP THE STUDENTS SEE THE COMMONALITIES IN CULTURES AS WELL AS TO UNDERSTAND WHY AND HOW OF THE DIFFERENCES IN CULTURES. EDUCATION SHOULD BE THE MAIN TOOL TO CREATING HARMONY THROUGH OUR SIMILARITIES AND CREATING PROGRESSIVE POSITIVE GROWTH THROUGH OUR DIFFERENCES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5179
TEACHING: TRUE SPIRITUAL TEACHERS NEVER TEACH DOGMA. TRUE SPIRITUAL TEACHERS WILL ONLY GUIDE YOU ON HOW YOU MIGHT PROCEED ON YOUR DHARMIC PATH. SPIRITUAL TEACHERS ARE ‘GUIDES’ TO ‘SUGGEST’ HOW YOU MAY PROCEED ON YOUR DHARMIC PATH. THEY ARE NOT DICTATORS OF HOW YOU SHOULD FOLLOW YOUR DHARMIC PATH. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5180
QUESTION 635: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP A RELATIONSHIP THAT LEADS TO PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, AND EMOTIONAL BONDING, OR IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP A RELATIONSHIP THAT LEADS TO PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, AND EMOTIONAL BONDAGE? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5171 TO 1575

MY THOUGHTS 5171
FAITH: THE BEST WAY TO PRAISE YOUR GOD IS NOT TO TELL HIM/HER HOW WONDERFUL SHE/HE IS AND HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM/HER. THE BEST WAY TO PRAISE YOUR GOD IS TO SHOW LOVE, COMPASSION, AND UNDERSTANDING FOR ALL OF YOUR GOD’S CREATIONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5172
FAITH: THE BEST WAY TO PRAISE, HONOR, AND RESPECT YOUR DEITY IS BY DEMONSTRATING YOUR LOVE, COMPASSION, AND UNDERSTANDING TO ALL OF YOUR DIETY’S CREATIONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5173
CHOICES: WHEN ANYONE ENTERS A GROUP OR ORGANIZATION OR WORK PLACE, THEY PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND SOCIALLY SHOULD SHIFT FROM THE ‘I’ TO THE ‘WE’. IT IS IMPORTANT TO THE MAINTAIN THE BALANCE BETWEEN THE ‘I’ AND THE ‘WE’. IT ALSO IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTANDS WHEN ONE SHOULD FOCUS ON THE ‘I’ AND WHEN ONE SHOULD FOCUS ON THE ‘WE’. FOR A GROUP TO BE STRONG AND HARMONIOUS, IT IS IMPORTANT FOR THAT GROUP TO THE RESPECT THE NEED FOR ITS MEMBERS TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS THEIR PERSONAL ‘I’ WITHIN THE GROUP. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5174
QUESTION 633: WHICH IS MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU WHEN YOU RECEIVE GIFTS, THE VALUE OF THE GIFT OR THE MEANING AND INTENTION BEHIND THE GIFT? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5175
QUESTION 634: IS YOUR SUCCESS BUILT ON THE DESIRE TO BENEFIT YOURSELF AND OTHERS, OR IS YOUR SUCCESS BASED ON GREED? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5166 TO 5170

MY THOUGHTS 5166
SUGGESTIONS: IF YOU ARE SEPARATED FROM YOUR LOVED ONES, REMEMBER TWO BASIC POSITIONS TO TAKE: 1) BE FAR ENOUGH AWAY TO GIVE THEM FREE REIGN TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS AND THEIR OWN MISTAKES, AND 2) BE CLOSE ENOUGH TO BE OF ASSISTANCE WHEN THEY ASK FOR YOUR HELP. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5167
LESSONS: SOMETIMES THE COSMOS MAY SEPARATE YOU FROM YOUR LOVED ONES TEMPORARILY OR LONG TERM SO THAT YOU AND/OR THEY CAN LEARN SOME VERY IMPORTANT KARMIC LESSONS. YOUR ATTACHMENT TO THEM OR TO EACH OTHER MAY BE BLOCKING THE ACCESS TO THOSE ESSENTIAL LESSONS. LEARN YOUR LESSONS AND SEND PRAYERS TO HELP THEM LEARN THEIR LESSONS. IF, OR WHEN, THE LESSONS ARE LEARNED ON BOTH SIDES; THE POSSIBILITY OF A MORE LOVING AND UNDERSTANDING RE-UNION IS POSSIBLE. IF ONLY YOU LEARN THOSE LESSONS, IT IS A COSMIC SIGN TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND BE OPEN TO MORE COMPATIBLE RELATIONSHIPS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5168
LESSONS: EMRACE THE JOYS AND SORROWS OF YOUR LIFE FULLY, FOR THEY ARE LIFE’S TOOLS TO HELP YOU GROW SPIRITUALLY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5169
QUESTIONS 631: IS YOUR CHARITY AND ALL YOUR OTHER FORMS OF CONTRIBUTIONS DONE FOR SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL SATISFACTION, OR ARE THEY FOR PERSONAL RECOGNITION AND FOR MATERIAL GAIN? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5170
QUESTION 632: WHAT DOES GIVING GRATITUDE MEAN TO YOU, WHAT DOES GRATITUDE MEAN TO YOU, AND WHAT DOES RECEIVING MEAN TO YOU? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5161 TO 5165

MY THOUGHTS 5161
LESSONS: APPRECIATE ALL ENLIGHTENED ONES. CELEBRATE WHAT THEY HAVE TAUGHT YOU BEFORE THEY LEAVE THEIR BODIES. WHEN THEY DO LEAVE THEIR BODIES THEY ARE FREE TO WHISPER IN THE MINDS OF ALL OTHERS WHO ARE READY FOR SPIRITUAL ELEVATIONS. REMEMBER THAT WHILE THEY WERE HERE, THEY LOVING AND COMPASSIONATELY ACCEPTED THE LIMITATIONS TO THEIR OWN SPIRITUAL GROWTH CREATED BY THEIR DISCIPLES NEEDS FOR ASSURANCE. WHEN THEY LEAVE/LEFT, IT IS THE TIME THAT THEY HAVE CHOSEN SO THAT THEIR DISCIPLES CAN START TO PUT INTO PRACTICE WHAT THEY HAD TAUGHT THEM. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5162
LESSONS: WHEN THE GREAT ENLIGHTENED ONES LEAVE/HAVE LEFT THEIR BODIES, THEY ARE GIVING/HAVE GIVEN THEIR FOLLOWERS THE OPPORTUNITY TO PUT THEIR TEACHINGS INTO PRACTICE. THE BUDDHA WILLING ATE CONTAMINATED FOOD WHICH OPENED THE DOOR FOR HIS DISCIPLES TO PUT INTO PRACTICE HIS TEACHINGS. THE CHRIST ACCEPTED THE CRUCIFIXION OF HIS BODY TO ALLOW HIS DISCIPLES TO PRACTICE WHAT HE TAUGHT THEM. SAI BABA CHOSE GOOD FRIDAY (THE DAY OF THE CHRIST’S CRUCIFIXION) AS THE DAY TO LEAVE IS BODY. IT WAS AN IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO HIS FOLLOWER ABOUT DEATH AND REBIRTH. ALL THOSE ENLIGHTENED ONES ARE STILL WHISPERING IN THE MINDS OF THOSE WHO ARE OPEN TO HEARING THOSE WHISPERS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5163
PARABLES: WHEN MILAN WAS ASKED BY A CLOSE FRIEND AS TO HOW HE WOULD LIKE TO SPEND THE LAST MOMENTS OF HIS LIFE, MILAN REPLIED THE HE WOULD GO TO THE HIGH SIERRA MOUNTAINS AND FIND A 4000 YEAR OLD SEQUOIA TREE SURROUNDED BY A WINTER’S SNOW.HE SAID THAT HE WOULD REST HIS BACK AGAINST THE HENNA COLORED SOFT BARK OF THE SEQUOIA TREE WITH A BOTTLE OF SAKE BY HIS SIDE. HE SAID THAT HE WOULD SIP THE SAKE AS HE CONTEMPLATED ON THE THOUSANDS OF YEARS OF HUMAN CIVILIZATION WHILE MEDITATING ON THE TIMELESS NIGHT SKY WITH ITS BILLIONS OF STARS AND GALAXIES. AS THE SAKE WARMS HIS BODY AND HE BEGINS TO DOZE OFF IN THE SNOW, HE WOULD THANK THE COSMOS FOR A WONDROUS JOURNEY AS HE BEQUEATHS HIS SPIRIT TO THE COSMOS AND HIS BODY BACK TO THE EARTH TO REPLENISH THE EARTH. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5164
QUESTION 629: DO YOU SEE OPPORTUNITIES THAT COME YOUR WAY AS A GIFT FROM THE COSMOS TO HELP YOU GROW SPIRITUALLY? DO YOU SEE OPPORTUNITIES THAT COME YOUR WAY AS OPPORTUNITIES ONLY FOR MATERIAL GROWTH? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5165
QUESTIONS 630: DO YOU GIVE TO CHARITIES FOR THE PURPOSE OF GIVING IN ORDER TO HELP OTHERS, OR DO YOU GIVE TO CHARITIES EXPECTING A REWARD IN SOME FORM? WHEN YOU DONATE THINGS, DO YOU ALWAYS ASK FOR TAX RECEIPT? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5156 TO 5160

MY THOUGHTS 5156
QUESTIONS 628: WHEN OPPORTUNITIES COME YOUR WAY DO YOU LOOK AT THOSE OPPORTUNITIES INTELLECTUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND SPIRITUALLY AND HOW THEY WILL BENEFIT YOU AND OTHERS? WHAT YOU SEE THOSE OPPORTUNITIES AS ONLY OPPORTUNITY FOR MATERIAL GROWTH AND TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OTHERS? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5157
LESSONS: ONE SHOULD NEVER ASSUME THE NEEDS OF OTHERS OR WHAT THEY ARE HERE TO LEARN. WE HAVE OUR OWN PATHS TO WALK. WE CAN ASSIST OTHERS ON THEIR PATHS. A PHYSICAL THERAPIST CAN HELP WOUNDED VETS TO WALK AGAIN, FOR EXAMPLE. HOWEVER, THE VET HAS TO WALK HIS OWN PATH. THAT THERAPIST MAY UNDERSTAND THE DIFFICULTIES, BUT CANNOT FEEL THE PAIN IN THAT VETS MIND AND BODY. A HOSPICE PERSON MAY KNOW PSYCHOLOGY AND HELP SOMEONE DEAL WITH IMPENDING DEATH, BUT CANNOT KNOW THAT INDIVIDUALS DEATH PROCESS EVEN TO THE LAST MOMENT. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5158
LESSONS: ONE MUST WORK HIS WAY THROUGH LIFE FROM CHILDHOOD TO SENIOR TIMES THROUGH A GRADUAL DETACHMENT FROM MATERIAL THINGS. THE BUDDHA WENT FROM ONE EXTREME TO THE OTHER AND REALIZED THERE MUST BE A BALANCE. THE CHRIST SAID WHEN ASKED ABOUT MONEY: GIVE UNTO ROME WHAT IS ROME’S (MATERIALISM) AND GIVE UNTO GOD WHAT IS GOD’S (YOUR SPIRITUALITY, YOUR SOUL). IF YOUR HAVE MATERIAL THINGS, WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS HOW YOU USE THEM. MANY WILL WALK THE PATH OF THE RICH, AND MANY WILL WALK THE PATH OF THE POOR AS KARMIC LESSONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5159
SPIRITUALITY: WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR WEALTH DETERMINES YOUR SPIRITUALITY. HOW YOU DEAL WITH YOUR POVERTY ALSO DETERMINES YOUR SPIRITUALITY. SPIRITUALITY DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO DENY YOURSELF OF ‘ALL ‘ MATERIAL THINGS. IT IS WHAT YOU DO WITH THE MATERIAL THINGS THAT YOU DO HAVE THAT DETERMINES YOUR SPIRITUALITY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5160
CHOICES: MANY “SPIRITUAL” LEADERS ARE PSEUDO SPIRITUALIST BECAUSE THERE TEACHINGS COST A LOT OF MONEY. BALANCE IS IMPORTANT. YOU CAN BE A BILL GATES OR MOTHER TERESA; OR YOU CAN BE LIKE GREEDY ‘TEACHERS” OR GREEDY SPIRITUALISTS ASKING FOR LARGE SOMES OF MONEY TO TEACH THEIR ‘WORDS OF WISDOM.’ EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5151 TO 5155

MY THOUGHTS 5151
RELATIONSHIPS: EACH PARENT SHOULD KEEP HIS/HER INTIMATE PARTNER AS THE PRIMARY FOCUS IN THE RELATIONSHIP. THIS IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE YOU ARE THE ROLE MODELS FOR YOUR CHILDREN TO FOLLOW. YOU ARE ROLE MODELS ON HOW TO BE A COUPLE, HOW TO DEAL WITH DISPUTES, AND HOW TO MENTOR CHILDREN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5152
RELATIONSHIPS: MANY RELATIONSHIPS HAVE WHAT IS CALLED THE BOYS NIGHT OUT AND THE GIRLS NIGHT OUT. THAT IS, WHEN THE MEN HAVE A CHANCE TO BE WITH JUST THEIR MALE FRIENDS, AND WOMEN HAVE A CHANCE JUST TO BE WITH THEIR GIRL FRIENDS. THERE IS ALSO A NEED FOR A PARENTS NIGHT OUT. IT IS THE PARENTS’ CHANCE TO BE ALONE TOGETHER, GO TO A MOVIE, GO DANCING, AND JUST TO BE THEMSELVES AS A LOVING COUPLE WITHOUT BEING CONCERNED ABOUT THE PRESENCE OF CHILDREN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5153
SUGGESTION: IN VARIOUS SETTINGS, SIT BACK AND JUST WATCH YOUR CHILDREN. IMAGINE HOW YOU WERE AT THEIR AGE AND HOW YOU WOULD BE PLAYING AND INTERACTING. AS YOU WATCH HOW THEY PLAY, IMAGINE HOW YOU PLAYED AND COMMUNICATED WITH OTHERS WHEN YOU THEIR AGE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5154
QUESTION 626: WHEN YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE YOU SEE THAT PERSON HAS AN OBJECT OF ATTRACTION, OR DO YOU SEE THAT PERSON AS AN INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS A SOUL, MIND, AND EMOTIONS THAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER ALSO? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5155
QUESTION 627: DO YOU PERCEIVE SEX AS STRICTLY A PHYSICAL ACT, AN EMOTIONAL ACT, A MENTAL ACT, A SPIRITUAL ACT, OR A COMBINATION OF SOME OR ALL MENTIONED? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5146 TO 5150

MY THOUGHTS 5146
PARABLES: MILAN WAS WATCHING ONE OF HIS FAVORITE SHOWS ONE NIGHT WHEN HIS TEENAGE SON CAME HOME UPSET. MILAN PUT THE SHOW ON RECORD, TURN OFF THE TELEVISION, AND TURNED TO LISTEN TO HIS SON’S CONCERNS. HIS SON TALK FOR AN HOUR, AND MILAN SAID ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. HE RESISTED THE IMPULSE TO INTERRUPT WITH SOLUTIONS AND FOCUSED ON JUST LISTENING. MILAN NOT ONLY LISTENED TO HIS SON’S PROBLEM; HE ALSO LISTENED TO THE VALUES THAT HIS SON WAS EXPRESSING. WHEN HIS SON WAS FINISHED, MILAN THANKED HIS SON FOR CONFIDING IN HIM AND TOLD HIM THAT HE WAS SO PROUD OF THE VALUES THAT HE HAD EXPRESSED. TOO MANY PARENTS TODAY TRY TO SOLVE THEIR CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS BEFORE FULLY LISTENING TO AND FULLY UNDERSTANDING THEIR CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5147
LESSONS: YOUR CHILDREN ARE YOUR GREATEST TEACHERS. OBSERVE THEM AND BE AWARE OF HOW THEY REACT TO YOU TO YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR ACTIONS. YOU WILL NOT ONLY LEARN MUCH ABOUT THEM, BUT YOU’LL ALSO LEARN MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5148
LISTENING: LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS MINDFULLY UNTIL THEY EXPLAINED THEM COMPLETELY. DO NOT TRY TO SOLVE THEM FOR THEM RIGHT AWAY. WHEN YOUR CHILDREN EXPLAIN THEIR PROBLEMS TO YOU WITHOUT YOUR INTERRUPTIONS, THEY MAY HAVE ALREADY FOUND THE SOLUTION TO THEIR OWN PROBLEMS WHILE EXPLAINING THEM TO YOU. YOU MAY HAVE TO DO NOTHING ELSE, BUT JUST LISTEN. THIS ALSO APPLIES TO YOUR SPOUSE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5149
PARENTING: WHEN YOUR CHILDREN LEAVE THE NEST, IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO REDISCOVER YOUR PARTNER SO THAT YOU CAN CONTINUE ON YOUR SPIRITUAL JOURNEY TOGETHER. THAT IS, IF YOU HAVE LOST CONTACT DUE TO RAISING CHILDREN. AS MINDFUL PARENTS, YOU WOULD HAVE MINDFULLY KEPT YOUR SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL CONNECTIONS WITH EACH OTHER WHILE RAISING YOUR CHILDREN. THUS, PRESENTING A GREAT ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR CHILDREN TO FOLLOW. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5150
SUGGESTIONS: HOW YOU INTRODUCE YOUR PARTNER TO SOMEONE SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. WHEN YOU SAY “THIS IS MY SPOUSE, _________!”, IT IS VERY DIFFERENT THAN SAYING “THIS IS _________, MY SPOUSE!” THE LATTER INDICATES THAT THE INDIVIDUAL IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE POSITION. IN THE FORMER THE POSITION IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE INDIVIDUAL. YES, IT IS A SUBTLE DIFFERENCE, BUT IT IS AN IMPORTANT PSYCHOLOGICAL DIFFERENCE. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5141 TO 5145

MY THOUGHTS 5141
PARENTING: WOE TO THE OVERPROTECTIVE PARENT WHOSE SUPEREGO OR WHOSE LOW SELF-ESTEEM WILL MAKE THEIR CHILDREN TOTALLY DEPENDENT UPON HER/HIM FOR DECISION-MAKING AND SURVIVAL. WOE TO THE OVERPROTECTED CHILDREN WHO HAVE BECOME TOTALLY DEPENDENT ON HIS/HER PARENT/PARENTS FOR THEIR SURVIVAL AND FOR THEIR DECISION-MAKING. OVERPROTECTIVE PARENTS WILL ASSURE A DIFFICULT LIFE FOR THEIR CHILDREN WHEN THOSE OVERPROTECTIVE PARENTS ARE NO LONGER HERE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5142
RELATIONSHIPS: PARENTS SHOULD MAINTAIN THE LOVE AND THE WARMTH IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND SPIRITUALLY. ESPECIALLY, IN THE PRESENCE OF THEIR CHILDREN, REMEMBER THAT PARENTS ARE THE ROLE MODELS OF HOW RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE WORKING.EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5143
RELATIONSHIPS: THE NORMAL PROCESS IS FOR TWO PEOPLE WHO FALL IN LOVE TO EVENTUALLY CREATE A FAMILY. EVENTUALLY, THOSE CHILDREN CAN PUT A STRAIN ON THE LOVE BETWEEN THE TWO PARTNERS. THE ROMANCE FROM THE RELATIONSHIP BEGINS TO DRAIN DUE TO CONFLICTS OVER FINANCES AND METHODS OF RAISING CHILDREN. THIS IS NOT THE FAULT OF THE CHILDREN. IT IS THE FAULT OF THE PARENTS. PARENTS SHOULD HAVE A PLAN BEFORE THEY HAVE CHILDREN. PART OF THAT PLAN SHOULD BE TO PROTECT THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE PARENTS. CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE A DRAIN ON THE RELATIONSHIP; CHILDREN SHOULD ENHANCE THE RELATIONSHIP. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5144
RELATIONSHIPS: IT IS IMPORTANT FOR PARENTS TO MAINTAIN THEIR INTIMACY THROUGH ALL THE TRIALS AND CONFLICTS THAT COME WITH HAVING CHILDREN. THOSE TRIALS AND CONFLICTS SHOULD STRENGTHEN THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND INCREASE THEIR SPIRITUAL GROWTH. THOSE TRIALS AND CONFLICTS SHOULD NOT WEAKEN ANY LOVING RELATIONSHIP. THE CONTROL OF THEIR INTIMACY IS ENTIRELY IN THE HANDS OF THE PARENTS. PARENTS SHOULD KNOW THEIR LIMITS AND THE LIMITS THAT THEIR CHILDREN HAVE. THEY SHOULD GIVE WHAT THEY CAN WHEN THEY CAN. WHEN THEY CANNOT, THEY SHOULD NOT SACRIFICE THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR PARTNER IN ORDER TO PLEASE THEIR CHILDREN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5145
SUGGESTION: AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH GIVE YOURSELF A VACATION FROM YOUR CHILDREN. IF YOU HAVE AN EXTENDED FAMILY, LET THEM STAY WITH THEM FOR THE WEEKEND. MEANWHILE, YOU AND YOUR PARTNER SHOULD ENJOY YOUR TOGETHERNESS AND REBUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY REPAIRING WHATEVER STRAINS IN THE RELATIONSHIP THAT WERE CAUSED BY CHILD-REARING. THIS SHOULD REFRESH YOUR RELATIONSHIP, REPAIR ANY DAMAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIP, AND GIVE YOUR CHILDREN A CHANCE TO APPRECIATE YOUR PRESENCE BY YOUR ABSENCE. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT ESCAPING FROM YOUR CHILDREN. WHEN YOU TAKE THIS ‘RE-GENERATIVE TIME’, YOU MAY BE ESCAPING FROM THEM. HOWEVER, THEY WILL ALSO BE ESCAPING FROM YOU. THIS ‘ESCAPING’ WILL ALLOW YOU AND YOUR PARTNER TO APPRECIATE EACH OTHER BETTER, AND IT WILL GIVE YOU AN OPPORTUNITY TO APPRECIATE YOUR CHILDREN MORE. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5136 TO 5140

MY THOUGHTS 5136
WISDOM FROM NATURE: PROTECT AND NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN. TEACH THEM HOW TO SURVIVE IN THE WORLD AROUND THEM AND THEN RELEASE THEM INTO THE WORLD SO THAT THEY CAN LEARN THEIR OWN LESSONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5137
PARENTING: HOW FOOLISH IT IS OF PARENTS WHO SAY THAT THEY LOVE THEIR CHILDREN SO MUCH AND AT THE SAME TIME MAKE THEM DEPENDENT ON THOSE PARENTS EVEN THROUGH ADULTHOOD. IF PARENTS DO NOT MAKE THEIR CHILDREN INDEPENDENT AS ADULTS, WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THOSE CHILDREN WHEN THEIR PARENTS RETURN TO THE COSMOS? THE PARENTS WILL CREATE BAD KARMA FOR THEMSELVES AND PREVENT THEIR CHILDREN FROM LEARNING IMPORTANT LESSONS IN LIFE. IN GENERAL, THE PARENTS WILL HAVE CREATED A LOSE-LOSE SITUATION FOR BOTH THEMSELVES AND THEIR CHILDREN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5138
QUESTION 625: DO YOU REALIZE THAT AS AN OVERPROTECTIVE PARENT YOU WILL PREVENT YOUR CHILDREN FROM LEARNING SURVIVAL SKILLS THAT WILL HELP THEM SURVIVE IN THE WORLD AROUND THEM WHEN YOU ARE NO LONGER HERE TO PROTECT THEM? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5139
CHOICES: IN LIFE THERE ARE NO UNDO BUTTONS. HOWEVER, THERE IS A MENTAL JUNCTION BOX WHERE YOU CAN SWITCH OR ADJUST THE DIRECTION YOU ARE GOING IN. WHAT YOU CANNOT UNDO HAS ONE PRIMARY FUNCTION, AND THAT IS TO LEARN FROM IT AND MOVE ON. HOW YOU MOVE ON IS YOUR CHOICE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5140
ONENESS: BEFORE ONE CAN HAVE TRUE ONENESS WITH OTHERS, ONE MUST HAVE A ONENESS WITH ONESELF, NATURE, AND THE COSMOS. MANY JUST FOCUS ON THE ONENESS WITH THE SELF CREATING AN UNLOVING, UN-UNDERSTANDING, AND UN-COMPASSIONATE ENTITY. JUST OBSERVE MANY POWER SEEKERS TODAY. IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO FIND ONENESS WITH MANY ASPECTS OF THE WORLD AROUND ONESELF. WE ARE SOCIAL CREATURES AND FIND COMFORT AND SECURITY IN SOCIAL UNIONS OF ALL KINDS. SOME, HOWEVER, ARE LIKE WOLVERINES SEEKING ONLY SELF GRATIFICATION WHILE DESTROYING MUCH AROUND THEM. WE MUST APPROACH SELF-LOVE AND SELF-ACCEPTANCE CAREFULLY. IT IS EXTREME IMPORTANT TO DO SO, HOWEVER, THE PATH HAS TO BE WISELY CHOSEN. THE CHOICES ARE THE PATH TO ONENESS WITH EVERYTHING, OR THE PATH TO MEGALOMANIA. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5131 TO 5135

MY THOUGHTS 5131
ONENESS: IF YOU HAVEN’T ACHIEVED ONENESS WITH YOUR PARTNER, THEN IT IS TIME TO REFLECT ON WHICH HAS BEEN MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU, YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR YOUR EXTERNAL WORLD. YOUR EXTERNAL WORLD IS SUPPOSED TO HELP YOU MAINTAIN YOUR ONENESS WITH YOUR PARTNER; IT IS NOT SUPPOSED TO DOMINATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU WISH TO ACHIEVE THAT ONENESS WITH YOUR PARTNER, THEN YOUR MAIN FOCUS HAS TO BE ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP, NOT YOUR EXTERNAL WORLD. FOCUS ON WHAT IS SIGNIFICANTLY IMPORTANT IN YOUR EXTERNAL WORLD AND DE-CLUTTER THAT WHICH IS INTERFERING WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5132
ONENESS: TRUE ONENESS MEANS THE ACCEPTANCE OF YOU AND YOUR PARTNER’S DIFFERENCES. ONENESS DOES NOT MEAN ELIMINATING YOUR CHARACTERISTICS NOR ELIMINATING YOUR PARTNERS CHARACTERISTICS. ONENESS DOES MEAN APPRECIATING YOUR DIFFERENT CHARACTERISTICS WHILE MOVING ON TO HIGHER LEVELS OF SPIRITUAL CONNECTIONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5133
PARENTS: IF BOTH PARTNERS SPOIL EACH OTHER IN FRONT OF THEIR CHILDREN, THEY DEMONSTRATE WHAT A LOVING RELATIONSHIP CAN BE. THEY ARE MENTORING HOW TO BE LOVING PARENTS. IF BOTH PARENTS IGNORE EACH OTHER WHILE SPOILING THEIR CHILDREN THEY ARE DEMONSTRATING A NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIP TO THEIR CHILDREN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5134
PARENTS: THE TRUE SACRIFICE OF THE PARENTS IS NOT TO GIVE THEIR CHILDREN EVERYTHING THAT THEY WANT THEM TO HAVE. THE TRUE SACRIFICE OF THE PARENT IS TO TEACH THEM HOW TO GET WHAT THEY WANT ON THEIR OWN. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5135
CHARITY: GIVING FREELY AND BEING VERY CHARITABLE DOES NOT ALWAYS BRING GRATITUDE; MANY TIMES IT BRINGS DEEP RESENTMENT. IT IS BETTER TO HELP SOMEONE BECOME SELF-SUFFICIENT THAN TO MAKE THEM FEEL DEPENDENT ON YOUR CHARITY. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5126 TO 5130

MY THOUGHTS 5126
ONENESS: YOUR INNER PEACE IS BASED ON HOW WELL YOU ACHIEVE THE ONENESS WITH THE EXTERNAL YOU AND THE INTERNAL YOU. IT ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW WELL YOU ARE ATTACHED THE POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE, AND HOW WELL YOU ARE DETACH FROM THE NEGATIVES IN YOUR LIFE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5127
ONENESS: AS HUMAN BEINGS, WE SEEK ONENESS IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS, SUCH AS, FAMILIES, SOCIETIES, FAITHS, ETHNICITIES, AND CULTURES. ALL OF THESE ARE CONCERNED WITH IMPORTANT EXTERNAL CONNECTIONS. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO SEEK A ONENESS WITH YOURSELF, A ONENESS WITH NATURE, AND A ONENESS WITH THE COSMOS. MAINTAINING A BALANCE BETWEEN YOUR SEARCH FOR YOUR EXTERNAL ONENESS AND YOUR SEARCH FOR YOUR INTERNAL ONENESS IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, AND SPIRITUAL BALANCE. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5128
ONENESS: YOU WILL ENCOUNTER MANY EXPERIENCES OF ONENESS THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE. HOWEVER, THE GREATEST EXPERIENCE OF ONENESS WILL BE WITH THE PERSON YOU CHOOSE TO WALK YOUR LIFE’S PATH WITH YOU. IF THAT ONENESS IS BASED ON MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, AND SPIRITUAL VALUES THEN THAT ONENESS CAN BRING A LIFE LONG COMPANIONSHIP. IF THAT ONENESS IS BASED SOLELY ON PHYSICAL ATTRACTIONS, YOU WILL NEVER ACHIEVE THAT TRUE ONENESS WITH THAT PERSON. AS TIME TAKES ITS TOLL, THE PHYSICAL ATTRACTIONS WILL GRADUALLY FADE AWAY AS WELL AS THE RELATIONSHIP. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5129
ONENESS: ACHIEVING ONENESS WITH YOUR PARTNER DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOUR PARTNER BECOMES MORE LIKE YOU. ACHIEVING ONENESS WITH YOUR PARTNER MEANS THAT YOU HAVE TRANSCENDED YOUR DIFFERENCES. YOUR DIFFERENCES ARE NO LONGER AN ISSUE BECAUSE YOU HAVE CONNECTED ON A HIGHER SPIRITUAL, EMOTIONAL, AND MENTAL LEVELS WHICH TRANSCENDS ALL DIFFERENCES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5130
ONENESS: REMEMBER THAT YOUR ONENESS DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE IN A HIGHLY ECSTATIC RELATIONSHIP ALWAYS. YOUR ONENESS WITH YOUR PARTNER IS MORE LIKE A PERENNIAL PLANT WHICH HAS MANY BLOSSOMS THAT ARE CONSTANTLY BLOOMING REPRESENTING THE MULTIPLE ECSTATIC MOMENTS YOU WILL HAVE IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5121 TO 5125

MY THOUGHTS 5121
QUESTION 623: ARE YOU AWARE THAT WHEN YOU GET MARRIED THAT YOU ARE LEAVING YOUR BIRTH FAMILY AND CREATING YOUR OWN FAMILY WITH YOUR PARTNER? ARE YOU AWARE THAT YOU ARE BLENDING TWO BASIC FAMILY SYSTEMS INTO YOUR OWN UNIQUE FAMILY SYSTEM? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5122
QUESTION 624: WHICH IS MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU: YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BIRTH FAMILY OR THE RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEW FAMILY THAT YOU AND YOUR ‘LIFE-MATE’ HAVE CREATED? EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5123
RELATIONSHIPS: IF YOUR PARTNER IS STARTING OR HAS BEEN TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO INITIATE CHANGES IN HIS OR HER BEHAVIOR. IT MAY TAKE SOME PATIENCE, BUT IT WILL BE WOULD BE WORTH YOUR EFFORT IF SUCCESSFUL. IF NOT, THEN YOUR HAVE TRIED HARD, SO IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5124
EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE: SOME PEOPLE ONLY KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THEIR LOVE IN THE PHYSICAL WAY, SOME PEOPLE ONLY KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THEIR LOVE IN A FINANCIAL WAY, AND SOME PEOPLE ONLY KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THEIR LOVE IN AN INTELLECTUAL WAY. IF YOU WISH TO HAVE A LIFELONG RELATIONSHIP, YOU MUST KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS YOUR LOVE PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND SPIRITUALLY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5125
PARABLES: MILAN MET A GENTLEMAN FROM IRELAND ONE DAY AND WAS CURIOUS AS TO WHY IRELAND, WHICH IS BASICALLY AS A CATHOLIC COUNTRY, HAD A MAYOR OF ITS CAPITAL CITY WHO WAS A JEWISH PERSON. THE IRISH GENTLEMAN ANSWER VERY SIMPLY: WE ASK TWO BASIC QUESTIONS WHEN JUDGING SOMEONE: DOES HE/SHE BELIEVE IN FAMILY AND DOES SHE/HE BELIEVE IN GOD. IF SOMEONE BELIEVES IN FAMILY AND BELIEVES IN GOD, THEN THAT SOMEONE MUST BE A GOOD PERSON. DUBLIN, A BASICALLY CATHOLIC CITY, HAD HAD A JEWISH MAYOR FOR ABOUT 10 YEARS. EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5116 TO 5120

MY THOUGHTS 5116
ABOUT QUESTIONS: ALL QUESTIONS NEED AN ANSWER WHETHER THEY ARE CONSIDERED TRIVIAL OR SERIOUS. ANY QUESTION THAT IS ASKED BY SOMEONE MEANS THAT PERSON NEEDS AN ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. ALL QUESTIONS SHOULD BE ANSWERED TO THE BEST OF ONES KNOWLEDGE WITH LOVE, COMPASSION, AND UNDERSTANDING. BE POLITE AND KIND TO THE ASKER OF THE QUESTION. A RUDE ANSWER WILL ONLY INDICATED THAT EITHER YOU DO NOT ACTUALLY KNOW THE ANSWER, OR YOU HAVE AN OVER ABUNDANCE OF EGO. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5117
ABOUT QUESTIONS: REMEMBER THAT NO QUESTION IS EVER A STUPID QUESTION. EACH QUESTION CAN BE ANSWERED WITH “I DO NOT KNOW!”, “LET ME CONTEMPLATE ON THAT QUESTION!”, “LET US PONDER THAT QUESTION TOGETHER!”, OR “ THAT IS A PERSONAL INTERNAL QUESTION THAT ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER!” EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5118
ABOUT QUESTIONS: IF YOU DO HAVE A QUESTION AND ARE AFRAID TO ASK BECAUSE YOU MAY FEEL STUPID ASKING IT, IT IS BETTER TO ASK THAT QUESTION AND FEEL STUPID MOMENTARILY, THAN NOT TO ASK THE QUESTION AND BE IGNORANT FOREVER. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5119
ABOUT QUESTIONS: IF YOU WISH TO GET AN INSIGHT TO SOMEONES PERSONALITY, ASK THEM A TRIVAL OR SIMPLE QUESTION. HOW THEY ANSWER YOUR OR ANYBODY ELSE’S QUESTION WILL GIVE YOU AN INSIGHT INTO THEIR CHARACTER AND PERSONALITY. WHENEVER YOU ARE WILLING TO OBSERVE AND LEARN, YOU WILL BENEFIT GREATLY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5120
QUESTION 622: WHY DO SO MANY INDIVIDUALS PUNISH THEMSELVES BY CARING ABOUT PEOPLE WHO DO NOT SEEM TO CARE ABOUT THEM? EmilKoval©2013

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THOUGHTS 5111 TO 5115

MY THOUGHTS 5111
SUGGESTION: BEFORE YOU START A NEW RELATIONSHIP, PLAY THE ROLE OF A REPORTER AND INTERVIEW ALL THE MEMBERS OF YOUR FAMILY WHO HAVE OR HAVE HAD RELATIONSHIPS. ASKED THEM THE SIMPLE REPORTER’S QUESTIONS OF WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, HOW, AND WHY ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS. IF YOU HAVE A POTENTIAL PARTNER, ASK THAT PERSON TO DO THE SAME WITH HIS/HER FAMILY. THEN COMPARE AND DISCUSS THE BASIC VALUES IN EACH OTHER’S FAMILY CONCERNING RELATIONSHIPS. AFTERWARDS, THE BOTH OF YOU CAN DECIDE WHICH VALUES OF BOTH FAMILIES YOU WISH TO KEEP FOR YOUR OWN FAMILY, AND WHICH VALUES YOU DO NOT WISH TO KEEP FROM BOTH FAMILIES. THUS, THE BOTH OF YOU CAN CREATE YOUR OWN FAMILY VALUES. HOWEVER, YOUR AGREED TO FAMILY VALUES SHOULD BE REVIEWED BY BOTH OF YOU ANNUALLY. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5112
RELATIONSHIPS: WHEN YOU START A NEW RELATIONSHIP IT’S NOT JUST A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN TWO INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER. IT IS ALSO THE BLENDING OF THE VALUES BETWEEN THE TWO FAMILY SYSTEMS. EVEN WITHIN THE SAME CULTURE, SAME ETHNICITY, AND SAME FAITH THERE ARE DIFFERENCES IN HOW PEOPLE CELEBRATE THEIR HOLIDAYS AND RELATE TO EACH OTHER. THIS BLENDING OF THE VALUES OF THE TWO-FAMILY SYSTEMS IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR THE YOUNG COUPLE TO CREATE A BLENDED AND HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP. IF THEY DO NOT DO THIS IT MAY LEAD TO DISASTROUS SITUATIONS AND CONFLICTS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP BASED UPON THE DIFFERENCES IN EACH OTHER’S FAMILIES VALUES. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5113
RELATIONSHIPS: YOU CANNOT LET YOUR PHYSICAL ATTRACTION FOR EACH OTHER BLIND YOU INTO NOT SEEING THE BASIC DIFFERENCE IN THE VALUES OF EACH INDIVIDUAL. YOU SHOULD HAVE SERIOUS DISCUSSIONS ABOUT THE DIFFERENCES IN YOUR VALUES AND CREATE A RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOUR VALUES ARE MUTUALLY COMPROMISING, AND WHERE THE DIFFERENCES IN YOUR VALUES ARE MUTUALLY RESPECTED. IF YOU CANNOT RESPECT EACH OTHER’S DIFFERENCES, THEN YOU ARE IN LUST, NOT IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER. IF THIS IS CLEARLY UNDERSTOOD, YOU HAVE THE CHOICE OF CONTINUING THE RELATIONSHIP OR ENDING THE RELATIONS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5114
RELATIONSHIPS: THERE ARE VERY SIMPLE QUESTIONS, WHICH IF NOT DEALT WITH AT THE BEGINNING OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CAN EVENTUALLY DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP WHEN DIFFICULTIES ARISE. 1) HOW DO EACH OF YOU RELATE TO HEAT AND COLD? 2) DO YOU PREFER THE WINDOWS OPENED OR DO PREFER THE WINDOW CLOSED? 3) WHAT TIME DO YOU EAT YOUR FAMILY MEALS? 4) WHAT ARE YOUR PRECEPTS FOR RAISING CHILDREN? 5) HOW DO YOU CELEBRATE MUTUAL HOLIDAYS? 6) HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PETS, ESPECIALLY DOGS AND CATS? THESE QUESTIONS AND OTHER SIMILAR BASIC QUESTIONS MAY SEEM MINOR WHEN YOUR LOVE IS BLOOMING. HOWEVER, WHEN CONFLICTS BEGIN TO ARISE IN THE RELATIONSHIP THESE QUESTIONS CAN BE DISASTROUS. EmilKoval©2013

MY THOUGHTS 5115
RELATIONSHIPS: IF YOUR PARTNER IS STARTING TO OR HAS BEEN TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO INITIATE CHANGES IN HIS OR HER BEHAVIOR. IT MAY TAKE SOME TIME AND PATIENCE, BUT IT WOULD BE WORTH YOUR EFFORT IF SUCCESSFUL. IF NOT, SINCE YOU HAVE MADE THE EFFORT, IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON. EmilKoval©2013

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