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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 29, 2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 29, 2024

Universal Truth 2221: At some point, something just clicks and you realize you do not want anything this world has to offer anymore. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2222: Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge. — Wilson Kanadi

Universal Truth 2223: Rest is not idle, is not wasteful. Sometimes rest is the most productive thing you can do for body and soul. — Erica Layne

Universal Truth 2224: Retirement age is 67. Life expectancy is 78. Work for 50 years to maybe enjoy 11? Start enjoying life now. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2225: Some human beings are safe havens. Be companions with them. — Rumi

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REFLECTIONS ON MY LIFE BY EMIL KOVAL (26 TO 30)

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REFLECTIONS 026: Through many experiences in life, through many hells to be climbed out of, meeting many interesting people and peoples, perusing many sacred texts, being open to the whispers from many guardian angels, and an appreciation for lessons learned has brought me to the present me. Raising two families. Not having just one teacher and being open to the wisdom of many spiritual texts and philosophies has helped me face the many challenges of this life cycle. My thoughts come to me daily as i view life around me. many people enjoy living drama filled lives, which I now avoid. Mindful observations, having patience, and having an ear ready to listen to others have become wonderful tools in my life. This is easy to do because I am not trying to prove anything to anybody. I just flow with the ripples, the waves, and the cross currents of this life. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 027: All of my pictures thatI share with others are taken from the environments that surround me, wherever I may be. I enjoy sitting quietly and observing the wonders and the beauty of nature. When we open our hearts to nature with love, compassion, and understanding, nature will open its glories to the mindful observers. Many birds, which have not been seen in a long time, would suddenly and briefly appear before my eyes. Many seem to pose for me in various positions. In many of the sunrise pictures that I have taken, a bird, which was perching in a different tree, would suddenly appear on the tree thay was in my camera’s eye. When you appreciate, respect, and understand nature, nature will give you special gifts in return. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTION 028: I have watched young people here, in Japan, and in the international communities who are ready to abandon parents and older relatives for the pursuits of economic pleasures. Yes, the laws of karma will eventually take action. Even the Buddha had to accept, even though saddened, the Laws of Karma when his family was cruelly crushed by an invading army. I see this with two of my stepsons who will drives hundreds of miles to party and drink but will not drive thirty-three to forty miles to check up on me or have lunch with me. My lesson is to tell people not to work 15-hour days to provide for their families. Work just enough so that you can participate in family activities. Always be a ‘functioning part’ of the family. Their mother is so self-centered and materialistic that she views her children as possessions that she must remain in contol of. I sense some terrible karmic lessons coming their way. I can only be like the Buddha and understand that when it happens there will be important karmic lessons for them and their mother, as well as for me. She prayed to God for a loving partner to help her in a terrible situation in 1996. We began our relationship with joy and happiness. As she got back on her feet and became more independent, she then verbally began to abuse that gift. That gift was forced to put his things in storage so that her things can dominate the home. Then coming home late every night from work, I was fed leftovers while she and her mother watched TV dramas. The boys were wonderful to me then, so I put up with it. When she started playing around, the cosmos burned the house down. She lost all her valuable possession while everything I had was in storage. We had to be together long enough to get the kids started in college and to start their own lives. Two years later, I divorced her. The cosmos produced things to protect me from her. She is still angry that she could not completely destroy the gift she was given. I accepted the karmic lessons sent to me and am at peace writing my thoughts. I feel like Lao Tse writing his thoughts before going into the wilderness. I also feel like Bodhidharma saying a little more to make people think more clearly. My ex’s boss came to me at my son’s wedding and said that she was a friend of my ex. I just told her that we came together to make a difference in her children’s lives. The house fire was a signal for our paths to separate. I told her that my path was that of philosophy and hers was that of materialism. I told her boss to take good care of her every time she brough up how much she liked her. Sorry for the long story, just something that just had to be said. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTION 029: I am not a priest nor a spiritual advisor; I am just a retired teacher who has experienced many negatives on this level. I am always asked about history, etc. I am like the old man outside of a village that everyone goes to for advice. I soon realized that my stepsons were becoming more and more distant because of their mom. They never ask me anything about my feelings. I even help my second ex and her next husband and children to have good relationships. No one has an ear for me except for Mother Nature. It has been okay, but there have been moments. So, I would sit on my porch or on my deck and talk to the Joshua trees standing stoically in the desert before me. Many times, I recorded my inner thoughts. I now understand Lao Tse, Confucius, the Bodhidarma, the Christ, Mohammad, and the Buddha’s feelings of being surrounded by people who want to learn from those great teachers, but not really relating to those great teachers. I feel a kinship to the Joshua trees outside my front door. They stand stoically like sentinels whose existence provides a temporary oasis for the surrounding life forms.EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 030: When I first posted my thoughts on the internet, many high level ‘spiritual persons’ wanted me to discuss my thoughts at a highly esoteric level. I told them that that was their realm. My thoughts are to help those on an entry level of spirituality; that is, to help them balance their material and spiritual needs on this level. I seek no followers; I am only encouraging others to exercise their ‘free-will’ so that they can mindfully walk their life’s paths. I am really talking about this level because of the lessons when they can handle ‘love’ on this level, they can take it to higher levels. Mother Teresa is a good example of loving God fully. she loved through her compassion and actions. She saw God in the eyes of every being she met. She did NOT love excessively; she loved perfectly. When one demonstrates the love of his/her God through one’s own personal actions of compassion and love towards all of God’s creations, that is loving God fully and completely. When one oppresses others or destroys God’s creation, that is excessive love. Loving ‘God’ excessively may indicate they may fear that they may not believe fully, so they must force others to believe what they believe. Saibaba, St. Francis, Mother Teresa, and others are with us spiritually every day. The Dalai Lama seems to be the only one left in physical form on this level. His role model is important for everyone; that is being the embodiment of love, service, and compassion. The Buddha tried loving excessively in the forest with others. He abandoned himself to understanding “God” then, under the Bodhi Tree he realized that he had to take care of himself also. He accepted the charity of others and in return he shared what he had learned. We are the instruments of God to demonstrate God’s love. One cannot do that if one denies oneself showing devotion to “God”. True devotion to God is to treat all of his/her creations with love, compassion, and respect without “seeking” compensation for that. Just belove within the context of your situations. EmilKoval©2018

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1133 FEB 29, 2024

Clear Blues Skies Not A Cloud Nearby

Chem-Trails Appearing Early Morning

Morning Flowers And I Bathing In

The Nutritional Rays From The Sun

Bees Feasting On Dandelion Flora

Others Feasting On Tree Blossoms

Rebirth Of Mother Nature’s Realm

Filling My Essence With Spiritual Joy

Also Friendly Chats With Gardeners

A Great Day For This Senior Orphan

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 28, 2024

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QUESTION 10780: Are you giving people the power to control your smile, your worth, your attitude, and your happiness?

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QUESTION 10783: Are one of those people who have never known the joy of shopping for music at a cool music store?

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QUESTION 10784: Do you understand that ‘happiness’ is not about getting what you want all the time? Do you understand that it is about loving what you have and being grateful for it? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 28, 2024

Universal Truth 2216: There is nothing better in this world than having your heart filled with LOVE. Nothing can match it – Nothing and Nothing ever will. It’s because we are love, we are made from it and we are made whole by it. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2217: When I die, I do not want anybody at my funeral… I will come to visit you. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2218: We are all vulnerable. Each of us has lived through our own traumas, trials and situations… but when I am in nature… I am in awe and surrounded by the love of the Creator and I know that I am One with all. Native American

Universal Truth 2219: Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until they speak. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2220: Some people’s pen can point everything wrong about you, but when it comes to correcting themselves, their pen does not work. — Unknown

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REFLECTIONS ON MY LIFE BY EMIL KOVAL (021 TO 025)

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REFLECTION 022: The ancient Greeks sacked the great city of Troy. In later literature, they praised their heroes exploits, but also condemned them through the literature produced hundreds of years later. The Iliad and the Odyssey could be re-read as stories of the moral conduct and the moral misconduct of the Greek heroes. Many Greek plays criticize the aftermath and divisions of the spoils of The Trojan War. We are here to walk our dharmic paths. However, how we walk that path is decided by our karmic choices in this life. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTION 023: I have been put into mini crises modes so that I can learn, write, and share. Everyday there are people with different stories and problems. I listen and write. That is why my topics are different on a daily basis. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 024: The front door of my home faced due east so that I can watch the sunrise dancing through the Joshua Forest outside my front door. The back door and my deck faced due west so I can watch the sunsets and moonsets over the mountains. From my front door is nature in all its glorious wonders. From my deck on the second floor, I could overlook the human concentrations behind my home and view wonder of nature and the skies at dusk. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 025: When I lived my home in Palmdale, it was heaven on earth. In front of me was the cosmos and a forest of Joshua trees. Behind me was the complications of humanity. I stood on that razor’s edge balancing the Yin and Yang of this existence. EmilKoval©2018

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1132 FEB 28, 2024

Another Beautiful Sunrise Morning

Partially Clouds Skies Through The Trees

Morning Flowers Opening In Full Bloom

Lizards Scurrying Through The Bushes

Avians And Squirrels Seeking Morsels

As I Watch The Sunrise With My Brew

Contemplating Mother Nature’s Gifts

Ready To Face Today’s Dharmic Tasks

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 27, 2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 27, 2024

Universal Truth 2211: People born in the 50’s have lived in 7 decades, 2 centuries, & 2 millenniums. We had the best music, fastest cars, Drive-in theaters, soda fountains & happy days. And we are not even that old yet, we’re just that cool. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2211: Lord, as I prepare for bed tonight, I just want to thank you for all You’ve done. I place my worries, cares, and troubles into Your Wisdom. Do not let all my stress, worry and anxiety overtake me. Instead pour out Your peace, Your love and Your joy over my family and bless us with a peaceful rest and a brighterday tomorrow. Amen! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2211: Two things I don’t like: A disrespectful child and a Parent that thinks it’s funny. Manners are very important! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2211:

-What’s your favorite flower?

-Dandelions.

– Okay, why?

-Cause they’re free, wild, and you can’t buy them.

— Unknown

Universal Truth 2211: Six things you do not mess with: My faith, my family, my guns, my flag, my country, and my freedom! — Unknown

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REFLECTIONS ON MY LIFE BY EMIL KOVAL (16 TO 20)

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REFLECTION 016: I do know of one person whose pain is more important to her than a harmonious life with others. It has cost her two marriages, other lost relationships, and has caused conflict in her children. This is her learning process. I will always send her love, compassion, and understanding; however, I will always maintain a harmonious distance. Her pain, which began when she was a child, still rules her life today. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 017: The roles of seniors depend on the motivations of the times they grew up in. Those motivations are/were lessons to be learned in life. As the numbers of ‘seniors’ increase to extremely large numbers, their importance will be diminished. We expect to have over 300,000 over the age of 100 in 40 years. In the past, many did not survive beyond 50, so their age and knowledge was valued. Times have been changing. I am content where I am in my life, and I wish no memorials nor apologies for the neglect that I had experienced. I grew up in a family of self-made men. I am in a better situation than others that are around me. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 018: Count your blessings while you have them. When I lived in my home in Palmdale, during the year I could watch the sunrise dancing through the Joshua trees marching towards the snow-capped mountains to the south. Sometimes I was blessed to view moonrises at dawn and sometimes at dusk. However, things do change to create different blessing at different places. Now I count my blessings living in a retirement center in Simi Hills. New observations, new lessons, and new understandings of people in their later years. EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 13783 REFLECTIONS 019: I always share what I have experienced with those who inquire. As I will leave this life soon, it will be with inner peace and harmony as I share what I have learned. the Buddha struggled with the dogma implanted in his head as a youth. When he contemplated under the Bhodhi Tree, he realized that life is what it is. He simplified his life and returned to the “world” with his new understanding of the world around him. We all have to learn to walk that narrow path through the dualities of this level of existence. EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 13788 REFLECTIONS 020: I have completed my married lives and am on a path directed to help those that I can before I leave this life’s journey. I am just an ordinary ex-teacher who is sharing what I have learned from the students from all around the world, who have come and gone from my classes. Also, I wish to share what I have learned from the lessons that life has presented to me. My library will close at the end of this journey. Therefore, I will share what I can while I still can. EmilKoval©2018

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1131 FEB 27, 2024

Quiet Peaceful Wet Monday Morning

Overcast Skies With Random Showers

Warm Breezes Caressing My Tired Being

Squirrels And Avians Seeking Morsels

Sipping My Morning Brew On My Patio

Grateful For Nature’s Gifts Around Me

Reminiscing On Memories Of Yesteryears

Lessons Of Personal And Spiritual Growth

Such Yin And Yang Adventurer In Life

Outlived Most Childhood Acquaintances

Survived Wars, Marriages, And Two Strokes

Still A Functioning Self-Reliant Senior Orphan

At 83, I Still Help Others In Desperate Need

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 26, 2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 26, 2024

Universal Truth 2206: To remember who you are, you will need to forget what society has tried to teach you to be. Culture matters. Be proud! — Native American

Universal Truth 2207: NATIVE AMERICAN PRAYER:

I give you this, one thought to keep.

I am with you still, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glints on snow,

I am the sunlight on the ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not think of me as gone –

I am with you still, in each new dawn.

Universal Truth 2208: “PATIENCE is not passive, on the contrary it is concentrated STRENGTH.” —Bruce Lee

Universal Truth 2209: A barber set up a library instead of TV for his customers. The person who reads a book will get a discount on haircut. This shows small efforts can bring big changes in society! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2210: Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting. — Joyce Meyer

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REFLECTIONS ON MY LIFE BY EMIL KOVAL (11 TO 15)

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REFLECTIONS 011: A woman known as “Peace Pilgrim” told a story of a tribe in Africa who uses the method of reminding those who break the rules of their society of their positive sides. They did not shame nor punish the offender for his or her offense; they honored the positive of she or he. Very seldom did the members of that society break the moral code of that tribe. Wayne Dyer used her story as a comparison of how his family thought they could not save an addict family member by shaming that person for her bad behavior. He wished that he had known “Peace Pilgrims” story and tried that instead of his psychologist trained method of shaming the ‘offending’ family member. When we see these situations, we must recognize that there is an extreme imbalance in the Yin and Yang of that person. If possible, we should help to restore that balance by emphasize their positive side, not the negative side. The same applies to relationship between couples. When a partner mostly emphasizes the negative of the other partner, that bond is being broken and the end of that relationship is near. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 012: Sometimes I would meet with a ‘good friend’ at his request and have a great conversation within our small group. Sometimes another friend would join in the conversation and began contributing to the conversation with his interesting stories. Unfortunately, sometimes he would dominate the conversation with his ego shining bright. As soon as he finishes his stories, he always has an excuse to leave the conversation. Each time, we would have to wait for almost two hours to participate in the conversation at hand. When it gets too tiresome to participate after waiting almost two hours to join in, I decided to move on with my solo journey just like the Daruma did. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 013: I stopped my academic studies in 1990 when i was fifty because I saw the political restrictions on academic growth. I was also reminded that because they wished to create a racial balance among administrators. which I agreed with, that my chances of becoming an educational administrator was very slim for the time being, with five classes to go to get a Doctorate in Education. I dropped out and returned to the classroom, where I really wanted to be, teaching English and academics to those who had been working all their lives to survive. The wealth of knowledge shared by those people outshined the cookie cutter mind sets of the huge robotic socially engineering minds of the so-called Doctor of Education mindsets of Los Angeles ‘Unified’ School District. I believe I was one the last freethinkers ‘allowed’ to retire. We were lucky to be educated, not indoctrinated, in our earlier years with blessings and enlightening experiences. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 014: There is so much to see and be aware of at the Senior Centers that I go to, when meeting my children and their friends, and what I see in everyday life. The cosmos whispers in my psyche reminding me to be far enough away to see clearly and close enough to be of some significance. The cosmos wishes me to live a monk-like life because if I get too involved with someone, I will sacrifice me to make them happy. A Catholic nun warned me not to marry again because I have so much to share and that sharing would be diminished by my new partner. She was right, but it took two marriages to ‘demanding women’ and nineteen years to understand that fully. I met that nun at my school seventeen years later and thanked her. She was cut from the same mold as Mother Teresa. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 015: When I was around nine years old, my father moved to a country town. I was of a different faith and a city boy. I had to physically fight every day for almost 3 years. A guy in a bar saw me face a line of kids to fight. He looked at me and said, “Hey kid, any fool can start a fight, but it takes a real man to walk away.” I walked away and after a while, because I did not heeds their taunts, the challenges disappeared. One day, one of them got the wind knocked out of him and could not breathe. No one knew what to do. A voice told me what to do. I stepped in, loosened his belt, and took steps to get him breathing again. They were all amazed and all negativity stopped. When I was a teacher, those who were jealous of my progress changed after I showed them technique that worked for them. Focus on who you are; not on what others perceive you are. Their perception of you are for you to reflect on, not necessarily accept their perception of you. You must live ‘your’ life; not theirs. Sorry for the rambling. EmilKoval©2018

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1130 FEB 26, 2024

Early Sunday Morning Sunrise Viewing

Overcast Morning With Sun Peeping Through

Twenty Minutes Rejuvenating My Eyes

At Noon, Last Birthday With Michael & Roxy

‘Junk Yard’ Restaurant For Marine S.O.S.

Beautiful Trees, Ravens, & Seagulls Everywhere

For The Birthday Treat, Asked For Two Candles

Together In The Treat Lighted As One Flame

Tomie And I As One Again In Spiritual Embrace

No Longer Separated By Religious & Cultural Bias.

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 25, 2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 25, 2024

Universal Truth 2201: I know our fate is separation but until my last breath I will search for my sweet love. I will seek my home. — Rumi

Universal Truth 2202: “We are born in one day, we die in one day, we can change in one day, and we can fall in love in one day. Anything can happen in one day. So, make today a GREAT day!” — Gayle Forman

Universal Truth 2203: A miracle is a shift in perception from fear to love! — Marianne Williamson

Universal Truth 2204: “Seven things every child needs to hear: I love you, I’m proud of you, I’m sorry, I forgive you, I’m listening. This is your responsibility. You have what it takes to succeed.” — Sherrie Campbell

Universal Truth 2205: What is life? It is the flash of a firefly in the night. It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime. It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset. — Chief Crowfoot

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REFLECTIONS ON MY LIFE BY EMIL KOVAL (06 TO 10)

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REFLECTIONS 07: Many will always follow the norms like sheep. It is their comfort zone of life. A few others will become outcasts or semi-outcasts. However, they are the ones who make the greatest difference in the lives of most of the conformists. Do not be upset with them. Be grateful that you can think out of the box that many have keep themselves imprisoned in. Celebrate your freedom of thoughts. There is a great book to illustrate this: “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” by Richard Bach. I used it in my class several times. Some broke free of their socio-cultural limitations. others wished they could (the seeds were planted) and the others only learned English expressions. It is a short book. Richard Harris, the actor, made a 90-minute audio version of it. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTION 08: Look at the world around you. You can see people fighting over material things or for ‘so-called’ personal honor and their need for retribution. They become blind to the humanity around them. Look at Somalia, children dying, starving, and being denied medication while their Muslim brothers in the Gulf States build cities and hospitals for the elite of the world. Look at the terrorist all over the world. How many Irishmen have the IRA and the British occupiers killed each other for ‘god’ and country. How many Muslims and non-Muslims who have lived together in peace for centuries have the insurgents in Iraq killed to protect ‘their soil’ from invaders. How many Hispanics have been killed by revolutionaries, governments, and drug dealers in revenge against the U.S. or for profits. Look at Uganda and the former Yugoslavia where millions have died in the name of cultural superiority, ‘faith deities’, retribution, and personal cultural honor. Most enlightened people become recluses or semi-recluses to maintain their spiritual progress. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLEXIONS 09: Since 1960, I had studied at four institutions of higher learning in California, as well as, at the two top private universities in Japan. My first wife of twenty-two years was Japanese. Twelve years into that beautiful relationship, religious fanaticism and her mother’s Japanese bias started the process of destroying that relationship. We did remain friends until she rejoined the cosmos in 2010. Japan entered my life at a crucial stage. I am grateful for that. I will always respect its positives and its negatives. That is, the ‘yin and yang’ of Japan which makes it unique. This applies to all cultures and nations. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 10: A great teacher once said to those who sought his advice, “I can give you suggestions as to how I handle my own problems; however, only you can go inward and discovered the solutions to your own problems. When you depend on others to solve your problems, they become your controllers.” When you seek the advice of others, and then, go inward to solve ‘your problems’, you become the controller of ‘your life’. EmilKoval©2018

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1129 FEB 25, 2024

A Beautiful Sunday Overcast Morning

Celebrating My True Wife’s Birthday

As My Son Celebrates My Belated Birthday

Tomie, Rejected By Japanese Family Bias

Her Sister Married A Racially Japanese Man

An Alcoholic, Beat Her So Badly Hospitalized

Her Brother Married A Japanese Woman

Wanted Her Lover Called Dad By His Children

Stopped That Cold Protecting Tomie’s Brother

In My Hometown Tomie Was Loved By All

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 24, 2024

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QUESTION 10761: Are you welcoming every day with a smile? Are daily embracing your joy and happiness to the fullest? Do you comprehend that life is a miracle and that every breath we take is a cosmic gift? Emilkoval©2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 24, 2024

Universal Truth 2196: And she stopped…

and she heard what the trees said to her, And she sat there for hours not wanting to leave, For the forest said nothing, it just let her breathe. — Becky Hemsley

Universal Truth 2197: When you are young, your grandparents try to tell you their history, and you don’t care because it doesn’t interest you at the time. Later on, you wish you had written what they said down. — Lillian Trujillo

Universal Truth 2198: “To walk among the falling leaves And breathe the autumn air And keep the company of trees What thing could be more fair?” — Laura Jaworski

Universal Truth 2199: If I should fall in autumn’s spell, leave me in her enchanted womb; until winter wakes my blissful soul with a magical snow-laced moon. — Angie Weiland-Crosby

Universal Truth 2200: Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates: “Is is true?”, “Is it necessary?”, and “Is it kind?”. — Buddha

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REFLECTIONS ON MY LIFEBY EMIL KOVAL (01 TO 10)

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REFLECTIONS 001: One’s life should not be a matter of whose is at fault or who is to be blamed. Encounters with negatives or positives are a fact of life. It is how we deal with those positives or negatives that is important. at the age three, while my father was with Patton in WW II. My “mother” put me in an orphanage and ran off with someone. It is a fact of life. I never felt any bitterness. I have lived my life without that mother’s love. The positive of that action was that my father was sent home after the European victory. He was not sent to prepare for the invasion of Japan because he was a single parent with a child in an orphanage. I turned out fine. My ‘mother’ called me when I was 30 in an attempt to connect with my sister. She called every month until I left to study at Waseda University in Japan. I felt sorry this ‘stranger’ who had given up two children for a fling. The price she paid was heavy. That price was inside of her. I listened with compassion and understanding to this stranger’s plight. My sister has her personal reason for no communications with her, which I respect. When I met potential partners, I always made sure that they loved children. Life goes on and the lessons continue to present themselves. My father came back from the war and took me out of the orphanage and raised my sister and me. I am grateful for both the negatives and positives of life. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 002: Everyone’s experience is unique to him/her. Those experiences may be similar in many ways; however, they are unique to each individual. I have been blessed to have a perspective that sees every negative as an opportunity to grow. I have listened to those in my groups and elsewhere. For me, it has been a great lesson. I have no regrets. When I went to Hiroshima, I met a couple who survived the bomb. They consider me ‘their son’. My Japanese mother gave me the mother’s love that I had never had. I was 20 years old then. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 003: As a young man I sought out the most beautiful of women and discovered that true beauty is on the inside not the outside. I discovered the inner beauty can last forever while outer beauty will change with age, hormones, and negative events that are social, physical, emotional, and financial. EmilKoval©2018

MY THOUGHT 13588 REFLECTIONS 004: While I was at one of my sons’ home for a bar-b-que, I observed the growth patterns of all those there had varied in some ways. Each has their own spiritual journey to walk. I watched my blended family interact and smile. There is joy in still learning from my children as they seek to learn from me. I saw the spiritual light coming through some of them. All is well. When it is my time to return to the cosmos, I will leave very quietly so that no one will notice. I am at peace at what I saw and experienced at that bar-b-que. EmilKoval©2018

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REFLECTIONS 005: I wish to be judged by who I am in the now; not by who I was in the past. What I was in the past were lessons for me to mindfully change my thoughts and to mindfully change my actions. I am no longer that little boy who wandered in the woods chasing animals and cutting down trees, nor I am that teenage boy who had chased after many girls. Those actions at that time brought me many lessons that eventually created the man that I am today. A man who greatly respects nature and the individualities of all persons. My military days taught me much about conflicts, cultures, and respect for all humanity. Today, in my senior years, my greatest joy is creating little acts of kindness with love, compassion, and understanding for all forms of life. EmilKoval©2018

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1128 FEB 24, 2024

Another Saturday Morning Watching The Sunrise

Beautiful Rays Of Light Waking Up The Valley Below

Sunny Amber Skies Turning A Light Shade Of Blue

Avians And Squirrels Seeking Their Morning Morsels

Bees Seeking The Sweet Nectar Newly Opened Buds

I, With My Morning Brew, Appreciating Mother Nature

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 23, 2024

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Universal Truth 2191: I can respect any person who can put their ego aside and say, “I made a mistake. I apologize, and I’m correcting the behavior”. — @Mr Commonsense

Universal Truth 2192: Your soul is always going to whisper your truth back to you. Your soul wants what is best for you. And if you try to silence its voice, eventually the whisper will become a Roar. — Wild Woman Sisterhood

Universal Truth 2193: If you knew what was in store for your children, you would stand up and fight with all your heart and all your might, and all your soul. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2194: “The old Lakota was wise. He knew that a man’s heart, away from nature, becomes hard. He knew that lack of respect for growing, living things soon led to lack of respect for humans, too, So he kept his children dose to nature’s softening influence.” — Luther Standing Bear

Universal Truth 2195: She was always smiling from the way he made her feel. He was hot and dark and steamy. He made her life have meaning. She couldn’t live without him. And she didn’t want to..Coffee. He was coffee. — Unknown

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ERICKSON’S 8 STAGES OF PSYCHOSOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

PART 5

It’s important for mental health therapists to be aware of these common symptoms related to regression and to help clients overcome them in therapy. By addressing regression, therapists can help clients progress through each stage of development and develop the virtues associated with each stage, leading to greater personal growth and fulfillment. It’s essential for therapists to recognize when clients are regressing and provide support and guidance to help them move forward. Here are some ways therapists can help clients overcome regression:

1. Validate the Client’s Experience: It’s important for therapists to acknowledge and validate the client’s feelings and experiences. This can help build trust and provide a safe space for the client to express themselves.

2. Help Clients Identify Triggers: Identifying triggers that cause clients to regress can help them anticipate and prepare for potential setbacks. This can help clients develop coping mechanisms and prevent them from becoming stuck in earlier stages.

3. Encourage Clients to Practice Self-Care: Encouraging clients to practice self-care can help them manage stress and anxiety that can lead to regression. This can include activities such as exercise, mindfulness, and relaxation techniques.

4. Provide Tools for Growth: Providing clients with tools and techniques to manage stress and anxiety can help them progress through each stage of development. This can include cognitive-behavioral therapy, interpersonal therapy, and other evidence-based interventions.

By addressing regression in therapy, therapists can help clients overcome obstacles and progress through each stage of development, developing the virtues associated with each stage. This can help clients live a more fulfilling and purposeful life, and achieve a sense of self-awareness and personal growth.

Perhaps you are a private practice in the mental health industry, or maybe a large agency trying to get your clinicians on the same page regarding Trauma Informed Care. Consider the Pioneer Counseling Trauma Informed Care Psychotherapy Tx Planner. It really is more than a tx planner, it is a guide and a point of reference.

Piaget’s Stages of Cognitive Development vs. Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development

Piaget was another influence of Erikson. His stages also end around puberty. However, the work he has done regarding child development is much more relevant than Freud’s work.

Piaget’s stages of cognitive development contain similar concepts to Erikson’s. For example, he discusses how children see themselves in relation to their peers. Role-playing and empathy are widely discussed in Piaget’s stages. But he also discusses other cognitive skills that Erikson does not touch on. Piaget describes four stages of cognitive development, in which children develop skills like object permanence and conversion. These skills help children relate to the social and material world aroundthem.

Kohlberg’s Stages of Moral Development vs. Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development

Sometimes, it seems like children are evil. If you ask Piaget, Erikson, or Kohlberg, that’s not an unfair judgment! Kohlberg’s stages of moral development outline three different stages that last from birth to adolescence. (Although not every teenager or adult develops a mature moral compass!) Each stage is separated into two phases where the child adjusts their view of themselves in the world. This change in perspective changes the child’s morality. Piaget describes similar changes. An egocentric child, for example, will have different views on morality than a child who sees themselves as part of society. Empathy changes a child’s moral compass, too.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1127 FEB 23, 2024

Clear Sunny Blue Skies Friday Morning

Looking Across San Fernando Valley

Distant Old Santa Monica Mountains

Landslides And Flashfloods Everywhere

At Young Santa Susana Mountains

Sipping My Soothing Warm Morning Brew

Colorful Fallen Leaves & Birds Of Paradise

Bees Seeking Their Sweet Nectar Of Life

My Camera Shutter Busily Clicking Away

As I Reflect On My Navy Day Adventures

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 22, 2024

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Universal Truth 2186: I am proud to be one of the many millions of human beings living on planet earth with the intention to live in peace and have a positive impact on the lives of others. — Sandy C. Newbigging

Universal Truth 2187: Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not. — The Lorax

Universal Truth 2188: It’s the beauty within us that makes it possible for us to recognize the beauty around us. The question is not what you look at but what you see. — Henry David Thoreau

Universal Truth 2189: “We need leaders not in love with money but in love with justice. Not in love with publicity but in love with humanity.” — Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Universal Truth 2190: “The less I needed, the better I felt.” — Charles Bukowski

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ERICKSON’S 8 STAGES OF PSYCHOSOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

PART 4

Regression is a common phenomenon that occurs when individuals revert to earlier patterns of behavior or thought in response to stress, anxiety, or other challenges. When individuals regress, they may exhibit symptoms that are typical of earlier stages of development, even if they have already progressed through those stages. Here are some common symptoms related to regression:

Withdrawal: Individuals who regress may withdraw from social situations, become isolated, and avoid social interactions.

Tantrums: Regression may manifest as temper tantrums or outbursts of emotion that are typical of earlier developmental stages.

Sleep disturbances: Regression may cause sleep disturbances, such as difficulty falling or staying asleep, nightmares, or night terrors.

Regression in daily habits: Clients may stop doing things they were previously able to do, such as brushing their teeth, taking showers or dressing themselves.

Regression in communication: Clients may use baby talk or simple language or lose their vocabulary altogether.

Anxiety: Regression can cause anxiety or fear related to a particular situation or object, such as separation anxiety or fear of the dark.

Helplessness: Clients may feel helpless and dependent, expecting others to do everything for them.

For example, a client who is struggling with intimacy in their relationships may regress to stage 5 (Identity vs. Role Confusion) and struggle with developing a sense of self. This can prevent them from successfully navigating stage 6 (Intimacy vs. Isolation) and developing meaningful connections with others. If left unresolved, the client may continue to struggle with intimacy and become stuck in earlier stages of development.

In post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), regression is often seen as a way for the client to cope with the traumatic experience. A study found that 53% of patients with PTSD experienced symptoms of regression, such as avoidance or withdrawal.

Similarly, a study on depression found that 42% of patients exhibited regressive behavior, such as clinging to others or exhibiting temper tantrums. In borderline personality disorder, regression is seen as a maladaptive coping mechanism that can lead to impulsive or self-destructive behaviors.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1126 FEB 22, 2024

Sleepy Rainy Warm Wednesday Morning

Flashfloods & Landslides In Some Areas

Just Meditative Soothing Rain Near Me

Sipping My Brew In Mid-Morning Sunshine

Cloudy Blue Skies In My Camera’s View

Raindrops Like Diamonds Adorn Berry Leaves

Mother Nature’s Beauty Dazzling My Senses

As Gentle Breezes Caress My Physical Being

Whispering In My Ears ‘The Best Is Yet To Come’

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 21, 2024

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QUESTION 10745: The world needs more people who have the power to make someone happy. Are you one of those people?

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 20, 2024

Universal Truth 2176: Suggestion: If you need to get rid of unwanted junk during the holidays, put the unwanted junk in Amazon boxes and leave it on your front porch! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2177:

7 Rules for Life:

1. Let it go

2. Ignore them

3. Give it time

4. Don’t compare

5. Stay calm

6. It’s on you

7. Smile

— Success Minded

Universal Truth 2178: “A loyal friend is a treasure that no amount of wealth can buy.” — Samuel Bizimana

Universal Truth 2179: One of the sincerest forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say. — Bryant McGill

Universal Truth 2180: Never accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember, you teach people how to treat you. — Unknown

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 21, 2024

Universal Truth 2181: Tomorrow is never promised, so today I want all of my friends and family to know how thankful I am that all of you are in my life. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2182:

From the earth we came,

to the earth we shall return,

but you are here now, so it’s your turn,

live fiercely because one day ..

to the earth you will return.

— Flowers & Poetry@poemsbloom

Universal Truth 2183: “You must let suffering speak. if you want to hear the truth.” —Dr. Cornel West.

Universal Truth 2184: “They who know the truth are not equal to those who love it, and they who love it are not equal to those who delight in it.” — Confucius ‘Analects’

Universal Truth 2185: Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters. — Albert Einstein

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ERICKSON’S 8 STAGES OF PSYCHOSOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

PART 3

Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development provides a comprehensive framework for understanding human development across the lifespan. By understanding the challenges and opportunities of each stage, mental health therapists can provide tailored interventions to support clients’ growth and development. Utilizing this model in therapy sessions can help clients develop a sense of self-awareness, purpose, and fulfillment in their lives.

Erikson’s theory proposes that at each stage of life, individuals face a specific psychosocial crisis that must be resolved in order to progress to the next stage. When individuals successfully resolve the crisis, they develop a specific virtue or strength that enables them to navigate future challenges.

Here are the virtues attained from each stage:

Trust vs. Mistrust (Birth to 18 months) – The virtue of hope: If infants receive consistent and responsive care from their caregivers, they develop a sense of trust in the world around them. This trust allows them to feel hopeful and optimistic about the future.

Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt (18 months to 3 years) – The virtue of will: If toddlers are encouraged to explore their environment and make choices for themselves, they develop a sense of autonomy and independence. This allows them to develop a strong sense of will and self-control.

Initiative vs. Guilt (3 to 6 years) – The virtue of purpose: If young children are encouraged to take initiative and explore their environment, they develop a sense of purpose and direction in life. This allows them to feel a sense of accomplishment and pride in their achievements.

Industry vs. Inferiority (6 to 12 years) – The virtue of competence: If children are encouraged to master new skills and succeed in academic and social endeavors, they develop a sense of competence and confidence. This allows them to feel capable and successful in future endeavors.

Identity vs. Role Confusion (12 to 18 years) – The virtue of fidelity: If adolescents successfully navigate the challenge of developing a sense of identity, they develop a sense of fidelity or loyalty to themselves and others. This allows them to develop a clear sense of values and beliefs that guide their decision-making in adulthood.

Intimacy vs. Isolation (18 to 40 years) – The virtue of love: If young adults are successful in developing meaningful and intimate relationships with others, they develop a sense of love and connection. This allows them to form lasting bonds with others and experience deep emotional fulfillment.

Generativity vs. Stagnation (40 to 65 years) – The virtue of care: If middle-aged adults are successful in making a positive contribution to society and the next generation, they develop a sense of care and concern for others. This allows them to feel fulfilled and satisfied with their accomplishments.

Integrity vs. Despair (65 years and older) – The virtue of wisdom: If older adults reflect on their lives and find meaning and purpose in their experiences, they develop a sense of wisdom and acceptance. This allows them to feel at peace with their life’s journey and to share their insights with future generations.

By developing these virtues, individuals are better equipped to navigate the challenges of life and to find fulfillment and purpose in their experiences. Mental health therapists can help clients develop these virtues by providing guidance and support as they navigate each stage of development.

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PART 3

Here are the virtues attained from each stage:

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1125 FEB 21, 2024

Sleepy Rainy Tuesday Morning

Earthquake False Warnings

Flashflood Warning In Some Areas

Just Meditative Soothing Rain Here

Peacefully Sipping My Morning Brew

Breezes Whispering Gently In My Ears

Raindrops Slipping From Drenched Leaves

Mother Nature Caressing My Inner Being

Drowsy Eyes Slowly Closing ZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzz

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 20, 2024

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QUESTION 10740: Do you take the time and listen to your child’s explanation of his or her laments and wishes?

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 19, 2024

Universal Truth 2171: Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again. — Anne Frank

Universal Truth 2172: The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires. — Rumi

Universal Truth 2173: “Being honest may not get you many friends, but it’ll always get you the right ones.” — John Lennon

Universal Truth 2174:

My name is Eternity

I live within your soul

1 am the voiceless sound

Whispering to your heart

Loving you without condition

Hearing you without judgement

A vortex of acceptance

Beyond your understanding

A nebula of awakening

I am Eternity

— Collette O’Mahony

Universal Truth 2175: Our bodies have five senses: touch, smell, taste, sight, hearing. But not to be overlooked are the senses of our souls: intuition, peace, foresight, trust, empathy. — C Joybell C

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ERICKSON’S 8 STAGES OF PSYCHOSOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

PART 2

Erikson’s best-known work is his theory that each stage of life is associated with a specific psychological struggle, a struggle that contributes to a major aspect of personality.

8 Stages of Human Development

Trust vs. Mistrust: Age 0 to 1-1/2. …

Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt: Age 1 -1/2 to 3. …

Initiative vs. Guilt: Age 3 to 5. …

Industry vs. Inferiority: Age 5 to 12. …

Identity vs. Role Confusion – 12-18 years. …

Intimacy vs. Isolation – 18 to 40 years. …

Generativity vs. Stagnation (40 to 65 Years)…

Ego Integrity vs. Despair (65 Years and Older)

Studying Erikson’s stages serve as a basis of treatment for different recovery stages of mental illness.[8] For example, the initial stage of trust vs. mistrust parallels the mental illness recovery stage concerning the acceptance of the mental illness and trusting the idea of recovery.

Failure to complete a stage can result in a reduced ability to complete further stages and, therefore, a more unhealthy personality and sense of self. These stages,however, can be resolved successfully at a later time.

Stages arise as individuals grow and face new decisions and turning points during childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Each stage is defined by two opposing psychological tendencies – one positive/syntactic and negative/dystonic. From this develops an ego virtue/strength or maldevelopment, respectively. If the virtue is adopted, it can help to resolve the current decision or conflict. It will also help subsequent stages of development and contribute to a stable foundation for core belief systems in relating to the self and the outer world.[3] The opposite is true with the adoption of the maldeveloped quality.

As an example, the ego identity crystallizes in stage 5, during adolescence. The two opposing qualities are ego identity and confusion/diffusion. Those who develop ego identity yield the virtue of fidelity, while the inability to do so – ego confusion – creates a quality of repudiation. With a stronger sense of ego identity, the interaction with the outer and inner world is of rejecting incongruent evaluations of self and a decreased level of anxiety, respectively.[4]

While adopting the syntonic attribute is clearly beneficial in this example, doing so should be done within reason. Extreme ego identity can become fanaticism, which can create unhealthy interactions with the self and others. One must navigate the two opposing values in each stage to find a balance, instead of only striving for the positive quality. Straying too far towards the positive tendency can be maladaptive, while leaning too far toward the negative can be malignant.[3]

Components

Some scholars have attempted to confine stages to specific ages, but Erikson did not initially define this. Instead, there are periods within childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Each stage provides an example in which the positive attribute may be furthered.

Stages of Childhood

Stage 1 – Infancy period: Trust vs. Mistrust

Virtue: Hope, Maldevelopment: Withdrawal Concomitant Freudian stage: oral stage

Example: Secure environment provided by the caregiver, with regular access to affection and food

Stage 2 – Early Childhood period: Autonomy vs. Shame, doubt

Virtue: Will, Maldevelopment: Compulsion Concomitant Freudian stage: anal stage

Example: Caregiver promotes self-sufficiency while maintaining a secure environment

Stage 3 – Play Age period: Initiative vs. Guilt

Virtue: Purpose, Maldevelopment: Inhibition Concomitant Freudian stage: genital stage

Example: Caregiver encourages, supports, and guides the child’s own initiatives and interests

Stage 4 – School Age period: Industry vs. Inferiority

Virtue: Competence, Maldevelopment: Inertia (passivity)

Concomitant Freudian stage: latency stage

Example: Reasonable expectations set in school and at home, with praise for their accomplishments

Stage of Adolescence

Stage 5 – Adolescence period: Identity vs. Identity confusion

Virtue: Fidelity, Maldevelopment: Repudiation

Example: Individual weighs out their previous experiences, societal expectations, and their aspirations in establishing values and ‘finding themselves.’

Stages of Adulthood

Stage 6 – Young Adulthood period: Intimacy vs. Isolation

Virtue: Love, Maldevelopment: Distantiation

Example: Individual forms close friendships or long-term partnership

Stage 7 – Adulthood period: Generativity vs. Stagnation/Self-absorption

Virtue: Care, Maldevelopment: Rejectivity

Example: Engagement with the next generation through parenting, coaching, or teaching

Stage 8 – Old Age period: Integrity vs. Despair

Virtue: Wisdom, Maldevelopment: Disdain

Example: Contemplation and acknowledgment of personal life accomplishments.

A ninth stage was added by Erik Erikson’s wife, Joan Erikson. It considers new challenges experienced with continued aging and incorporates aspects from all previous eight stages of psychosocial development.

The sequential layout of Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development might initially suggest that stage outcomes become fixed once the next stage is engaged. While there is a fixed sequence, resolution can be a life-long process, re-activated at various times depending on life events that affect the ego strength or maldeveloped belief pattern.[5] Resolution is not required to move on to the next stage. Additionally, with advancement to a new stage, preceding stages are questioned and must be reintegrated.[6] This is why his theory is sometimes referred to as an ‘epigenetic principle.’ Additional research suggests that the latter four stages are, to an extent, a repetition of previous stages.[7] As an example, the stage of intimacy can be considered a combination of autonomy and trust. Thus, the developmental stages and formation of identity is an ever-evolving process, as opposed to a rigid concrete system.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1124 FEB 20, 2024

Rainy Days Are Here Again In Sunny Southern California

Flashflood, Landslide, And Traffic Warnings Everywhere

Million Dollar Homes Sliding Downhill & Into The Ocean

Those Owners Wanted Privacy So Denied Access Roads

Preventing Firebreaks And Flood Control Access

Common People Denied Easy Access To Beaches & Towns

This Month Flashfloods And Landslides In Rich Areas

Next Month Brushfires Will Ravage Their Sanctuaries

What Goes Around Comes Around! Karma Karma Karma

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 19, 2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 19, 2024

Universal Truth 2171: Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again. — Anne Frank

Universal Truth 2172: The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires. — Rumi

Universal Truth 2173: “Being honest may not get you many friends, but it’ll always get you the right ones.” — John Lennon

Universal Truth 2174:

My name is Eternity

I live within your soul

1 am the voiceless sound

Whispering to your heart

Loving you without condition

Hearing you without judgement

A vortex of acceptance

Beyond your understanding

A nebula of awakening

I am Eternity

— Collette O’Mahony

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ERICKSON’S 8 STAGES OF PSYCHOSOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

This was considered essential in my ex-spouse’s classes on child development. I did all the research for her classes for child development because language skills. I presented them to my students, and they were well taken.

ERIK ERIKSON maintained that personality develops in a predetermined order and builds upon each previous stage. This is called the Epigenetic Principle.

TRUST VS. MISTRUST

This stage begins at birth and lasts through one year of age. The infant develops a sense of trust when interactions provide reliability, care, and affection. A lack of this will lead to mistrust.

AUTONOMY VS. SHAME AND DOUBT

This stage occurs between the ages of 18 months to approximately age two to three years. The infant develops a sense of personal control over physical skills and a sense of independence. Erikson states it is critical that parents allow their children to explore the limits of their abilities within an encouraging environment which is tolerant of failure. Success leads to feelings of autonomy, failure results in feelings of shame and doubt.

INITIATIVE VS. GUILT

This stage occurs during the preschool years, between the ages of three and five. The child begins to assert control and power over their environment by planning activities, accomplishing tasks and facing challenges. Success at this stage leads to a sense of purpose. If initiative is dismissed or discourages, either through criticism or control, children develop a sense of guilt.

INDUSTRY VS. INFERIORITY

This stage occurs during childhood between the ages of five and twelve. It is at this stage that the child’s peer group will gain greater significance and will become a major source of the child’s self-esteem. The child is coping with new learning and social demands. Success leads to a sense of competence, while failure results in feelings of inferiority.

IDENTITY VS. ROLE CONFUSION

The fifth stage occurs during adolescence, from about 12-18 years. Teenagers explore who they are as individuals, and seek to establish a sense of self, and may experiment with different roles, activities, and behaviors. According to Erikson, this is important to the process of forming a strong identity and developing a sense of direction in life.

INTIMACY VS. ISOLATION

This stage takes place during young adulthood between the ages of approximately 19 and 40. During this period, the major conflict centers on forming intimate, loving relationships with other people. Success leads to strong relationships, while failure results in loneliness and isolation.

GENERATIVITY VS. STAGNATION

This stage takes place during middle adulthood between the ages of approximately 40 and 65. People experience a need to create or nurture things that will outlast them, often having mentees or creating positive changes that will benefit other people. Success leads to feelings of usefulness and accomplishment, while failure results inshallow involvement in the world.

EGO INTEGRITY VS. DESPAIR

This stage takes place after age 65 and involves reflecting on one’s life and either moving into feeling satisfied and happy with one’s life or feeling a deep sense of regret. Success at this stage leads to feelings of wisdom, while failure results in regret, bitterness, and despair.

Take the time to reflect on ‘your life’ and your children’s live.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1123 FEB 19, 2024

Rainy Overcast Quiet Sunday Morning

Nature’s Realm Is My House Of Prayer

My Mind, My Mental Holy Shrine Is Pristine

My Altar Cleansed By The Ten Commandments

Daily Reflections Of The Beatitudes & The Golden Rule

Radiating Love, Compassion, & Understanding

Isolation Creating Personal And Spiritual Growth

No Toxic People Nor Toxic Media Sources

Mother Nature’s Soothing Sounds Calms My Being!

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 18, 2024

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 18, 2024

Universal Truth 2166: The music and the silence. One cannot exist without the other. — Lao Tzu

Universal Truth 2167: The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. — LOUISE HAY

Universal Truth 2168: If they need you temporarily, ignore them permanently. –Unknown

Universal Truth 2169: Don’t worry about getting old, worry about thinking old. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2170: I am not impressed by money, followers, degrees, or titles. What impresses me is honesty, kindness, generosity, integrity. — Unknown

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (121 TO 130)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 121: In today’s world, it would be better to have a simplified frugal marriage ceremony. This allows the couple to survive the economic storms of life in the beginning of the relationship. If you survive the first five years, then you can celebrate your vows in a more gregarious way. every five years celebrate your successful relationship according to your economic means. Starting a relationship with a huge debt because of rings and ceremonies tend to eventually destroy the relationship. What good are expensive rings and gala celebrations if the create money problems in a relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 122: In long term relationships, there are times when you need to rekindle the fire of attractiveness. Discuss with your partner your fantasies that the both of you would like to work out. Surprises and working out mutual sexual fantasies will rekindle any fire that has been reduced to embers. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 123: When relationships become stagnant, fear of lost love raises its head. Some partners react to this in a negative way and begin to nag at their partners. One must understand that the nagging or complaining is really a signal that one is afraid of losing one’s partner. It is then time to sit down together and discuss each other’s relationship fears and rekindle a loving relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 124: Your relationship is like two streams coming together forming a raging river that meets all obstacles in its path. It will flow calmly at time, it will run through rapids which helps cleanse negatives, and it will nourish those along its path. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 125: When you allow vacuums in your relationships, they will at first be filled with fear of loss. You must fill that vacuum with your love and understanding. If you do not, then eventual someone else will fill that vacuum. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 126: One of the greatest challenges in any relationship is maintaining the balance between “me” and “we”. There are times when the “me” must submit to the “we”, and the “we” must let the “me” be “me”. This balancing of the Yin and Yang of a relationship is a great spiritual challenge. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 127: When you get married, do not spoil each other by saying “I’ll do it! You relax!” start out by sharing your chores and responsibilities. You should learn right away how to do each other’s basic chores in case of an emergency. Cooperative efforts are wonderful role models for your children. Sharing roles is an expression of love that truly benefits all. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 128: Sit down with your partner periodically and discuss any fears you have in the relationship. Do you either of you have fears of abandonment, fear of rejection, feelings of inadequacy, or holding any grudges. A resolution of these concerns can lead to a more loving and cooperative relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 129: Instead being jealous of your partner’s former partners, be grateful to them for preparing your present partner to come to you. If they had had a good relationship, your partner would not be with you. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 130: When you begin to take your partner for granted, the cancer of neglect will start to creep into your relationship. If you do not catch it in time, your partner who knows and accepts your every quirk, your body noises, and your negativities will eventually find someone who is willing to fill the vacuum that you have created and have refused to refill. The real problem is that your next partner may not accept and eventually reject your quirks, your noises, and your negativities that your lost partner had accepted with love. Filling a vacuum with a renewed love and understanding is preferable to entering a truly unknown relationship. EmilKoval©2012

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 207

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (131 TO 149)

MY THOUGHTS 2756 EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 131: If your chosen method of dress is a problem for your partner, it is a signal of an underlying relationship problem. Your partner may make some suggestions about your dress. However, she/he has no right to make demands on your style of dress. when you and your partner start to conflict on each other’s mode of dress, than you are not in the right relationship. Time to re-evaluate the true reasons why you and your partner are together at this moment in life. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 132: When seeking the perfect mate for your life, one should not seek those that are presently prefect in facial and physical beauty. Facial and physical beauty will naturally change in time through aging and hormonal changes. Do not seek but be open to a partner morally and spiritually compatible. Accept a partner who is willing to assist you on your dharmic path and who will stand by you when to have to face tough karmic choices that are necessary for your spiritual growth. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 134: Always treat your relationship as a whole. You may have separate goals and accounts, both partners should work together to help coordinate each other’s goals. No secrets should be kept between both partners. When you practice the trinity ofrelationships, your relationship willfunction as a whole relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 135: Every relationship may be easy to start; however, its ending is usually traumatic. Every relation is much more than physical attraction. Every relationship is the entwining of lives, emotions, and spiritual endeavors. When you express your love loosely in the beginning, later, it may be more difficult to express it freely. When you your love guardedly in the beginning, you will be able to express it freely in a fully blossomed relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 136: If you are infidelis in your relations, be truthful to yourself. Go inward and understand why and confess and repent to your inner being. Become a better and more loving partner. Do not confess your transgression to your partner because the pain belongs exclusively to you. It is a personal guilt that belongs to you alone. If you are confronted with it, be honest and face your karmic lesson. If you volunteer your guilty feelings, you will only bring pain and suffering to your innocent partner. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 137: Remember to work on you happiness first because your children and your partner depend on your immediate presence. If your are happy or content or at peace, they will be happy, at peace, and content too. Also remember that your children will grow away eventually. You and your partner will have to depend on each other for present and future care and comfort, so always express your love and affection for each other. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 138: When two people meet and they want to share their lives together, they should start with a love that respects whom each other is as an individual. When this happens, they will develop into a romantic love that may last a lifetime. You must decide whether you are in love or are you in lust. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 139: Whenever you enter a relationship, make sure the ghosts of the past do not interfere with your present or potential relationship. You should start out as equal partners. You should help your partner to be the best the he/she can be. You may have separate personal goals; however, you can express your love and respect by mutually cooperating with each other to help each other achieve each other’s goal. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 140: What you do have in this life is you and your partner with whom you will walk your present and your future. How you walk your present and future depends on both of your attitudes. When you walk with peace, love, understanding, and mutual expressions of love; you will have a harmonious life that your children would like to be a part of. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 141: An important question for many is “Did you enter your relationship in love or in lust?” “If you entered in lust, did it become love?” If someone complains about a partner’s physical appearance over time, then it was a lust relationship. Eventually the fire dies and the relationship ends or continues as a zombie relationship. When you change your attitude, your relationship and expressions of love will also change. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 142: Many partners are loving and faithful because they respect the human being that they are in partnership with. Others are good only because their societies or faiths requires it and/or the fear the retribution from their societies and/or their faiths. Some use faith to avoid disrespecting others. Each partner should go inward and privately evaluate who he/she really is. When this done for now, then both partners should mutually discuss their findings and decide how to move forward with the relationship as a whole or whether they should separate with mutual respect for each other’s needs. Either way, it is a true expression of mutual love. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 143: Respect your mother for she is the fertile field that gave you life. Respect your father, for he is the sower of the seed that fertilized your mother’s womb. Always respect and honor your parents. They are god’s gift to you just as you are god’s gift to them. At some point in life you will become the parent (guardian) to your parents as they age. Then you become the role model for your children to emulate, respect, and honor towards parents and the elderly in general. You also have the duty to move your family to higher levels of spiritual enlightenment. Balancing you parents’ lives, your and your partner’s lives, and your children’s lives is a true cosmic test of your spiritual being, as well as nurturing true expressions of love. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 144: When a love you have decides to move on without you, it means that the both of you were not ready for each other yet. The both of you need more time to grow individually and maybe find each other again or move on to a more loving and compatible relationship. Remember that some “in love” experiences are practice runs given to you by the cosmos to develop sincere expressions of love for a truly loving future relationship that will last a lifetime. Meanwhile, enjoy and savor the fruits of love and loss which is that taste of sweet and sour or sometimes called bittersweet love. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 145: When a partner wishes to watch a sports program or watch a favorite movie that the other partner is not interested in, it is an opportunity for that partner to do his/her own thing and express her/his own individuality. It is a time for self-realization and self-growth. It is a refreshing of you before returning to the co-operative stage of the relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 0146: Sit down with your partner on a regular basis and discuss how you both can work together to help your relationship to grow beyond what it is at the present time. This mutual consensus is a true express of love and equity in the relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 147: When you can openly discuss each other’s rising resentments and concerns about anything with each other and still maintain a loving respect for your relationship is a true expression of love. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 148: Thought Between Potential Lovers: my expression of love for you is an expression of the extent of the love that I can potentially give to you. If you, in turn, send your love to me, we can both take quantum leaps in our love towards each other. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 149: Some people only know how to express their love in the physical way, some people only know how to express their love in a financial way, and some people only know how to express their love in an intellectual way. If you wish to have a lifelong relationship, you must know how to express your love physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. EmilKoval©2013

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1122 FEB 18, 2024

Beautiful Saturday Morning With Overcast Skies

Threats Of Flashfloods But No Rain In Sight

Bees, Avians, And Squirrels Busy Everywhere

Such A Soothing Relaxing Day With My Brew

In Symbiosis, Mother Nature, Me, Myself, And I

As I Peruse The Pages Of The Manyoshu

So Many Inciteful Poems Of Love Lost And Fond

Emotional Connection With Those 1500 Years Ago

In A Symbiotic Relationship With Long Gone Poets

Technology Changes Yet Emotions Are Unchanging

Perusing The Past Opens Doors To A Hopeful Future

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 17, 2024

Posted in 1 on February 17, 2024| Leave a Comment »

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 17, 2024

Universal Truth 2161: During the last weeks of the year I want to stop and share my gratitude with everyone who enriched my life in 2023. I am deeply thankful for you. Wishing you health, joy, love and peace in 2024.

Universal Truth 2162: Chivalry never died. The gentleman in most men did. Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age, but, being a gentleman is a matter ot choice. — Knights Of The Free Company

Universal Truth 2163: Today, you could be standing next to someone who is doing all he or she can to not fall apart, so wherever this day takes you, keep a kind heart.

Universal Truth 2164: Real power is being able to stay in your peace while being surrounded by ungrounded people!

Universal Truth 2165: Find what it takes for you personally to let go of your stress and incorporate that into your daily routine. I like to take naps, go out in nature, or be in a deep state of gratitude. — Lisa Garr

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 204

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (101 TO 110)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 101: True love can never be expressed in words. It can only be expressed through loving caring actions. both partners should be mindful of maintaining their physical, mental, and spiritual bonds through loving caring actions. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 102: When you recognize and accept that positive and negative emotional outbursts are normal interchanges within a relationship, you can use those emotional outbursts to enhance and strengthen the bonds of your relationship. It is a recognition that we are not only spiritual beings and physical beings, but that we are also emotional beings. true love is accepting and working with all aspects our loved ones’ beings. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 103: When you dwell on yesterday’s events and negativities, you take away from pleasant potentials of today. when you dwell on a past relationship, you take away from the present relationship. You must choose: a past love or the present love. You cannot have both. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 104: Expressing true love for anyone in your life is done by empowering them to be the best that they can be. You empower them by showing your confidence in them, encouraging their curiosity and creativity, promoting their good health, and becoming a sounding board and consultant for their inner turmoil. You may also provide soul touching hugs when needed. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 105: When you treat a partner with negativity, they may forgive you over and over for a while. When he/she can only anticipate your anger, they will gradually drift away. when she/he becomes totally defensive, you have lost them because his/her only choice is escape. Wouldn’t it be better to see how you can turn your negative responses into caring loving positive responses. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 106: Be aware of how you say “I love you!” to your loved ones. Has your “I love you!” changed to “I love you.”? When that happens, your loved ones may start to think “I love you?” You can only maintain the “I love you!” with a compassionate and love heart and mind. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 107: Treating loved ones with constant anger and criticism because of your personal insecurities may leave you with an empty heart, an empty home, and empty arms. Change you anger to compassion and your criticisms to understanding before it is too late for you in any relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 108: Trying to control your partner through criticism does not bring them closer, but actually pushes them away. Start an inward journey to understand the true reasons behind your criticism. Turn those negative criticism into positive expressions of love. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 109: When your loving relationship becomes an anticipated combat zone, it is time for both of you to re-evaluate your approach to issues in your relationship. It is time to reset your priorities and to reflect on how and why the both of you began your partnership. Relationships may become conflicted because of external events and desires. Rekindle the fire of your loving relationship by examining the effects of external desires. Refocus on you and your partner’s needs. Seek only external things that will enhance your relationship and reject those that will potentially bring conflict to your union. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 110: When your partner keeps trying to please you and you only look for ways to reject those loving gifts, your relationship is moving down the path to failure. Reflect on why you reject those gifts that are given to you with love. Rejection and anger are signs of communication failures within the relationship, so it is time for you to discuss your concerns with your partner. It is time for clarification and refreshing your relationship bonds. EmilKoval©2012

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 205

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (111 TO 120)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 111: Empower your partner by communicating compassionately with him/her with well chosen inspiring words and actions. Remember that one word spoken in anger in one second can cause a wound that may take years to heal. Remember that your partner knows you better than your owm mother does. Be loving and compassionate to those who know your intimate secrets. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 112: Remember that your partner accepts you with all your flaws, noises, and emotions as your body and mind changes with age. If your eye wonders to another, remember that other person sees only the best projection of you. They do not truly see your flaws and hear the interesting sounds your body may make, which may cause them to reject you. It is better to rekindle your relationship with your present partner who knows more about you than your mother does. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 113: When your relationship is based on preferences, there are many opportunities for compromise and growth. When your relationship is based on expectation, there is the danger that those expectations will turn into demands which diminishes opportunities for compromise and increases the opportunity for serious conflict. When you replace your expectations in a relationship with preferences, you are expressing your compassion, love, and respect for your partner. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 114: There are three basic types of expectations: fundamentals of relationship expectations, behavioral expectations, and value expectations. The fundamentals of relationship expectations center around your marriage vows, your financial plans, and your parental goals. behavioral expectations should be turned into preferences so that the relationship can have reasonable flexibility. Your values expectations should be based on moral, cultural, and spiritual values. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 115: Sit down with your partner and discuss both of your expectations and preferences in your relationship. If your expectations start turning into conflict, turn them into preferences to restartthe discussions. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 116: Each partner should create a list of five expectation that they have, and then sit down and discuss each other’s expectations. If you have hard expectations that are turning into expectant demands, you may want to rethink them and turn them into preferences. That will allow compromises based on mutual compassion and love for each other. Do this periodically to maintain balance and harmony in your relationship. emilkoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 117: If you are in a controlling relationship, you have to first look at your cultural and religious norms in your relationship. If you are the controlling one, then ask yourself why you need to control your partner instead of loving and respecting him/her. You and your partner have a interesting and challenging path together. Just be ‘you’ in a compassionate way within the norms of your culture and your faith. You and your partner were born into your situation for the lessons you both need to learn in a cooperative loving way. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 118: When a relationship starts to enter an abusive stage, it is usually a reaction to the fear of losing the relationship. It is an indication that the yin and yang of that relationship is out of balance. It is time to express your love and concerns in a dialog with you partner to reduce the negative trend it is on. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 119: When you believe that love once found is here forever, your relationship will become stagnant and will lead to taking your relationship for granted. Love is an action verb which requires constant loving interaction between a couple which will increase their physical and spiritual togetherness. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 120: Getting married is the beginning of a long interactive journey of couple relationship. Do not expect it to proceed on autopilot. If you do, it will crash into the mountain called “neglect.” The first year or two of your marriage is the journey of discovering and accepting each other’s positives and negatives. The rest is meeting each challenge to the relationship with mutual loving compromises. EmilKoval©2012

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1121 FEB 17, 2024

Beautiful Friday Morning With Warm Breezes

Bees And Squirrels Catching My Camera’s Eye

Such A Meditative Reflective Day With My Brew

The Solitude So Peaceful With No News Feeds

As I Peruse The Pages Of My Personal Library

So Many Thought Adventures To Experience

New Wondrous Adventures On A Daily Basis

Me, Myself, And I Together With Mother Nature

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 16, 2024

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QUESTION 10721: Can you name one thing better than money?

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 16, 2024

Universal Truth 2156: I think God is on Earth, inside every living being. What we call “the divine”, is none other than the energy of awakening, of peace, of understanding, and of love, which is to be found not only in every human being, but in every species on Earth. — Thich Nhat Hanh

Universal Truth 2157: ‘If you have to choose between being kind and being right, choose being kind and you will always be right.” — Unknown

Universal Truth 2158: “Never underestimate the power of stupid people in a large group. — George Carlin

Universal Truth 2159: Never beg for a relationship. Be brave to accept the one who really wants to be with you… And reject the one who just pretends to be with you… — Awesome Quotes

Universal Truth 2160: I’m not intimidating, you’re intimidated. There’s a difference. I’m not mean, nor aggressive, I am honest & assertive and that makes you uncomfortable. And it’s not ME that makes you uncomfortable, my PRESENCE challenges your comfort. I will not be less for you to feel better about yourself. —Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 202

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (81 TO 90)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 81: When you are facing a failure in your relationship, it may be a cosmic message that it is time to move on. It is how you move on that is your expression of love. Separate with compassion and love while sharing equally what you have built up together. This way your thoughts will be grateful, not bitter. This way your families will not be traumatized and will learn positive spiritual lessons in life. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 82: To avoid your relationship from falling into repetitive boring routines, have random discussions with your partner on how to, with mutual co-operative effort, re-create segments of your relationship. They may be the re-newing or re-affirming the goals, the commitment, and the vows of your relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 83: When you look into the eyes of your child/children you can see the fruits of you and your partner’s relationship. How you handle your relationship with your partner will affect the fruits (children) of your relationship spiritually, mentally, and physically. When you nourish your relationship with your partner, you will affect the lives of all those around you. Always foster your mental, physical, and spiritual love with your partner.EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 84: The year is ending, and it is time for you and your partner to confer and assess your personal and partnership goals, your personal and partnership needs, and your relationship over the past year. Together evaluate your social, emotional, physical, and spiritual accomplishments and together plan a course of action to make the new year even better in all those areas. Your spiritual growth together is essential to both of you and all your loved ones around you. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 85: Instead of ending the old year and welcoming the new year with noisy drunken parties, you and your partner can spend the last fifteen minutes of the old year and the first fifteen minutes of the new year in a partnership enhancing event. For example: A symbolic cleansing of the mind, body, and soul in a jacuzzi, shower, or bath while ending the old year and welcoming the new year. You may also do a ‘couple’ moon viewing, a ‘couple’ star viewing, or a ‘couple’ meditation to do a couple cleansing of the mind, body, and soul. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 86: For the spiritual enhancement of your relationship, end the old year and begin the new year in your faith’s spiritual rituals. As an expression of a spiritually loving couple, you do it in a couple prayer event, visit your faith’s sites, or as a couple bring food, compassion, and warmth to those in need. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 87: After the new year’s guests and party goers have left, you and your partner should clean up together with shared responsibilities. When all is done, reflect on what the past year was, and then reflect on what you, as a couple, would like the present year to be. Together, with compassion and love, start to de-clutter things and people that do not have a positive effect on your relationship. Build a stronger physical and spiritual bond between each other. Be the mentors of what a truly loving relationship should be. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 88: Celebrate each wedding anniversary with a honeymoon weekend or a honeymoon week. Employ a different music group each anniversary to sing your favorite songs. One year use a barbershop quartet, another year use a mariachi group, another year a classical quartet; both of you should use your collective creativity to celebrate your togetherness. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 89: You and your partner have come together to dance through the issues of life. Why not strengthen your relationship by learning to dance together physically, mentally, and spiritually. This is a great tool for developing couple unity. How you dance together should be based on your dancing ability as a couple, not on other people’s approval of your dancing ability. Both of you must live your life based on your perceptions of you, not on the perceptions of others. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 90: Dancing with your partner is a great mental, physical, and spiritual unifier. It helps to enliven the energy and coordinate the mental, physical, and spiritual functions of the relationship. EmilKoval©2012

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 203

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (91 TO 100)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 92: Making enduring compromises with your partner requires a mutual clarity of issues, a mutual sense of fairness, a mutual comprehension of each other’s needs, and amiable solutions. Your relationship requires truly mutual compromises between you and your partner to maintain the sanctity of your relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 93: If you refer to your home, family, and children as “my __________”, then it is time to reflect on your perception of “my _____.” Consciously include your partner by changing “my ______” to ‘our home’, ‘our family’, and ‘our children’. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 94: Make a collection of your partners favorite music and a collection of songs that represents your togetherness. Keep those collections available so that you and your partner can share those loving and caring memories. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 95: As a couple, you and your partner can explore another language, culture, food, music, and dances for a determined period of time. This will be an interesting creative step in relationship enhancement; a wonderful adventure to jointly discover another culture’s language food, music, and dance while strengthen your mental, physical, and spiritual relationship bonds. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 97: The power of love that comes from you and is shared with your partner is a touching of each other’s souls which could make a spiritual difference in both of your lives on this level. A gentle touch, a caring smile, kind and compassionate words, and a gentle loving hug can make a difference in your and your partner’s lives, as well as in the life of your relationship. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 98: When you can recognize the various aspects of your own character and your partner’s character, you will find more ways to love and respect each other. By focusing on those different characteristics at different times you will find more ways to enhance your relationship physically, mentally, and spiritually. EmilKoval©2012

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 99: Both you and your partner must break out of the original mold that your relationship was molded in. Just as life is constantly changing, your relationship needs to grow beyond its original form. A physically, mentally, and spiritually healthy partnership will grow beyond its original form. A true expression of love is to grow, adapt, and enhance the togetherness of your oneness. EmilKoval©2012

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Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1120 FEB 16, 2024

Beautiful Blue Skies With Puffy White Clouds

San Fernando Valley Blessed By Mother Nature

Plum Tree Beautiful White Blossoms Everywhere

So Many Bees Seeking The Blossoms Elixir

Tree Squirrels Dancing Among The Branches

Colorful Leaves Contrasting Against Black Mulch

Soon The Cherry Blossoms Will Soon Appear

Resurrection Of Nature’s Trees, Creatures, And Flora

Avians Returning Announcing The Arrival Of Spring

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 15, 2024

Posted in 1 on February 14, 2024| Leave a Comment »

MY THOUGHT 24012

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QUESTION 10718: Which generation did come from?

A. Did you come the “If you quit crying, I’ll buy you something generation?” or

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 15, 2024

Universal Truth 2151: “Any book worth banning is a book worth reading.” — Isaac Asimov

Universal Truth 2152: Making mistakes is better than faking perfection. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2153: The best LOVE is the one that makes you a better person, Without changing you intosomeone other than yourself. —Unknown

Universal Truth 2154: “| no longer identify as a conspiracy theorist. You may now refer to me as ‘That guy was right all along.” — KEVIN SORBO Actor, Director

Universal Truth 2155: “It does not take many words to speak the truth.” — Chief Joseph

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 200

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (61 TO 70)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 61: If you are looking for a relationship and your potential partner is not, thank him/her for the experience and move on with gratitude. You have been given the gift of seeing what you potentially would like and a warning about what you would not like. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 63: Do you love your partner or are you in love with your partner? When you love someone, you are affectionately attached to that person. When you are you in love with your partner you are spiritually, emotionally, and physically attached to your partner. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 64: A true expression of your love for your partner is not to stereotype him or her. Recognize that within each partner there is a feminine and masculine side. the balance between the yin and yang of each partner makes each partner unique. Focus on the yin and yang of the relationship, not the individual. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 65: Compromising with your partner does not mean surrendering to you partner’s will. Compromising means respecting each other’s individuality and uniqueness, as well as the sanctity of the relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 66: When you have an issue with your partner, do you try to compromise with your partner, or do you negotiate with your partner? Remember that true compromising is based on making reasonable requests of each other that are mutually beneficial to a loving relationship. Negotiations start with unreasonable demands which eventually turns the relationship into a contractual relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 67: Loving someone is never a mistake. The only mistake is not learning and growing from the positives and negatives of a relationship. Each relationship is a cosmic lesson to learn from. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 68: When you feel you need to control your partner and your relationship, you will diminish the uniqueness of your partner as well as your relationship. Express your affection through mutual compromises that create a win-win for you, your partner, and most of all, for the relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 69: When you are about to let discussions or disagreement escalate into arguments, take the time to re-focus on mutually beneficial discussions on your pending issues. Arguments only result in win-lose or lose-win situations which are detrimental to the relationship as a whole. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 70: Remember that arguments create resentments, inflexibility, and blame; all of which are detrimental to any relationship. Focus on a harmonious relationship between you and your partner. this will not only benefit you and your partner, but will be a blessing to your children, family members, and your community. EmilKoval©2011

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 201

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (71 TO 80)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 71: Each partner has special skills that they bring to the relationship. When situations arise there should be mutual cooperative discussions which will allow the partner with that skill to make the final decision. Shared control is optimum and knowing when to release control is essential to cooperative partnerships. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 72: Your priorities in relationship should be you, your partner, and your children. when you are happy, your partner and your children will be happy. When you and your partner are mutually happy, it is beneficial to your children. If you and your partner have an adversarial relationship, it will be detrimental to your children. Remember that you and your partner are the primary role models for your children. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 74: When you create a relationship based on blaming your partner or others, it is no longer a loving relationship. When you realize that all problems are a shared responsibility, you are open to a truly loving relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 75: Truly loving parents will switch roles and responsibilities so that they can appreciate each others tasks and to be ready to take over if one partner becomes temporarily or permanently incapacitated. That is a true expression of love and responsibility for their relationship and their children. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 76: A loving relationship is not steeped in a battle of the sexes. It is based on a continuous effort to balance the yin and yang of a loving cooperative relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 77: Your relationship with your partner should be your refuge from the problems of your outer world. Not another battleground to fight on. Make sure that you and your partner make your home a sanctuary for both of you to nourish and re-energize your spiritual bonds. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 78: It is better to marry someone you like, but do not love than to marry someone you love, but do not like. Do not let physical attraction determine your love, for that will fade in time. When you are with someone you truly like, a truly loving relationship can and will grow. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 79: Marriage should be a life partnership with respect for each other’s strengths and shortfalls. Today many relationships have become relationships of convenience. Make sure you are ready for a life commitment by understanding the inner needs of you and the inner needs of your potential partner. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 80: Do you perceive problems or tensions between you and your partner as personal treats, or do you perceive those problems or tensions as personal challenges to re-create or renew your relationship with your partner? EmilKoval©2011

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1119 FEB 15, 2024

Commercial Day For Candy And Flowers Has Passed!

Days To Express Cherished Love Continues Heartily

Loving Togetherness Relationships Continue To Grow,

Loving, Caring, And Sensitive Souls Time To Flourish

True Relationships Radiate Loving Encouragement

Cherish Your Togetherness Radiating Love To All

Are Alone Today? Seek Mother Nature’s Embrace!

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 14, 2024

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MY THOUGHT 24006

MY THOUGHT 24007

MY THOUGHT 24008

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UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 14, 2024

Universal Truth 2146: Family is not about blood. It’s about who’s willing to hold your hand when you need it the most. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2147: Life is like a cloud, passing through the sky. The cloud will vaporize into nothingness. But you are the sky. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2148: People only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Remember this and be free. — Johnny Depp

Universal Truth 2149: Don’t judge people by where they live. Sometimes there is more love in that little home than you would find in a mansion. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2150: They who achieve the state of equality conquer the whole world within the mortal life itself. —Bhagavad Gita

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 197

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (31 TO 40)

MY THOUGHTS 2312

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 31: Many today emphasize the physical instead of the spiritual aspect of a relationship. Choosing a partner should be based on wise choices not on emotional choices. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 34: Balancing your giving and receiving expresses the quality of your love for your partner. As you give with love and compassion, you must also receive with love and compassion. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 35: When you change your introduction of your partner from ‘my man’ or ‘my woman’ and ‘my husband ______’ or ‘my wife ______’ to “(Name) _______, my life’s partner”, you are expressing your continuing love and respect for your partner as an individual. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 36: When you change “This is my wife / husband ________” to “this is _________, my husband/wife”, you express the importance of your partner’s individuality over his/her position in the relationship. Better yet, introduce your partner as “this is _________, my partner in life. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 37: When you meet with your partner, do you usually greet him/her with I love you!” silently, in your mind, are you saying A/ I love you!”, B/ “I love you.”, or C/ “I love you?”. If it is the later two, it is time to re-focus on your and your partners needs to re-connect with him/her and re-establish your relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 38: Live each day with your partner as if it were the only day you have together. Living the ‘now’ of your relationship will foster a long and happy life because you live in the now of each other. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 39: Never ask your partner to change to accommodate you. Support each other’s individuality while expressing your love by making mutual positive adjustments to your togetherness. EmilKoval©2011

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CONTEMPLATION NOTES 198

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (41 TO 50)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 43: As you grow and change in your relationship, you should feel free, with mutual consent, to adjust your original marriage vows to the present conditions of your relationship. Any re-evaluation of the focus of your relationship could also require readjusting your marital vows. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 45: When your partner has doubts, thoughtfully and compassionately discuss those doubts. If those doubts are not resolved, then with a true expression of love allow her/him to go with compassion and understanding. It is time to move on to your next stage in your life. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 46: Your partner is a reminder that you are a unique entity in a partnership that is a testing ground for cooperative efforts in expressing mutual spiritual love. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 49: Always express and nourish one’s love and gratitude to one’s partner. If neglected too long, your partner will seek nourishment and love from another source. An extremely profound karmic choice on one’s dharmic path. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 50: You can learn to express you love for your partner by learning to communicate effectively, not emotionally. Most important is attentively listening. When you respond, respond with non-judgement compassionate responses. Never respond with “yes, but _______.”, which can create conflict. EmilKoval©2011

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 199

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (51 TO 60)

MY THOUGHTS 2404

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 51: WHEN YOU DO RECOGNIZE THAT THEre ARE DIFFERENCES IN COMMUNICATION SKILLS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER, YOU CAN EXPRESS YOUR MUTUAL LOVE BY LISTENING AND COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2408

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 52: TO MAINTAIN A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP, THE VOCABULARY TOOLS ARE WE, US, AND OUR. TO MAINTAIN A FAILING RELATIONSHIP, THE VOCABULARY TOOLS ARE I, ME, MINE, YOU, YOUR, AND YOURS. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2412

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 53: COMPROMISING IN A RELATIONSHIP MEANS THERE IS A MUTUAL ACCEPTANCE OF IDEALS AND CHANGES.IT DOE NOT MEAN SURRENDERING TO ANOTHER’S WILL.WHEN YOU TRULY COMPROMISE, YOU ARE SPIRITUALLY BONDING AND ADJUSTING TO CHANGES IN A MATURE AND LOVING WAY. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 55: MUTUALLY SEEK WIN-WIN COMPROMISES WITH YOUR PARTNER WHEN THERE ARE POTENTIAL CONFLICTS. FIND THE BALANCE (NEUTRAL ZONE) OF THE YIN AND YANG OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. CONFLICTS ARE POTENTIAL RENEWAL POINTS. EmilKoval©2011

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MY THOUGHTS 2428

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 57: A RELATIONSHIP HAS THREE SIDES: YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL, YOUR PARTNER AS AN INDIVIDUAL, AND BOTH OF YOU AS A COUPLE. THIS MUST BE KEPT IN BALANCE BY BOTH PARTNERS. ANY ATTEMPT AT CONTROL BY ONE PARTNER CREATES A NEED FOR ESCAPE BY THE OTHER PARTNER. WHEN BOTH UNDERSTAND THE TRILOGY, THE RELATION WILL BE SUCCESSFUL. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 58: CONFLICTS WILL HAPPEN IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. IT IS HOW PARTNERS RESOLVE THOSE CONFLICTS THAT IS IMPORTANT. THERE WILL BE CONFLICTS UNTIL BOTH PARTNERS’ SPIRITS ALIGN. WHEN THEY DO, THERE WILL STILL BE DISAGREEMENTS, BUT NOT SO SERIOUS. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 59: RELATIONSHIPS FOLLOW A PROGRESSIVE PATH. FIRST YOUR PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL WORLD WILL CONNECT WITH FREQUENT ADJUSTMENTS. THEN YOUR SPIRITUAL WORLDS WILL ALIGN WITH LESS FREQUENT ADJUSTMENTS. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 60: WHEN YOU FEEL INSECURE IN A RELATIONSHIP, IS IT A PERSONAL PROBLEM BASED ON EITHER FEAR OR LOSS, OR IS IT BASED ON SIGNS OF BETRAYAL? ONLY YOU KNOW THE ANSWER. THE SOLUTION IS TO GO INWARD AND RE-EVALUATE YOUR FEELINGS OF TRUST FOR YOU AND FOR YOUR POTENTIAL PARTNER OR YOUR PARTNER. EmilKoval©2011

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1118 FEB 14, 2024

A Beautiful Commercial Day For Candy And Flowers!

A Day To Express True Love Or Cover Up False Love!

For Those In Loving Relationships, “Happy Togetherness”

For Those In Deceptive Relationships “Karma Is Waiting”

Human Souls Are Loving, Caring, And Sensitive!

True Relationships Radiate Hope And Universal Love

If You Have True Love, Cherish It, Not Trash It

If You Are Alone Today, Seek Mother Nature’s Embrace!

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 13, 2024

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MY THOUGHT 24001

MY THOUGHT 24002

MY THOUGHT 24003

QUESTION 11058: Where is the one place you have traveled to that you would tell everyone to go to at least once in their life?

MY THOUGHT 24004

QUESTION 11059: Do you always end the night with a positive thought no matter how hard the day has been? Do you realize that there is always a reason to be grateful and that tomorrow is a fresh start? EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 24005

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 13, 2024

Universal Truth 2141: You know what you do when something doesn’t work out for you; You move. You move forward, You move up, You move on. — Amanda Blair

Universal Truth 2142: People who play roles will eventually forget their lines. Pay attention. — F CarlosDominguez

Universal Truth 2143: “Not everyone deserves to know the real you. Let them criticize who they think you are.” —Unknown

Universal Truth 2144: Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.” — Albert Einstein

Universal Truth 2145: I was quiet, but I wasn’t blind. I notice everything. — Unknown

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 194

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (1 TO 10)

MY THOUGHTS 2192

EXPRESSING LOVE 01: Write love notes to your partner in self-addressed envelopes. Ask friends who live in different states or countries to randomly mail them for you. Unexpected expressions of love are truer than expected expressions of love. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2196

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 02: Buy some roses. cut off the flowers and put them in a bowl of water. Present the thorny stems to your partner and say, “This is life without you!” then present the bowl of rose and say, “This is life with you!” EmilKoval©2011

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CONTEMPLATION NOTES 195

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (11 TO 20)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 12: Change traditional gender roles to shared gender roles as a celebration of your togetherness. Sharing gender roles should be adjusted to the needs of the sharers, which is a true expression of shared love. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2240

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 14: Have a plan that you both mutually agree on as to when to turn off all electronic devices and communication devices that you both have in order to spend quality time together. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 15: Be supported of the changes in each other and in the relationship as a whole. Turn each other’s negatives into positives so that the relationship can grow beyond its present potential stagnation. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 16: Have discussions with your partner periodically to evaluate your professional, personal, social, and family lives. Maintaining a cooperative balance is paramount. remember to discuss, do not dictate. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 17: Get up an hour earlier in the morning, have a cup of coffee, and relax with your partner while discussing the day ahead for both of you. Once you start doing this, your days will be less stressful and more rewarding. Another benefit is that understanding partners will greet each other at the end of their workday with love and understanding. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 18: Depending on your time restraints, discuss with your partner how much personal private time you can give each other each day to be your individual selves. The time could be used for reading, meditation, exercising, or just reflecting on your own spirituality. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 19: Nurture each other’s love and enjoy the full blossoming of that love whenever it is in full bloom. Thus, you can truly savor the sensations, the fragrance, and the spiritual oneness of that moment. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2268

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 196

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE by EMIL KOVAL (21 TO 30)

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 23: Be patient, supportive, and flexible when inevitable changes happen to or within your partner. Embracing and adapting to changes within each other expresses a truly loving relationship. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 25: Set parameters where you and your partner can have real lone time together with no interference from others. Likewise, you and your partner should allow each other separate personal private lone time to pursue personal goals. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 26: Love is not stagnant. It is a growing process. Every time you encounter your partner, there is a slight variation and intensity of feelings. Be open to new experiences and growth that you and your partner can share intimately. EmilKoval©2011

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EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 28: Instead of putting a lot of over-time for material needs, put some over-time at home with your partner for emotional and spiritual needs; a true expression of love for one’s partner. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2304

EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 29: Decide to jointly take massage lessons so that you can give each other physical massages to ease your physical pains and to relieve each others daily stress. You can also give each other massages for physical pleasures. Enjoy your togetherness. EmilKoval©2011

MY THOUGHTS 2308

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1117 FEB 13, 2024

A Clear Blue Sky Cloudless Sky Monday

Gentle Breezes Creating Harmonic Sounds 

As I Meditate On Mother Nature’s Gifts

While Sipping My Usual Morning Coffee

The Solitude Of Senior Self-Reliant Orphan

Mother Nature’s Presenting Me With Flowers

On This Warm Gentle Breezy Presidents Day

Friendly Squirrels Keeping Me Company

Gratefully Accepting Mother Nature’s Gifts.

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 12, 2024

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MY THOUGHT 23996

MY THOUGHT 23997

MY THOUGHT 23998

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MY THOUGHT 24000

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 12, 2024

Universal Truth 2136: I was RAISED!! I didn’t just grow up. I was taught to speak when I enter a room, say please & thank you, to have respect for my elders, to get up off my lazy butt and let the elder in the room have my chair, say yes sir and no sir, lend a helping hand to those in need, hold the door for the person behind me, say excuse me when it’s needed, & to love people for who they are, not for what I can get from them! I was also taught to treat people the way I want to be treated! If you were raised this way = too, re-post this. Sadly, many won’t because they weren’t, and it shows !!! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2137: Because just like seasons, people change. — Denzel Washington

Universal Truth 2138: You don’t have to move mountains. You will change the world just by being a warm, kind-hearted human being. — Anita Krizzan

Universal Truth 2139: Knowing yourself as the awareness behind the voice is freedom. — E. Tolle

Universal Truth 2140:

Time & Karma

When a bird is alive, it eats ants.

When the bird is dead, ants eat the bird.

Time and circumstances can change at any time. Do not devalue or hurt anyone in life. You may be powerful today, but remember, time is more powerful than you. — Taoist Sage

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 193

KOVAL’S THOUGHTS ON BOOKS (3)

SUGGESTED READINGS (5): I suggest reading The Richest Man In Babylon by George S. Clason. This book, which I used in my classes, offers commonsense financial advice told through the lives of ancient Babylonians. Through the parables of Babylonian merchants, tradesmen, and herdsmen, many of my students learned how to save more of what they earned, how to get out of debt, how to put their money to work, how to choose wise investments, and how to create a lasting fortune. I also suggest that this book be read as a group read with friends and family. You can get a hard copy or a audio version (unabridged). This book should be in your personal library.

SUGGESTED READING (6): I suggest reading Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki and Sharon Lechter. This book, which I also used in my classes, emphasizes the importance of financial literacy, financial independence, and the building of wealth through investing in assets. In Rich Dad Poor Dad, Kiyosaki compares the approaches that his two father figures took toward earning and saving money. While both had successful careers, his father (the poor dad) who had left bills to be paid, while the father of his best friend (the rich dad) died leaving tens of millions of dollars to his family, charities, and his church. This book also changed my second family’s sons perspective on money. It taught my sons to make their money work for them by investing their money and by acquiring income-generating assets. Rich Dad Poor Dad is a great source to understand financial literacy.

SUGGESTED READING (7): I have read many Chinese and Japanese books which have affected my view on life. The Bhagavad Gita of India has had a great affect on understanding the concept of ‘Dharma’. Just as I have explored the literature of various cultures, ethnicities, and the philosophies that have influenced my life’s path; so you should do the same. You should also share with those who are open to sharing. Remember that political correctness has become the first step in mind control. Maintaining your person library is essential to keeping the essence of you.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1116 FEB 12, 2024

Another Clear Blue-Sky Sunday

Soft Breezes Creating Soothing Sounds 

As I Contemplate The Stage Of My Life

As I Sip My Usual Warm Morning Brew

Mother Nature’s Caressing Of My Being

My Eyes Closing In Meditative Slumber

Protecting Me From Life’s Abandonment

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz……….. . . .

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 11, 2024

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MY THOUGHT 23991

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Note: Your grandchild will hold your hand for a little a while, but he/she will hold your heart for a lifetime. If you have a grandchild that makes you proud, let the whole world know. EmilKoval©2024

MY THOUGHT 23995

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 11, 2024

Universal Truth 2131: When you’re a child, you make funny faces at the mirror. When we become adults, the mirror gets even. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2132: No matter how stressed you are, remember how blessed you are! — Unknown

Universal Truth 2133: One day you will realize that happiness is not what your house looks like, but how you love the people within its walls. Happiness is not finding success by a certain time, but finding something you love so much that time itself seems to disappear. Happiness is not thinking you have earned the world’s approval but waking up each day and feeling so at peace within your own skin, quietly anticipating the day ahead, unconcerned with how you are perceived. Happiness is not having the best of everything, but the ability to make the best of anything. Happiness is knowing you are doing what you can with what you were given. Happiness is not something that comes to you when every problem is solved and all things are perfectly in place, but in the shining silver linings that remind us the light of day is always there, if you slow down enough to notice.

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KOVAL’S SCRIBBLES FEB 10, 2024

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MY THOUGHT 23986

MY THOUGHT 23987

MY THOUGHT 23988

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QUESTION 11048: What are you grateful for right now?

MY THOUGHT 23990

QUESTION 11049: Most people are at the age where they are using their phones to document the good times in their lives. Are you at the age where you use your phone to take pictures of labels that you cannot read and use your phone to enlarge the print so that you can read it? EmilKoval©2024

UNIVERSAL TRUTHS: FEB 10, 2024

Universal Truth 2126: “You are much more than you’ve ever conceived. Open up to your inner wealth and to the gift that you are. Remember and Believe!” — Dr. Jo Anne White

Universal Truth 2127: When I was a kid, a pencil was my computer! The pencil point allowed me to print, the eraser was used to delete, and the pencil sharpener allowed me to refresh. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2128: Happiness is not about getting all you want. it is about enjoying all that you have. — Unknown

Universal Truth 2129: Marriage is not about a big beautiful wedding, fancy home, cute kids, nice cars or white picket fences. Marriage is hospital stays, working long hours, fighting through struggles, paying bills, keeping the faith, and staying together thru it all. — Kelly’s Treehouse

Universal Truth 2130: Heal yourself with the light of the sun and the rays of the moon. With the sound of the river and the waterfall. With the swaying of the sea and the fluttering of birds. — María Sabina

CONTEMPLATION NOTES 191

KOVAL’S THOUGHTS ON BOOKS (1)

I suggest that you make a list of the books that have personally affected your life in a positive way. It is best to get a hard copy for you to keep in your personal library. Look for an older version of your favorite books and your sacred texts. You may not be aware that there are many people who want to rewrite your sacred texts and the books you like into a politically correct version. I believe it is important to get yourself hard copies of your sacred texts and your favorite books, as well as, a hardcopy CD version, not streamed, to keep in your personal in the library. If you rely on the icloud or the internet to store your books, you may be surprised when the words have been changed, vocabulary has been removed, or parts have been redacted for political correctness purposes. Political correctness started out as a wonderful opportunity to help those who are ignored or treated badly in society. However, political correctness is used today to control your thoughts and your thinking. If you say one thing that is not politically correct, you will be attacked socially, academically, financially, and political.

Suggestion (1): If you like to read, find a copy of ‘the great books’, find an older version of ‘The Britannica’, and older versions of your sacred texts. Include them in your personal library. If those in power and in control of the media and the internet do not like what you say on social media, they will block you. At least, you have your own personal library to turn to and read to your hearts content.

Suggestion (2): For those of you who have younger children, I suggest that after the first of the year that you go to the bookstores and get the calendars that are selling for half-price. Collect the calendars that are about famous places, famous artist, about musicians, historical places, and of subjects you wish you child to be aware of. Post them around your home in many different locations. Every month make it a ritual to go with your children and change the month on each calendar. Discuss what you see in that famous person, that famous artist, that type of flower, historical place, etc. This is a great learning tool for both you and your children.

Reflective Poem by Emil Koval #1114 FEB 10, 2024

Stormy Early Friday Morning

Short Earthquake Wake Up Call

Midmorning Clear Blue Skies 

Breezes Creating Soothing Sounds

As I Drink My Warm Morning Brew

As Nature Whispers softly In My Ears

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