MY THOUGHTS 2673
WHEN YOU LOOK BACKWARDS, YOU CAN SEE WHERE YOU WERE AND THE CHOICES MADE. WHEN YOU FOCUS ON THE PRESENT, YOU CAN SEE WHERE YOU ARE AND WHAT CHOICES YOU ARE FACING. WHEN YOU LOOK TO THE FUTURE, YOU CAN SEE THE POSSIBILITIES AND THE CHOICES YOU MAY HAVE TO MAKE WHICH ARE BASED ON THE LESSONS FROM THE PAST AND THE PRESENT CHOICES YOU ARE IN THE PROCESS OF MAKING. EmilKoval©2012
MY THOUGHTS 2674
YOU CAN ONLY FIND THE TRUE YOU BY GOING INWARD. YOU WILL ONLY FIND THE ILLUSION OF YOU BY LOOKING AT YOU FROM ONLY EXTERNAL PERSPECTIVES. USE THE EXTERNAL PERCEPTIONS OF YOU TO HELP YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR INTERNAL PERCEPTIONS OF YOU. EmilKoval©2012
MY THOUGHTS 2675
WHEN A MEMBER OF YOUR CIRCLE SUCCUMBS TO ADDICTIVE MATERIALS, IT IS A LESSON FOR ALL THOSE CONNECTED TO THAT PERSON. FOR THAT PERSON, IT IS A VERY HARD LESSON THAT HE/SHE HAS TO FEEL COMPLETELY BEFORE THAT PERSON CAN TURN IT AROUND. FOR YOU AND OTHERS, IT IS TIME TO WALK AWAY AND ALLOW THAT PERSON TO LEARN. WHEN YOU ‘WALK AWAY’ IT PREVENTS HIM/HER FROM CONTINUING TO USE THE ‘POOR ME’ SYNDROME WHICH STRENGTHENS THE NEED TO ESCAPE LIFE THROUGH ADDICTIONS. BE CLOSE ENOUGH TO PROVIDE SUSTENANCE AND DISTANT ENOUGH TO ALLOW THEM TO LEARN. IF IT IS DIFFICULT FOR YOU, IT IS AN IMPORTANT LESSON FOR YOU, TOO. EmilKoval©2012
MY THOUGHTS 2676
EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE 116: EACH PARTNER SHOULD CREATE A LIST OF FIVE EXPECTATION THAT THEY HAVE, AND THEN SIT DOWN AND DISCUSS EACH OTHER’S EXPECTATIONS. IF YOU HAVE HARD EXPECTATIONS THAT ARE TURNING INTO EXPECTANT DEMANDS, YOU MAY WANT TO RETHINK THEM AND TURN THEM INTO PREFERENCES. THAT WILL ALLOW COMPROMISES BASED ON MUTUAL COMPASSION AND LOVE FOR EACH OTHER. DO THIS PERIODICALLY TO MAINTAIN BALANCE AND HARMONY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. EmilKoval©2012